Tell the truth about your relationship after wls

the one????

Who dis woman, harpo???

When dis happen????

No you did-en go and find you a man and ain't put BAF on notice!!!!!  What up with DAT?????

umm just saw your reply to my post, and ummm what had happened waz...umm...well see, I didn't know I had to give BAF an update.

But seriously I'll hit you up on the BL.

  I'm still waiting on my message - and don't act like you ain't know!  Wasn't you one of the ones on my AZZ about my wedding plans next year being peeped over on R&R????/

Uh-huh - yo azz needs to get to typing..... quick fast and in a mofoin HURRY!!!! 

LOL

my idol!!! lol

Well my reltnship was going good in the begin of my surgery, But now it's a lil ??? sometimes !! But now that we wear the same size....HMMMM

Ok ok - here goes - I had to let some other folk answer before i broke mine out....

YES my relationship has gotten better - because *I* am a better ME post WLS.  I have worked as hard on my mental issues as my physical and all that work is paying OFF!  LOL - I don't sit quiet about things I used to, I speak up about whatever and I no longer feel compelled to 'please at all costs' like i used to - so my relationship is better because I am not spending energy trying to be something i am not - and he love the true me. 

 think my relationship hjas gotten better but it was onthe rocks for a while pre-op until I said let me stop trying to fix this and look inward. Our relationship has had its twist and turns but he and I are both committed to working on it until there is nothing else left to save. I am a "new me" and so I chalk this up to an adjustment period as we learn each other.

My boyfriend at the time tried to talk me out of surgery right to the OR door.  He *****ed the entire time I was a new post op, and he left me when I lost 96 pounds in my first 6 months after surgery.  He had known me for all these years as a big girl and he just could not handle it that I was starting to get the attention he used to get.

Thankfully, I have met the man of my dreams and he loves me just the way I am.

My relationship with my husband is better we had other issues also.  We are in counseling.  He had to realize that I was in a process of changing me.  He could come along or get left behind.  Life is to short to unhappy.  You are unhappy and the other person is not even worrying about you.  Some people think I am slick at the mouth now.  This is not true.  I am more outspoken about me.  Friends have a problem with me where there should not be one.  I am still the same person.  What is wrong with me getting healther?  I still feel like a big girl.  My husband has been great recently. I love him and I am hanging in there.  For better or worse right.  Well thats that.

 Imma chill on dis one and let this post play out.

I will say dis...cause u know I wanna say sumpin'...yo relationships will flunctuate like your weight.