need to come clean

...........there is nothing wrong with seeking help Ma.  If thats what it takes to get you through then I strongly encourage you to do so.   The fact that you have acknowledged you have a problem lets us know that you are serious about getting on the right track but you just need a liitle support and guidence.

    Ok now for a small tiny amount of tough love.   Go throgh your fridge and cabinets and get rid of the heavy carb stuff and make a trip to the grocery store and fill your cart with healthy stuff.  So  even when get the munchies at least it will be with healthy foods.  I dont know if you have kids/family at home so getting rid of all the carbs may not be a good option....however keep a supply of healthy ,low fat,low carb, sugar free foods on hand for you.  When you get the urge to munch put the food item on the counter and look at it and say ( Yes I am suggesting that you talk to yourself and your food lol ) "self....is this going to help me stay on track or is this food item going to derail me ??? .........am I really hungry or just bored ???"

That was not tough love at all to me...thanks so much..that make so much sense...i guess if im wanting something sweet its smarter to grab something healthy like sf pudding. makes a lot of sense...thanks

My friend admitting there is a problem is a major part of solving it. Please seek the help you need as I lift you up in prayer. May God give you the strength and courage to reach the goal you once thought impossible. I have had my valley experiences but I remind myself that I am suppose to go through the valley not set up camp there.  I am here for you.

thanks so much.... it means more than you know

Ashley,
I am heartbroken to learn of your struggles (no tough love here, just two shoulders).  I too have come to the realization that I have an addiction to food, I actually mentioned it in one of my blogs.  I eat when I'm bored. 

One bit of advice that I've received is preparation is key.  Never leave yourself without the appropriate meal options because you'll make bad choices at the last minute. 

Secondly, don't feel embarrassed about needing to see a therapist, I've been seeing one for  a few months now and if nothing else, it's freeing to be able to unload all of your baggage.  Don't put it off like I did, I nearly had a breakdown one day at work.  Now which is more embarrassing, seeing a therapist or loosing my marbles at work?

Take it day by day, hell sometimes you have to take it hour by hour. 

I wish you all the best.

Thanks..it nice to see that someone can relate....and those are very good tips because lack of prepartaion is part of my problem

((((Ashley))))

Tomorrow is another day. Take it one at a time and make sure you get some help. Talking to someone will help out greatly. Take care.

Thanks so much for responding.....

There are a lot of people on BAF that have been successful with WLS. Along with seeing a surgeon maybe someone on BAF that has been successful can become your Angel. I know Necie did a post about Angels earlier today and there were a couple of people who volunteered to be someone's Angel so there is a good list to choose from.

hmm i thought an angel was before suregery...but thanks ill look into that