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This is truly a case of  "to each his own." 

I see being able to bridle my tongue as GROWTH.  I can be honest without causing hurt.  "Keeping it real" is another phrase that is played out (IMO).  Also, I try to remember the golden rule. 

****wondering why I can't think about Cookie's tongue without grinning...j/k-lol****

We should make a list of overplayed phrases and words.  But that's another topic for another time. lol.

Good morning, All. 

Yeah I think some people can keep it TOO REAL but most of the people doing that cannot stand for it being done to them.  My personal rule of thumb, however, is "if you love a person you tell them what they need to know but keep in mind that you do love this person so proceed with caution."

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Daps, A-squared. 

You do have a point there.  I wonder, though, about those people who are really vicious with their's and DON'T mind it coming back at them.  Is THAT an indication of where their own heads are?

Daps, D.

Nah.  I don't think that's where there head is at the time.  I think it's simply that you have a lot of hateful, hurtful, rotten to the core people out here, who just can't wait to tell somebody "like it is..."  for whatever reason.  Man, they act like they are at a Comedy Club on stage if they got an audience present.  They love the sound of their own voice so much until they have an oral-gasm everytime they whip out their little soapbox and start telling you "for your own good" something that they think you should know "because [they] don't wanna hurt your feelings but they gotta keep it real witcha..."  Soon as you say to them, "Ok.  I get it..." They'll start up all over again with, "No...  I don't think you do get it!  This is serious!..." and will procede to stab, punch, and kick you some more with their bitter "TRUTH." 

But what I want to know is why is it so fuggin' blunt and to the point when they see it and wanna keep it real with me but when I try and tell them something, they run and tell everyone behind my back that I "didn't have to say it like that..." and now their punk ass is cryin' the fuggin blues because I, the messenger, am now worst than the message itself.

Double-Ayy - Ohhhh how I love thee!  You took the words right out of my mouth!!! 
Then there are those who are just lookin for a fight and someone to 'verbally vomit on'   They are so anxiety-filled that they are like a ballon ready to bust at the least amount of pressure or disagreement.

I also agree w/Cookie. You can say what you need to say NICELY. 

But, maybe they are less mature and haven't put that "watch before their lips" (as the Bible says).  One thing I've really been working on is "A soft answer turns away wrath but grevious/hurtful/mean/hateful/verbal-vomit" words stir up anger".    What good does it do to give someone a piece of your mind? - - - then you're short some. (get it?!) (My Dad used to say that to us all the time)

I'm personally really working on NOT mouthin off, swearin & saying things that I can't take back. It's a process for me. BUT I also know that everyone is going thru their own personal process.

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH TRINA... GOOD MORNING EVERYBODY... 

GM, Vonda. 

Good Morning Dwayne!

Hope all is well.  I personally believe that you can never be too honest, however, it's generally not what you say, but how you say that offends, hurts, causes problems, etc.  You can tell someone that they have BO nicely or you can tell them cruely, how you say it determines if they are going to receive it or not (and/or wash or not...LOL).

On the other hand, I for one am a very honest person.  However, at times, I come off as abrupt , straight forward, etc. (Virgo trait I guess).  I just keep it real, but I definitely use tact doing so.  Now as an adult, whom has feelings also, and knows right from wrong, I KNOW when I am saying something that would/could potentially offend someone or come off wrong.  So, in my daily walk, I practice on making sure that whatever I say, to whom ever I say it, it is done with the best of intentions, etc. 

NOW, when I am mad and pissed off, oh well, IT IS WHAT IT IS.....  LOL

Hope all is well with you and your family...

Kim

GM, Kim.  Long time no see. 

Thanks for chiming in.  You're right in that sometimes it IS all about HOW you say something.   

When I was married, my ex-wife was the type who, when angry, said her "truths" no matter how hurtful basically TO hit me below the belt.  That was fine by her.  After the arguements were over, her way of apology was to say "I was mad at the time".   However, there were times when I would hit right back with "truths" when pushed.  She wasn't one who could take them as easily as giving them.