SPEAK ON IT: How do you view other obese people?
LONG POST!!!
Well, I've been on BOTH sides and plan on going BACK to the other side.
Maybe b/c I've never really seen the looks, maybe I'm oblivious... Maybe I see myself smaller (but most never believe I weigh as much as I do).
The teasing I got and that still affects me is I was called ugly. I teased my lil sis about her weight growing up. so much so she's said that karma is a biotch. If that's the case, indeed it is.
I've had friends & family pull me to the side and tell me this ain't you - you're too big, get a grip. So IDK.
But except an airplane incident, I've never been humiliated about my weight. But knowing how it is to be teased, there is no way in HELL I'd say something to them. EVER. I try not to even look or be obvious with it.
But I DO NOT apologize how I felt about that scooter incident. I've NEVER used one. I made do. But I lived alone and that day I couldn't make do. It took me 3 hours to get dressed (got tired) and all the strength I had left to drive to Walmart 5 minutes up the street. But I needed food and I didn't wanna smell myself, so some hygiene items. That day, I needed that cart and made it in my mind to set pride aside and just use it. It takes a LOT for me to ask for assistance. Grandma & Grandpa on the scooters - do you- you've carried a load for years. But when 3 of them were used by super morbid obese people, it almost came to me losing it that day. The Walmart employee was real nice and actually felt sorry b/c I was in tears and it hurt to walk. 2 hours for 5-6 items. Please tell me you wouldn't have been mad!!! Felt like Mack trucks were running me over for fun, joints, muscles hurting. A newborn baby had more strength than me. But I did it, b/c I didn't want to burden my family or anyone. But damn straight - my thought was if you walk some....
So damn straight, Sam - I hated them for that day. And I do feel sorry for them, b/c at my 272lbs, I have issues and can't fathom being 350lbs+.
I'm fully aware the reasons others are obese. But in this case, some people are just f***ing lazy. And again, I do NOT apologize for the way I felt. Nor will I act santimonious and say I've never thought a bad thought - fat, skinny, black, white, martian you make me mad, you make me mad and a bad thought will come in my head. As long as I do not vocalize it to that person or take action, they're none the wiser.
You can have empathy and still think someone is stupid - like most people felt about people in New Orleans. I'm from there - left in 2001. I thought some that had ways and stayed were stupid too. So, if I can think that about my fellow hometowners and FAMILY, WHY IN THE HELL I CAN'T THINK IT ABOUT OTHERS? Bet you think some black folks are stupid. The point of this last paragraph is to say we have ALL felt negative toward someone that is similar to us - be it size, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, whatever.
I'm just saying. I'm not trying to make enemies, nor offend. I just said how I felt and said I felt bad for feeling it. I also said I checked myself. But I speak what I feel and what is MY REALITY. It may not be yours, and I respect that. I just ask that you do the same.
Well, I've been on BOTH sides and plan on going BACK to the other side.
Maybe b/c I've never really seen the looks, maybe I'm oblivious... Maybe I see myself smaller (but most never believe I weigh as much as I do).
The teasing I got and that still affects me is I was called ugly. I teased my lil sis about her weight growing up. so much so she's said that karma is a biotch. If that's the case, indeed it is.
I've had friends & family pull me to the side and tell me this ain't you - you're too big, get a grip. So IDK.
But except an airplane incident, I've never been humiliated about my weight. But knowing how it is to be teased, there is no way in HELL I'd say something to them. EVER. I try not to even look or be obvious with it.
But I DO NOT apologize how I felt about that scooter incident. I've NEVER used one. I made do. But I lived alone and that day I couldn't make do. It took me 3 hours to get dressed (got tired) and all the strength I had left to drive to Walmart 5 minutes up the street. But I needed food and I didn't wanna smell myself, so some hygiene items. That day, I needed that cart and made it in my mind to set pride aside and just use it. It takes a LOT for me to ask for assistance. Grandma & Grandpa on the scooters - do you- you've carried a load for years. But when 3 of them were used by super morbid obese people, it almost came to me losing it that day. The Walmart employee was real nice and actually felt sorry b/c I was in tears and it hurt to walk. 2 hours for 5-6 items. Please tell me you wouldn't have been mad!!! Felt like Mack trucks were running me over for fun, joints, muscles hurting. A newborn baby had more strength than me. But I did it, b/c I didn't want to burden my family or anyone. But damn straight - my thought was if you walk some....
So damn straight, Sam - I hated them for that day. And I do feel sorry for them, b/c at my 272lbs, I have issues and can't fathom being 350lbs+.
I'm fully aware the reasons others are obese. But in this case, some people are just f***ing lazy. And again, I do NOT apologize for the way I felt. Nor will I act santimonious and say I've never thought a bad thought - fat, skinny, black, white, martian you make me mad, you make me mad and a bad thought will come in my head. As long as I do not vocalize it to that person or take action, they're none the wiser.
You can have empathy and still think someone is stupid - like most people felt about people in New Orleans. I'm from there - left in 2001. I thought some that had ways and stayed were stupid too. So, if I can think that about my fellow hometowners and FAMILY, WHY IN THE HELL I CAN'T THINK IT ABOUT OTHERS? Bet you think some black folks are stupid. The point of this last paragraph is to say we have ALL felt negative toward someone that is similar to us - be it size, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, whatever.
I'm just saying. I'm not trying to make enemies, nor offend. I just said how I felt and said I felt bad for feeling it. I also said I checked myself. But I speak what I feel and what is MY REALITY. It may not be yours, and I respect that. I just ask that you do the same.
On April 17, 2009 at 10:55 AM Pacific Time, Krayzsexykool wrote:
LONG POST!!!Well, I've been on BOTH sides and plan on going BACK to the other side.
Maybe b/c I've never really seen the looks, maybe I'm oblivious... Maybe I see myself smaller (but most never believe I weigh as much as I do).
The teasing I got and that still affects me is I was called ugly. I teased my lil sis about her weight growing up. so much so she's said that karma is a biotch. If that's the case, indeed it is.
I've had friends & family pull me to the side and tell me this ain't you - you're too big, get a grip. So IDK.
But except an airplane incident, I've never been humiliated about my weight. But knowing how it is to be teased, there is no way in HELL I'd say something to them. EVER. I try not to even look or be obvious with it.
But I DO NOT apologize how I felt about that scooter incident. I've NEVER used one. I made do. But I lived alone and that day I couldn't make do. It took me 3 hours to get dressed (got tired) and all the strength I had left to drive to Walmart 5 minutes up the street. But I needed food and I didn't wanna smell myself, so some hygiene items. That day, I needed that cart and made it in my mind to set pride aside and just use it. It takes a LOT for me to ask for assistance. Grandma & Grandpa on the scooters - do you- you've carried a load for years. But when 3 of them were used by super morbid obese people, it almost came to me losing it that day. The Walmart employee was real nice and actually felt sorry b/c I was in tears and it hurt to walk. 2 hours for 5-6 items. Please tell me you wouldn't have been mad!!! Felt like Mack trucks were running me over for fun, joints, muscles hurting. A newborn baby had more strength than me. But I did it, b/c I didn't want to burden my family or anyone. But damn straight - my thought was if you walk some....
So damn straight, Sam - I hated them for that day. And I do feel sorry for them, b/c at my 272lbs, I have issues and can't fathom being 350lbs+.
I'm fully aware the reasons others are obese. But in this case, some people are just f***ing lazy. And again, I do NOT apologize for the way I felt. Nor will I act santimonious and say I've never thought a bad thought - fat, skinny, black, white, martian you make me mad, you make me mad and a bad thought will come in my head. As long as I do not vocalize it to that person or take action, they're none the wiser.
You can have empathy and still think someone is stupid - like most people felt about people in New Orleans. I'm from there - left in 2001. I thought some that had ways and stayed were stupid too. So, if I can think that about my fellow hometowners and FAMILY, WHY IN THE HELL I CAN'T THINK IT ABOUT OTHERS? Bet you think some black folks are stupid. The point of this last paragraph is to say we have ALL felt negative toward someone that is similar to us - be it size, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, whatever.
I'm just saying. I'm not trying to make enemies, nor offend. I just said how I felt and said I felt bad for feeling it. I also said I checked myself. But I speak what I feel and what is MY REALITY. It may not be yours, and I respect that. I just ask that you do the same.
Let me play devil's advocate.
How do you know that those 3 morbidly obese people that you hated that day because they were lazy and fat don't also have fibromyalgia, or some other debilitating condition that caused them to need the carts as well?
You didn't know, you stereotyped (which, like I said, it's understandable that you were upset due to your pain, but still .....)
Problem is fat people are ALWAYS getting stereotyped, and that is a problem for me as a fat person and it should be a problem here for all the currently fat and formerly fat persons. For example, I think it's funny how so many have posted how fat people stink, but in real life I've run into more stinky skinny people. It's just that the label doesn't stick to them because there is no "skinny people stink" stereotype. I just think it's sad that we have to be subject to that, and I would hope that fatties and former fatties would be more sensitive.
But I guess not.
On April 17, 2009 at 11:38 AM Pacific Time, Fatoosh wrote:
On April 17, 2009 at 10:55 AM Pacific Time, Krayzsexykool wrote:
LONG POST!!!Well, I've been on BOTH sides and plan on going BACK to the other side.
Maybe b/c I've never really seen the looks, maybe I'm oblivious... Maybe I see myself smaller (but most never believe I weigh as much as I do).
The teasing I got and that still affects me is I was called ugly. I teased my lil sis about her weight growing up. so much so she's said that karma is a biotch. If that's the case, indeed it is.
I've had friends & family pull me to the side and tell me this ain't you - you're too big, get a grip. So IDK.
But except an airplane incident, I've never been humiliated about my weight. But knowing how it is to be teased, there is no way in HELL I'd say something to them. EVER. I try not to even look or be obvious with it.
But I DO NOT apologize how I felt about that scooter incident. I've NEVER used one. I made do. But I lived alone and that day I couldn't make do. It took me 3 hours to get dressed (got tired) and all the strength I had left to drive to Walmart 5 minutes up the street. But I needed food and I didn't wanna smell myself, so some hygiene items. That day, I needed that cart and made it in my mind to set pride aside and just use it. It takes a LOT for me to ask for assistance. Grandma & Grandpa on the scooters - do you- you've carried a load for years. But when 3 of them were used by super morbid obese people, it almost came to me losing it that day. The Walmart employee was real nice and actually felt sorry b/c I was in tears and it hurt to walk. 2 hours for 5-6 items. Please tell me you wouldn't have been mad!!! Felt like Mack trucks were running me over for fun, joints, muscles hurting. A newborn baby had more strength than me. But I did it, b/c I didn't want to burden my family or anyone. But damn straight - my thought was if you walk some....
So damn straight, Sam - I hated them for that day. And I do feel sorry for them, b/c at my 272lbs, I have issues and can't fathom being 350lbs+.
I'm fully aware the reasons others are obese. But in this case, some people are just f***ing lazy. And again, I do NOT apologize for the way I felt. Nor will I act santimonious and say I've never thought a bad thought - fat, skinny, black, white, martian you make me mad, you make me mad and a bad thought will come in my head. As long as I do not vocalize it to that person or take action, they're none the wiser.
You can have empathy and still think someone is stupid - like most people felt about people in New Orleans. I'm from there - left in 2001. I thought some that had ways and stayed were stupid too. So, if I can think that about my fellow hometowners and FAMILY, WHY IN THE HELL I CAN'T THINK IT ABOUT OTHERS? Bet you think some black folks are stupid. The point of this last paragraph is to say we have ALL felt negative toward someone that is similar to us - be it size, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, whatever.
I'm just saying. I'm not trying to make enemies, nor offend. I just said how I felt and said I felt bad for feeling it. I also said I checked myself. But I speak what I feel and what is MY REALITY. It may not be yours, and I respect that. I just ask that you do the same.
Let me play devil's advocate.
How do you know that those 3 morbidly obese people that you hated that day because they were lazy and fat don't also have fibromyalgia, or some other debilitating condition that caused them to need the carts as well?
You didn't know, you stereotyped (which, like I said, it's understandable that you were upset due to your pain, but still .....)
Problem is fat people are ALWAYS getting stereotyped, and that is a problem for me as a fat person and it should be a problem here for all the currently fat and formerly fat persons. For example, I think it's funny how so many have posted how fat people stink, but in real life I've run into more stinky skinny people. It's just that the label doesn't stick to them because there is no "skinny people stink" stereotype. I just think it's sad that we have to be subject to that, and I would hope that fatties and former fatties would be more sensitive.
But I guess not.
And I DID say I feel empathy - on a regular day. On that day, I didn't.
I also said I knew how it feels to be teased - for being the 4eyed nerdy girl. I still carry the scars. So I'm not trying to inflict.
But it was about the 1st thought that pops in my mind. Again, it pops in, it goes out. I remind myself that although skinny girl is inside, it's the fat biotch outside w/ no room to talk about anyone. TRust me, I check myself often - I'M FAT. It's in the mirror, it's in the pain I'm in now from seating, it's my knee, my ankles, it's why I don't last long in heels.
Like I'll see someone and say they're ghetto... same difference.
heck - when I was fat - I cracked on skinny biotches harder than Mon'ique - does that make me any less prone to crack on fat folk? I understand your 1st thought comment - when I am super mad - like getting cut off in traffic - I am yelling 'you ___ bastid!!' and the _____ is filled in with the first visible characteristic that jumps out at me - and if I can't see them, they stupid...... LOL!!!!!
It's just a gut reaction - but, like you, I would NEVER call somebody that shiot to their face!!!! I can fight - but I ain't a matchup to a 350+ lb mofo!!!! now, that 110lb biotch, SHE betta watch out...... LOL!!!!
It's just a gut reaction - but, like you, I would NEVER call somebody that shiot to their face!!!! I can fight - but I ain't a matchup to a 350+ lb mofo!!!! now, that 110lb biotch, SHE betta watch out...... LOL!!!!
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Yep....your first three lines just about sums it up Big Sam......I don't like the FAT me...never have and never will...or I wouldn't still be battling this situation..got to keep going..... One thing that you should keep in mind when reading this post....we are all talking about...our initial impression when we see a OBESE person. We are not talking about what happens after we get to know a FAT person or any person for that matter as an individual. In my particular comment....I should clarify that I have come into contact with some stank azzz skinny people too....but guess what....their size is NOT in most cases seen as the reason for their poor hygiene.
This has been the problem in our society (stereotypes)...we can start a whole list of stereotypes about FAT people..Unfortunately, a lot of people (usually shallow) do start to make judgments based on visuals perceptions alone.... forgetting that people can be wonderful no matter what they look like on the outside. This is why I stand here to say....FAT people UNITE and wash yourself....this takes away one stereotype right off the bat. I'm sorry I know I am being a little silly but serious all the same. Hope you have a great weekend.
This has been the problem in our society (stereotypes)...we can start a whole list of stereotypes about FAT people..Unfortunately, a lot of people (usually shallow) do start to make judgments based on visuals perceptions alone.... forgetting that people can be wonderful no matter what they look like on the outside. This is why I stand here to say....FAT people UNITE and wash yourself....this takes away one stereotype right off the bat. I'm sorry I know I am being a little silly but serious all the same. Hope you have a great weekend.
You're right... there are stereotypes. Which is why I HATE going to Ryan's (not a bread eater, but will tear them rolls up! I can only do a plate and a half it that and not piled high.
I do my best to smell well. (only issue I have had was prior to my chest reduction).
But, hell, I have 4 stereotypes going against me: I'm fat, black, female, & wear glasses... oh #5, I can be loud - not common... voice is heavy.
I do my best to smell well. (only issue I have had was prior to my chest reduction).
But, hell, I have 4 stereotypes going against me: I'm fat, black, female, & wear glasses... oh #5, I can be loud - not common... voice is heavy.
yea, but do you have #6 and #7?
can you sing?
can you make biscuits and gravy real good?
can you sing?
can you make biscuits and gravy real good?

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LOL!!!! and you ANSWERED!!!!! 
but you know that's the stereotype too - that's why I was NOT truly believing Shug Avery in the Color Purple..... too skinny......
you ahead of me tho - i can't sing and can't make gravy either! AND can't fry chicken.....
shhhhh
don't tell nobody tho - they might pull my 'black' card......

but you know that's the stereotype too - that's why I was NOT truly believing Shug Avery in the Color Purple..... too skinny......
you ahead of me tho - i can't sing and can't make gravy either! AND can't fry chicken.....
shhhhh


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I don't eat fried chicken, but I can fry it- been years tho... Blessed to have 2 parents that knew how to throw down, so w./ the exception of seafood, I can potentially cook what I don't eat... I haven't gone wrong yet, but never cooked greens, cabbage, etc...
Oh, I can carry a tune, but my name is Brandy, but the last ain't Norwood. Aint I'm damn sure not Whitney or Mary, but I think I'm better than ole boy Sanjaya was on American Idol a few seasons back.
And the other stereotype - the funny girl...
Oh, I can carry a tune, but my name is Brandy, but the last ain't Norwood. Aint I'm damn sure not Whitney or Mary, but I think I'm better than ole boy Sanjaya was on American Idol a few seasons back.
And the other stereotype - the funny girl...