This is why I need to take my tail to bed...

I really believe that folks say things like that to stir the pot because you are talking preference. " light skinned versus dark skinn" good hair versus bad hair" thin versus fat" or even "republican versus democrats". Those preferences are so deeply rooted that you gotta nod your head and keep it moving when you find someone that don't agree and agree to disagree because neither of you are going to sway the other.

I agree with MM that men and some women do prey on unattractive folks, fat, folks and folks with simple low self esteem regardless of the look if thats the type of person he/she is.

I was told recently that I'm a thin girl I needed to start thinking like one.  I do't agree with the context that the statement was made but I do agree that I am not fat anymore, I can't claim to beat this biotch away with a stick on a daily basis and then defend her in forum. This heifah is gone and I'm going to use the last bit of my life to keep her ass from 'round here ya heard!!

I wasn't lucky I dind't have "curves" I was fat ! Some folks look very attractive fat but fat was NOT a good look for me or on me. I am coming to gripes with the fact that I'm more attractive at 160 than I ever was at 299 and I'm learning to adjust to that  which is  a hard pill to swallow.

There are men who prefer a woman with "a little meat on her bone" and that woman ain't me becuase I have  don't have ner a butt,hip, or breast I'm just slim so if that ain't yo thang (I'm married thank God) keep it moving! I ain't mad at ya there are men/women for every body type if you know he/she ain't feeling fat chicks keep it moving and don't take it personally the same way if I'm in the dating scene and negros don't like "rail thin" oh hell oh well, i know there is someone that I will meet their preference and be so happy with the package and all I'm that bringing to the table.

OK, I've just did my blog for today this was very theraputic for me...sorry for the ramble
 

No you have to get it out. Glad you got your blog on. Let me be clear of course there are unattractive fat people out there. I do not know you could have been one of them. I don't know what you looked like before. Just like there are some unattractive smaller people out there. There are a lottttttttt of ugly skinny people out there. My point is you don't see people walking around saying you know skinny people are ugly right. But they will be quick to say that about a big person. I am a big girl. Right now in the flesh. But people tell me I am beautiful all of the time. Always have. Now does that mean I want to walk around the rest of my days being unhealthy. Nope. I am trying to live. I don't want to have a heart attack young. Or develop diabetes. And when I get to the smaller me. I will always be a fat girl at heart. I will never forget it. And you shouldn't either. That will keep you accountable. Don't forget where you came from because you are one cheesburger away from being right back there. This is a constant struggle that we will have to fight for the rest of our lives.

Yeah I was aiight but wasn't FIONE!!! and there are FIONE thick women/men and some UGLY skinny ones I tell that to everybody that this is not a go from ugly to cute surgery.  My size doesn't define me I didn't want guys who dated :fat girls"that was insulting to me. My husband is not a big girl lover he dated little petite things but we startd off as friends and grew into something more and I love him for that.  It is a CONSTANT internal struggle that everyone isn't privy to see. However despite your preference there is no need to be cruel or mean to something or someone you find unattractive.

 Thanks for getting what I was trying to say. You summed it up perfectly "despite your preference there is no need to be cruel or mean to something or someone you find unattractive"

You my girl!

This was a god blog Princess. Thanks for posting.

It take all kind to make the world goes round.