Ok here is my question

I don't believe that 1+1=2. I don't believe things are always black & white either. If I throw a punch, I expect that their will be one thrown in retaliation. Ex: the Youtube "church fight." Lol! The "boy should never hit girls" saying is washed out. Some girls are vicious and are capable of opening up a can of whoop azz on a brutha. I know women who know how to push buttons (on purpose). Its open season on Equal Opportunity Kickn Azz y'all! Remember Lorraina Bobbit?? Hmmm...she claimed abuse. She could have just left his cheatn azz, but she didn't she hung around and cut off his peter and threw it in the field! She deserved more than what she got. Azz beatens know no gender now



Hugs!



~Catt~




*every situation should be judge individually*

P.S.gurl! You still ain't had surgery yet??? Lol! J/k. I haven't been on the boards that much as of late. Congrats on ur date! Woohoo!

 You are so crazy Catt. I am like a pregnant woman who everyone is waiting to pop. April 6th Woohoo!!! I will be a loser baby

If he will hit you once he will hit you again.  

My question is this... What role should your family play if they find out you are in an abusive relationship?  Should they roll up with a Uhaul and cart your behind back home?  Or should they let you end up in the hospital 2 or 3 times hoping you make the decision to walk away? 

Now cheating is a more difficult subject...  If you are dating and don't have an exclusive agreement... It's not cheating.  If you are married it's cheating any way you look at it.  You have to look at what you have invested in the relationship and whether its worth it or not to try and work things out.  Do you have kids?  Are you tangled up financially in a way it would be hard to get out?  A good example is women who are stay at home mom's... They get stuck and can't walk away so easily.

My father was a cheater...  I think one of the worst memories of my childhood is when one of his women called the house and I answered the phone.  Did she have to be so nasty in asking to speak to my mother?  My mother got a job soon after that and then my father was gone.  It was the final straw when his cheating ways started to impact the kids. 

I can't tell you how many times women called, showed up, etc. at the house for my stepfather when I was growing up.

And my mother wanders why both of her daughters aren't married and have huge trust issues?!!  I would rather be alone than accept less than 100%.

Thanks for sharing your personal experience Tsu. I think that you hit (no pun intended) on a good point. I think what we went through in our childhood somehow shapes what we will accept from people.  Childhood largely shapes who we are as adults.

NAS-JACK!!!!! Princess what up. When is ur surgery date? I got mine today APRIL 22Nd . Yeaaaaaaa

YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! CONGRATS TO YOU!

I am April 6th so we will be in the same month.

girl this is a great ? I have never been abused but have done some of the abusing which is wrong and I dont believe I would have given myself a 2 chance but everyone is different now cheating at this day and age look I am good dont have time for it . I believe that people can change and sometimes chances are granted but it does all depend on the cir****tances but no one is perfect

Dang Judy you been abusing folks. Don't hurt em girl LOL. Hit me on the BL about your festivities in Boston at the end of the summer. I never been and always wanted to visit.

Tough question.  You gotta take the whole of a person, and their honesty and how you can communicate with them.  Depends on the situation, and what they are willing to do afterward to make sure it never happens again.