Why am i getting messages trying to scare me OUT of RNY?

I don't think it's fair having random people messaging me telling me all of the reasons NOT to get RNY because it didn't work for them and they got sick. My mom had open rny in 2001 and i for myself have seen the side effects and good effects from RNY. Suffering at 28 years old with sleep apnea, infertility, self esteem issues, never feeling full, feeling gross in my own skin, harsh remarks from the public, being judged and taken advantage of.. why would i not take the chance at trying to get my life back? Its worth it to me.. ive heard all the horror stories possible... intestine problems, weight gain, too much weight loss, dumping syndrom, excessive vomiting, and many others.. sure it's scary for me right now hearing and seeing all the negative parts in fact it makes me double think my decision for sure but my life has been on a downward spiral with my weight since i was 12 years old when i was 14 i weighed 225lbs! It is scary to think things you relied upon to be your saving grace will no longer be there to save you in time of trouble.. caffeine, motrin, soda, gum, alchohol, being taking advantage of EVERYTHING CHANGES.. this i know my parents divorced shortly after my mom lost over 100lbs thing is she had enough respect for herself at that point to realize she loved herself enough to leave... it took her losing that weight to believe that. My kids deserve a healthier mom not one that is always tired, out of breath, and can't fit on certain rides at the amusement park. Not a mom that has to worry about her kids friends making fun of them for having a obese mom like kids did to me because of my mom. I want to be treated and feel like a human being again not a circus animal like some people make me feel. I don't want to be pointed at and then laughed at i know what that means and it makes me feel sad. I want to have a healthy relationship with food not an unhealthy one like i have had for years.. is my life worth the risk of a few longterm things i will need to give up? ABSOLUTELY! I refuse to be a victim to myself anymore... i know my risks and my benefits and would appreciate people not messaging me telling me why i should not get this surgery and what it was like for them. Sorry just had to put this out there.

Sweetheart,

For one so young, you are very insightful.

I am four years post-op RNY and have never had the first problem.  For an old broad, I look and feel absolutely fantastic.

While I may have made another surgical choice had it been available to me, I have no regrets whatsoever that I had the RNY.  I did the best I could with the cards I had to play with, and I won the lottery.

You hang in there and know that I'm very excited to see you on the losers' bench!!

As long as you're going into surgery knowing all the possible things that can go wrong---go for it! Given your BMI I think you'd do better in the long run with the DS, but only YOU can know what you can and can't live with, long-term.

I'm nearly 9 years out from my DS, and I give thanks every day---no, make that every meal!---that I chose to have surgery.

I agree with MsBatt...

As young as you are, take into consideration your family history as well...NSAIDS may not be a consideration at 28 but at 38/48/58 they can become critical! With the DS, I can take NSAIDS.

But as long as you know what you can and can't live with, do what you feel is best.

Liz

I am so sorry that you have been bombarded by some who are negative about YOUR WLS choice.  Sad thing is we all subject ourselves to possible negativity when we post our thoughts, fears, concerns, & joys to the community. The good that comes from making ourselves vulnerable usually far outweighs the bad. That is what keeps me active on OH.

You definitely have wisdom that I wish I had possessed at 28 yrs.  It took me being morbidly obese from 12 yrs old to 48 before I made the decision to have WLS.  Failing health & a mother who died of diabetes related complications forced me to take a good look at my own future quality of life & longevity.  After looking at the surgery options I decided & had RNY in 2009.  Best decision I ever made concerning my health.  Only wish I had made the decision 20 yrs earlier like yourself.

Stay strong & good luck!

It's just like real life when you get preggers and nearly every woman you see tells you about the 36 hours of labor, the swelling feet, the morning sickness that lasted way too long etc etc. Yet you ask them how many they've had and they had 3 if it was soooo bad why didn't you stop after the first? Oh because you love the outcome! RNY is the same thing. There are a ton of scary stories that everyone wants to share when you make it known what you are doing, yet many of the people would do it again. Some would not, granted. But you have seen first hand with your mom, you know what you are in for. You're here so I'm sure you are educating yourself reading all you can. Just block the people you don't want to hear from and move on. I am relatively new 5 mo out today and the only thing I wish is that I would have done it 5 years ago!

I love your analogy, MrsLitch! Very good point!

Opinions are like ********!!! We all have one!!!..You do what you are comfy with!

Hugs

Donna

I'm sorry people are being rude to you.  I think everyone either falls in love with their own method of surgery and feels it's best for everyone, or some who have had problems are just trying to protect you from their troubles.  Given the choice of any surgery available, I'd go for the sleeve.  Why?  You may find out, down the road, that it's a good thing to have most of your digestive system intact, or at least the normal path.  I have an RNY and no duodenum, bottom pyloric valve, or intrinsic factor in the mix.  I have severe reactive hypoglycemia and spend a lot of my time asleep because my blood sugar falls so frequently, despite my best efforts to eat well.  Asleep is no way to spend half your life.  

You go girl!  You know what suits your needs.  Forget everyone else.

You're not alone.  I'm right there with you - I've got RNY scheduled for Dec 10. High five, sistah!