OT-How long are you willing to wait???

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First of all....

I WILL NOT LET YOU TALK ABOUT BRUH LIKE THAT....HE'S HAD SOME HANG UPS BUT HEY....COME ON NOWWW.....

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ROOO TO THE QUEESSSS

 

Hey Andrea

Sounds like this question is posed to the ladies, but I'll chime in on a man's P.O.V.

When meeting a woman, if they gave me the cookies on the first night, I put them in the "FRIEND ZONE" and never really persued them any further in a relationship capacity.  Plus it was right after we may have first met and not really got to know each other on a deeper level.  Now I ended up in a relationship with someone that held out and to be honest, that end up not working put as planned, so I ended back at ground zero. Me-ville.

In todays world, we have so many ways of communicating that you can really get to know someone in due time without giving up the goods.  I really respect someone for holding out and now that I'm older, I can repsect the two people who still end up doing something, but still build on something.  If I were in that situation and by time we might end up going there, I would hope we know each other enough that it won't change anything for the bad.  I'm older and much wiser now and if I do get with someone, best believe she won't be a jump off and really worthy of getting some of this bomb ass juice.

Yeah I said it.  :)

ok you said a mouthful give me the cliff notes. You meet a woman and you sleep with her first night out. Is she in friend zone or are you open to seeing if it can go long term?

I'm going to see where it can go.

I don't think any man is going to respect a woman that sleeps with him on the first date or within the first few dates for that matter.  The first thing thats gonna pop up in his mind is who else shes been giving it too....if shes that easy.  I really can't put a time line on it...but I think that you should at least get to a point in which you are friends...and there is some care and concern there.  Has he introduced you as his friend to anyone...and vice versa or is it a top secret thing. Regardless, its definitely important to talk opening about any and all these expectations up front.      

I am talking about my take on starting something that might turn long term.  Has to be more than sex to sustain interest. My own personal opinion and why "I" act accordingly. 

I see your point. Thanks for chiming in.

LOL! I would'nt respect a man that wanted to get with me on the first date either.  I do agree it goes both ways.

You have got to know the type of men you are dealing with...  The men that I know will take it if it is offered... but... will they respect you if you give it up too soon? Maybe or maybe not.  Believe it or not some men do have a timetable in their head of what is too soon, just right or too long.  The problem is they aren't going to tell you until after the fact. 

Back when I was dating I did run across some men who said that they expected something on the 3rd date.  They were not for me.  I've never felt that way about any man at the 3rd date mark.  What I've always been told by men who've really liked me is that they would have waited any length of time that I set because they liked me that much. 

I think 90 days is a great idea because at the 90 day mark you will either be really into that person or moved on.