WLS should NEVER be considered shameful or frowned upon!

First, a big THANK YOU for all your wonderful compliments.  It is weird for me and still hard for me to accept a compliment being heavy and 'invisible' for so long.  But as my therpist always says, just smile and say thank you!!!

To answer Heidi's question, I have five wonderful kids through the help of IVF.  My exhusband is the one with the fertility issues and the only way for me to get pregnant with him was through IVF.  Like RNY surgery, it holds risks, but it worked pretty darned good for us.  Like RNY surgery though even five miracle babies couldn't save my rotting marriage.  I ended our marriage shortly before Father's day 9 years ago when my triplets were just 6 months old and the twins had just turned 4.  I couldn't take the abuse (both physical and emotional) or the infedelity anymore so I woke up and stood up for myself.  I threw him out and bravely went at it on my own with no job, no money saved and no plan.  But, with the help of my family and their support, I made it work.  I went back to work, provided for my children myself without very much financial support from him (his is a serial non-child support payment poster child) and to this day he has no idea who even one of the kids' doctors are.  But that's allright, my kids know who they can always turn to and who they cannot.  

Now, I have a wonderful man in my life my fiancee Chris!!!  God I am still not used to saying that!! LOL  I couldn't have gotten through the last 9 months without him and we still have a lot of stuff going on with the custody of my children.  My exhusband is trying to prove me unfit (which will NEVER happen) and take over sole custody so he can get out of paying anymore child support. Long, Long story but one that will have a happy ending!!!  First and foremost fact is that I LOVE my kids and no one can ever disprove that!!  The judge will see that and we will prevail!

As far as all the WLS HATERS in the world I give them a HUGE middle finger. Not very ladylike, but you know sometimes we have to just state the facts and tell 'em like it is.  People who put down others, for whatever reason, mean that they don't think very highly of themselves so they must belittle what others are doing and stick their noses where it doesn't belong.  I've dealt with it my entire life and ignorant, rude, stupid people are a waste of my time.  I cut them down, put them in their place, and move along.  

Mallisa

Wow you have been through so much, good for you standing up for yourself and your kids.  I did the same thing with a compulsive gambling husband with just one kid, but its still scary and hard when you have never been on your own.  I love to see happy endings, I am the lame person routing for both teams in the superbowl because I don't want anyone to have to go home disappointed, yeah I know I am not the norm, but I like to see the fairytale ending.  Hence the reason I am just sitting on my hands waiting for you to start trying on wedding dresses.  I can't wait, your gonna be so gorgeous!  Congrats on your success, and good luck with the custody thing, been there done that too, it sucks.  You will win!

Wow! You definately earn the title Super Woman here! Tripletts and twins and raising them as a single mother? What judge would not want to rule in your favor for custody?!!!

Congradulations about your new man. I am sure you will make a very beautiful bride!

As far as "raising the middle finger" being unladylike, I think it is highly appropriate (if not desireable!) to let our guards down once in a while and just tell these *******s where to go! LOL!!

Congradulations again!