R U a surgery snob??!!
I am very lucky that my friends and even people who aren't real close have all been very supportive. I haven't had any negative responses (that I know of lol). But then I was EXTREMELY heavy (problems walking very far or standing for more then 5 minutes) and my friends saw that.
In fact I belong to a yahoo bbw group and when I was in the nursing home for a month my one great friend posted in that group where I was and people came out of the woodwork to see me! People I hadn;'t seen in years came from mesa to paradise valley to see me, I got cards and phone calls and even a dozen long stem roses in a box from one girl.
One friend bless his heart, had a friend who did pass away from complications of this surgery and when I was in the nursing home he insisted to his wife that they come see me RIGHTNOW! LOL I don't think he realized I was in there cuz I had atrophy and not dying, but I still love him for it!
I have had 2 friends ask me about my experiences because they are considering surgery. I am proud of the weight I have lost, no matter how I did it. This surgery was harder then ANYTHING I have ever gone thru. So if anyone told me I took the easy way out I would probably GO OFF on them lol.
Robin
In fact I belong to a yahoo bbw group and when I was in the nursing home for a month my one great friend posted in that group where I was and people came out of the woodwork to see me! People I hadn;'t seen in years came from mesa to paradise valley to see me, I got cards and phone calls and even a dozen long stem roses in a box from one girl.
One friend bless his heart, had a friend who did pass away from complications of this surgery and when I was in the nursing home he insisted to his wife that they come see me RIGHTNOW! LOL I don't think he realized I was in there cuz I had atrophy and not dying, but I still love him for it!
I have had 2 friends ask me about my experiences because they are considering surgery. I am proud of the weight I have lost, no matter how I did it. This surgery was harder then ANYTHING I have ever gone thru. So if anyone told me I took the easy way out I would probably GO OFF on them lol.
Robin
If someone asks me I tell them YEP I had Gastric Bypass ...I have had co workers walk right up and ask me about it ....THAT's how I found Dr Simon from 2 co workers ...I get sick of hearing OMG why you were not fat ...OH ok what defines fat ?? lots of medical issues and I was a size 22 and was 132 over weight ...sorry to me that was fat Oh but your pics ...dont show it ...Ok so I knew how to dress ...my Uniform hid it well ...from a size 22 uniform to a size 0 is a BIG change...I have had co workers find me on overnites and flat out ask me for the info and help...I could spend hours talking about what RNY has done for me ...lets just hope they catch me on a good pouch day LOL ...gosh I have missed the boards ...Lisa
My answer to this is.........
What good does it do to tell the person I am divulging my private details to?
Are they a gossip? Are they petty? Are they genuinely interested in me and what will they benefit from me telling them? If it benefits them because they are a candidate themselves I most likely will tell the truth. If they are a friend who is genuinely interested in me I will tell them.
If it's the local gossip at the store who has nothing better to do then forget it.
What good does it do to tell the person I am divulging my private details to?
Are they a gossip? Are they petty? Are they genuinely interested in me and what will they benefit from me telling them? If it benefits them because they are a candidate themselves I most likely will tell the truth. If they are a friend who is genuinely interested in me I will tell them.
If it's the local gossip at the store who has nothing better to do then forget it.
10 pounds loss pre-op
Honestly..... I don't think it was wrong of her to say it was a lot of hard work. Weight loss surgery IS a lot of hard work. I'm brand spankin' new, and I do know that much! 
She just.... omitted part of the truth, lol.
I'm very selective about who I tell.... but I'm also a very private person in general. For the most part, I don't think it's anyone's business. If someone compliments me on my weight loss, I say thank you and move on. If someone asks me for advice (which I've actually had happen a few times since surgery), I'll happily share my story, and point them in the right direction to learn more about their options.
But for the most part... I like my privacy. I don't go out and flaunt my weight loss.... so I don't feel like I'm unfairly taking all the credit for the band's work.
Thankfully, I'm still kind of new to the area... and know very few people... so I don't randomly "bump into" people like I used to before I moved here. So.... nobody really knows the difference anyway, LOL.
She just.... omitted part of the truth, lol.I'm very selective about who I tell.... but I'm also a very private person in general. For the most part, I don't think it's anyone's business. If someone compliments me on my weight loss, I say thank you and move on. If someone asks me for advice (which I've actually had happen a few times since surgery), I'll happily share my story, and point them in the right direction to learn more about their options.
But for the most part... I like my privacy. I don't go out and flaunt my weight loss.... so I don't feel like I'm unfairly taking all the credit for the band's work.
Thankfully, I'm still kind of new to the area... and know very few people... so I don't randomly "bump into" people like I used to before I moved here. So.... nobody really knows the difference anyway, LOL.
HW: 243lbs 
SW: 222lbs
CW: 198lbs 
GW: 140lbs
I'm just a hair under 5'1.
12/1/2009- Third Fill, 7cc in a 11cc band
11/3/2009- Finally under 200lbs!!! YAY!!
SW: 222lbs CW: 198lbs GW: 140lbsI'm just a hair under 5'1.
12/1/2009- Third Fill, 7cc in a 11cc band
11/3/2009- Finally under 200lbs!!! YAY!!
On September 2, 2009 at 3:39 PM Pacific Time, JRinAZ wrote:
While getting my pedicure this morning in my regular little friendly place.....A very thing lady came in. The entire shop was gushing over her and how skinny she looked and asking how much weight she'd lost. My antennae went right up and so I checked her out. She was familiar and i remembered seeing her as a pre-op at one of the groups I had been at.I intended on drilling her but she was in the front getting a mani and I was in the back with my pedi. I heard someone ask her how she lost it. She said it was a lot of hard work!!!! Well yeah, BUT.......
That's when I decided that she didn't want me to "out" her and probably didn't want me to "make nice" with her. I have to say that it bugged me a little. She has done VERY VERY well. I'd guess she is below a normal goal weight for her height.
So what do y'all think?
Is it anyone's business how we "really" lost our weight?
Should be tell strangers everything?
If she remembered me, should she have engaged in conversation?
Is surgery just a means to an end that you move on from or does it become part of your life forever?
Was she a surgery snob?
I honestly had to ask myself some soul searching questions and I decided that "at times" I am definitely a surgery snob! .... I have told some people that I lost the weight on a high protein diet with lots of exercise (lots of truth to that but not the whole picture)!
....wondering how others feel?????
People should definitely protect their medical history from work associates who may have their own baggage and feelings; possibly being counterproductive to your good physical or mental health! NONE of THEIR business!!!!
So, what I learned from y'all:
1. Choose your own plan.
2. Respect other's choices.
3. Remember that no one wants to be sold weight loss surgery unless they are interested themselves and ask the question. .... Remember how we felt when other's pointed out the "obvious" to us before our own weight loss!
4. We do lose our weight through eating well and lots of work! No problem with using that phrasing!!! Determining whether someone deserves the "rest of the story" is an individual choice!
Cheers to all of us; whether we are considered a surgery snob or not!!!! 
Joyce Rny 2/11/03-> ERny 12/26/07-> Duodenal Switch 5/12/2010
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