My Husband

So i made it to my class today and had a wonderful time and learned alot. now my husband on the other hand was very supportive but he got on my nerves at the same damn time.. and the reason why I'm saying this is because all the while I'm listening to the damn doctor he is all in my ear say in to me please don't leave me !! and I'm like wtf ?? now i been with this man for 4 yrs and married for 1.. i love this man to his dirty socks but at the same time I'm like if i wanted to leave Ur butt i would have been gone long time ago .. i mean i have all the confidants in the world be in the BBW that i am . but he feels like when all the weight is gone I'm gonna just up and leave him . i know some women who had just up and left there man cause of the new found confidants that had just came into.. i told him i dont need surgery to bounce on you Lol . or maybe its just that he is insecure with himself  idk... but he is my soul mate and i would never leave him  ! 

so has anyone gone thought this situation ?

I have the same problem with my husband!  I feel like you, I dont need to be thin to love myself!  I still think I am sexy, just a whole lot of sexiness!  I explain to him that weight does not determine how much I love him.  Now my husband is 6'4'', dark, sexy muscle man, educated, determined, just a great catch, and he worrield about me leaving him! 

I told him that I have to focus on me and my health for right now.  I have always focused on him and the kids and put me on the back burner.  I told him I love him regardless, and can't know one come between us unless we allow it.

If you need to talk, please feel free to hit me up.

Girl you are right about that. I guess they forget that it's about confidence in whatever size you are in.

Girl I told my husband that same damn thang. I don't need to be a size 2 to leave....shoot this size 22 got it like that too!

My sentiments exactly, at my size 26, I still pop lock and drop it.....OKKKKKKKKKKKKK.................

Indeed ladies indeed.. lol 

  i'm still breaking necks the size that i'am now so i feel what u sayin sista.

YALL PRAY ON IT . MUCH SUCCESS TO YOU ALL.

Ladies;

All men think this way. My husband was/is the same way. I tell him to be quiet! Size/weight is not the issue its society! Society norms say weight loss = sexuality (promiscuity) but that is not the case. We (WLS patients) do this for ourselves not for anyone else. These men loved us at a size 32 or a size 2, it does not matter to us1

What I do is keep telling him my husband my weight/size wont change how I feel about you. It is sinking in slowly but surely.

Be patient my sisters men are REALLY SENSITIVE! And  INSECURE!!

Blessings~A

Damn Girl , this is deep but at least he's letting you know now that he is insecure, just work with it and appreciate his honesty, and you will be OK, at least he's not like my husband and acting like everything is fine, when in the back of his mind he's scared