It's time.

yes maam, hit the man jackpot this time and am very happy!!! he is very good to me and for me

so then email me once in awhile sweetie [email protected] 

That' s good.  If you don't want something known...don't share it.  I follow a few simple rules. 

I never say anything that I don't care if it makes it public.

I choose to side with my values.  My loyalty only goes as far as my moral standards and any type of gain, monetary or otherwise is never worth not being true to my gauge of right and wrong.  If I don't follow this rule, I tend not to like myself...self-loathing just sucks.

I am in control of what comes across my screen, no one can hurt me online if I don't give them the bullet.

I never post something that I later go back and retract.  It shows lack of integrity to man up to what I have done. 

The internet if filled with good people, bad people and nutso coo coo's.  I am always aware.

Just a few things I use as a guideline.

 

I never told anyone I was a "c_cksucker."  
Or a "shill."  
Or had "Munchausen's."  
Or a "poor, pathetic, victimized child."  
Or someone who "someone fakes illnesses to gather attention and seek sympathy"
Or someone who "throw someone under the bus, then expect it to remain a"secret"

This was just today.  Here.  On this site.

However -- those are the things that are thrown in my face.

I don't post what I don't want the world to potentially know. 

Refer to the rules of surviving on the internet.  NO ONE can hurt you, you have control over what comes on your screen.  The only one that hurts you by reading what you don't like is you.  This is where the snarky remark about wearing some intimate appearal comes in but I won't say it.


This is what I've seen:

You interact, but you will not make a stand on your values and then they react.  This (and I haven't been there to read so I'm making an assumption) came from the thread where you were asked a simple question and tap danced around rather than standing your ground based on your value system and you answered neither,  yes or no.

Don't talk to those that you don't like...if you do, don't be surprised if that kind of thing happens, especially when you aren't standing your ground based on whatever your values are.  You have made the same mistake some others have made recently.  Your ultimate $$ does not come from advertisers but from the community.  You seem to have thrown them under a bus (or at least that is the perception) and they are just ticked.  Stand your ground based on your values and make a stand.  The community is your ultimate consumer...treat them well....  Show them what you were when you started blogging, before it was income....you've lost that, havent' you.

Thank you for posting TO me instead of AT me.

As for any questions about OH and their TOS -- it's not my business.  I don't necessarily agree with every single rule or guideline, but it's my perogative to post on their free site.

Whom did I "throw under a bus?"  Everything I have read has suggested I threw my HUSBAND under the bus by journaling our life together in the last 6-9 months.  I am very firm on where I stand there.  It is my family.

If I go "back" to what I was when I started blogging -- that's an angry, sick, MM.   That doesn't seem productive?

Blogging has always been income.  I started with ads.

As I said, I've never read your blog.  I don't care anything about your hubby as long as he knows what is being said about his private life....if he doesn't care, I don't care.

When you were angry, the words and subjects were probably easier to come up with.  Being angry is not productive but being in touch with who you are and how you feel right now, might be.  Taking an honest step back and looking at what started a lot of this.

When you see a wrong, speak up.  You have a loud voice (the blog) and you chose to stay in the shadows.  You know if I dare mention it, this thread will disappear so you know what I'm talking about.  My perception is that you did so to protect your income stream....sadly, it was and still is the wrong choice. Your income stream lives and breathes with the community, not with the advertisers.  The thing is, it is your choice.  I've made horrid choices in my life and we all live with the consequences of those choices.  Your life will play out with your choices as everyone elses does.

Good luck hun...when you are ready, you will stop allowing your choices to put you in a psuedo victim role and you will stand as the strong, independent and intelligent woman I know you can be.  It starts with one good choice and builds from there....

Good luck

This is ALL because I didn't speak out about the Facebook postings?

How are OH business decisions related to ME in any way, shape or form?

What if I didn't disagree with social media sharing?  That makes me subject to being calling a shill, c-cksucker and worse?

OK.  I don't try to encourage a following...heck, I'd leave and come back under another name...I don't like being noticed.  You, on the other hand, have chosen to have a blog and to stand out.  Therefore, your actions are monitored and watched.  If you just needed to blog, you could have a private blog.  If you needed money, you could blog about raising kids, being married to a gay man or whatever...

You have chosen to blog about something that is near and dear to your heart.  You have chosen, therefore, to stand out in this community.  When issues arise, you seem to ride the fence and don't take a stand....jump off the fence on whatever and take a stand.  At this point, it can't hurt and riding the fence will only breed contempt.

What you are called is inconsequential.  You give those words power and even more when you post about being hurt.  You put wood in the fire when you tear up threads by deleting your posts.  I have deleted one post here (except to remove any personal info) and that is because I was confused and thought I was posting to the other board (I'm extremely careful about what I post here now).

 "Taking an honest step back and looking at what started a lot of this."

It wasn't anything to DO with me.  I've been scapegoated for OH.  WHY?

You are not a victim, stop acting as if you are and change that dang picture with the droopy face.  You have made choices and now you need to stand with those choices.    You chose to be noticeable and therefore you must be aware of what your actions will bring.  Stop allowing this stuff to incite you to write what you will regret later.  Has OH turned you into a scapegoat or have you listened to some bad advice..blog about it honestly. 

Stop playing the Why Me card, you know why you.  There's an awful phrase about growing something, I hate it but it is appropriate here.  Say what you mean and mean what you say whatever that happens to be.