Were You Ever Afraid after WLS?

 Thanks Deman!

Oh my goodness....KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! I am going through the same exact thing, Im 98lbs down only 36lbs from my final goal. And losing my weight has left me feeling vunerable and unprotected. It was kinda of like my fat was an armour protecting me. But Im begining to realize that I put on the weight in the first place to protect myself from things that happened to me as a child, subconciously maybe. But Its time for healing. Not only the body but the mind this struggle that were in together is not just physical but it is probably more mental than we know. Complements make me uneasy and I focus now more on the flaws than when I was 301lbs. But I have faith that it will get better, as I pray for God to restore me mentally and physically. I trust that it will get better.
Start complementing yourself every day in the mirror and pretty soon you'll know how much you deserve to be the BEST you, you can be.

 Charlene,thanks I'm glad I'm not the only one...lol I don't really feel vulnerable and I've always been the fat funny friend so my child hood was okay...it's just dealing with this "newness" it feel sorta uneasy...I'm praying it gets better for me as well...Thanks for the reply sis you will meet you goal before summer

Congratulations on losing 117 pounds. 

Many of us suffer an adjustment period.  I think the book WLS for Dummies has an actual name for it.  If I recall, it takes 2+ years for us to reconcile the image in the mirror (post WLS) with the fat person who lives in our heads.  It took at least that long for me.  Be patient with yourself; it will happen.  You'll have a ball when it does. 

 

 Terri I have that book...Iguess i should duust it off and read it again. I hope my brain does catch up soon , but i'm sure it will ...just didn't want to seem ungrateful becuase in no way am I . Thanks Terri

117 lbs is very inspiring!!!  I think because we lose weight so fast it takes a while for our emotions to catch up.  When I came home from the hospital after dealing with the pneumonia nothing seemed real.  Which is ironic because the ICU is no joke.  When I started noticing the scale go down so fast it freak me out.  I was very scared.  But I am not regretful.    Congrats to all the positive things you are experiencing I can definitely relate to a couple things you spoke on!!!  I think it's good you posted this because I am sure you are not feeling alone on this!!!!

 Thanks Candance i know i feel better that I have posted this (weird put true) so i'm sure someone elese felt this way. I'm sure one day I will look back on this and laugh at my self at least I hope so. 

Hey Miss...I do not have that feeling yet and can understand why one would...I have never been lower than a 14 except when I got up to a 14 if you feel me...I do not remember being under 200 while in high school (when weight was something to think about)...Always low 200's... No that I see that I will break through and reach goals I never thought possible I am excited... After seeing you in person I must say that you are absolutely beautiful...YOur pictures are nice but they do no justice...I could not believe how pretty you are...As far as the arms and other parts that we do not like I have no idea...I hate my arms already but would prefer my big arms to a big belly...I guess you have to let the mental part catch up with the 117 lbs that you got rid off...Hold your head up high and be proud...

 Your too kind...I't was great meeting you as well.

Chileeeeeeeeeee..this is a subject that can last all day...I done told you gurl....let her go...but for real I feel ya on that "fat girl thang"..I shop and love to try on clothes..even though they look good I still see all of the imperfections I was always called out on by realatives and ex's...I gues it's just something we have to grow into..Im with Ms.LadyJWB..if you buy that dress you showed me the other day I will get one too and wear my arms out..cuz we sistas gurllllllllllllllllllll..lollllllllllll