SPEAK ON IT: How do you view other obese people?

Dare I even mention the Walmart riders???


That MIGHT be my need to get out of here, pronto.

Hell, I know why I got fat - I stopped exercising and OD'ed and made up for being deprieved of McDonald's as a child... It's my fault, I take ownership - can't blame mom - she was small until well after 2 kids and until her 40's when she had thyroid issues. So it isn't genetics.  Nor am I bigged bones like my dad's side (lil sis got that).

Hell, I qualify to get a handicap spot (but I don't, b/c I'd feel guilty)and when I'm having a fibro flareup, I need a lil go cart to get around Walmart too!  But this big biotch rolling around with Chee-toes, dip, double stuffed Oreos and every fruit cereal and junk food known to man... Meanwhile, I'm leaning on my cart, but it's not b/c I'm fat (if I'm fine, I can walk Walmart), it's b/c I'm sick.  But no go carts for KrayzsexyKool. And I want to push the heffa off, but too damn weak - so I stare at her back as if I have super hero powers and dream of dumping her shyt out on her as I get my weak ass on the gocart grab my milk, corn flakes, OJ, soap, lotion and deoderant. That's in different parts of the store, dammit!!!

I said it!  So talk about me!   But when you're in pain, and if any of you have fibromyalgia, you'd understand.  I'm in pain, I have no room for sympathy.

Off topic, I personally avoid yellow.  I don't want the yellow bus jokes.  Why I felt I had to say that... The Adipex made me do it!!!

Okay, I will admit I laughed just now. I have a very vivid imagination and so I was visualizing you in walmart. Lol! But when you're insane wit pain it is possible to wanna or actually go postal verbally or in your mind. LOL! I total get the fibroid issue. I know too many women with that issue. They miss days of work cuz of it. Anyway, here I am gettin OT. Lol! I ain't mad atcha!

I am not at my goal yet but have shed a lot and I find myself feeling that way sometimes and I just say thank God that I am on my way to a better healthier me.  If the person is acting like a B*tch then I will let them have it.

my son is still very obese.........but not ready to wrap his head around RNY yet.  I feel so sorry for fat folks............it's just a painful journey......and people are so cruel.  I've been there, and I was miserable.  So in my heart of hearts, I have a lot of compassion.  When I see people who act like they don't care, I just don't believe it.  It's just a cover-up for the pain !

This topic is so sad to me....I personally CANNOT and WILL NOT forget how far I've come on my journey to better health through WLS.  I can't forget the disgusted looks people gave me as I tried to squeez into a booth or being made fun of at the club by men because of my size. That was so awful and so painful.  Being fat was not a "choice" I made.  There are alot of emotional reasons why people become obese.  So with that in mind I can't look at other obese persons with malice.  My heart aches for them because I know their in pain.  How dare I do the VERY SAME THINGS THAT WAS DONE TO ME TO SOMEBODY ELSE?!! Just because I had WLS that doesn't make me better than them.  I just can't see reacting that way towards obese people because when I look at them.....I SEE ME.  A woman who by the Grace of God had insurance to pay for the surgery and who survived it.

A woman who by the Grace of God had insurance to pay for the surgery and who survived it.......

amen, amen, amen.....God is Good!!

skinny people hate fat people
and
fat people hate fat people.

thats what i learned from reading this post.

i've been in really great shape in my adult life and i've been really out of shape.  and as i got more and more out of shape, i noticed how the world treated me differently. i was no longer a man, i was a fat man. like the fat defined me.

well, i'm still a man, fat or not. my size never defined me & never will. but thats all internal....the world will always see me how it wants to see me.

which is another reason why i don't really f*ck with the world like that. most people are on some bullsh*t and i'd rather not be bothered.

this post is really wild. a bunch of currently fat or former fat bastids criticizing each other.  what part of the game is that?

Dude - come on now - nobody's perfect.  Do you really think WLS solves basic human nature? 

*I* for one was repulsed by MYSELF when I was fat - nothing changed for me - I just got to stop despising how I looked.  Not that I HATE fat people - that's a bit extreme, but I am not going to say 'oh it's okay - take up half my seat on the plane/train/bus - I really LIKE feeling like the middle of a sammich'. 

One of the reasons we all have WLS is to be healthier, to feel and look better, to be able to live our lives in a different way - the way we see others living it.  Does that automatically assume that once we 'make it' that we must be totally understanding and sympathetic due to the miles we just walked?  Perhaps - but for SOME - the journey to the other side means you get to look back and see the view from a different perspective - and you see what other saw from the same vantage point and you 1 - understand their perception and in some cases 2 - take on some of those views. 

I don't think it's a game at all - it's just people.  If someone murders someone and goes to jail for 20yrs, then gets out and has a loved one of theirs murdered, they might see sentencing and jail time differently - experience changes views in some cases, some cases not - but it's not inherently wrong either way.

JMO

 

don't mind me...i've always had a problem with human nature.

i think most of it aint natural...i think the behaviors & mentalities are learned.  i wish people would unlearn.....evolve.....DO BETTER.

and BETTER by definition is a subjective measurement.