Co-workers

So I don't post much, but here it is. I went to work today and everyone is telling me you look like you are getting smaller.  I did tell some of my co-workers about the surgery. Now here's the thing. Almost half the woman at my job has lose some kind of weight. However, some of them have lose half themselves and are still denying that they had the surgery done. My question is when you had/ have the surgery done were/ will you/(be) ashamed of your decision? and if so why?

I am not ashamed of my choice and share what I did with anyone who wants to know. I just hate when people ask me stupid questions and then I just give them stupid answers.

I just wanted to say that just because someone chooses not to share the fact that they had surgery with everyone doesn't mean they are ashamed. Personally, I told many people about having the lap-band, 90% of them were negative about it. When I started to have problems I just got more negativity, lot's of "I told you so". So, when I revised to RNY I told almost no one. I can count on one hand the people in my life that know. I am not ashamed by any means but I don't need to hear all the negative right now as I am struggling with this new lifestyle. I also don't feel like it is really anyone's business what I do with my body and my health. Others are not going around disclosing personal business that is in their medical files so why should we feel obligated too.

Now, on the other hand, if I feel that telling my story to someone will help them then I will. I am not just going to tell any and everybody though.

I feel you on the fact that it's noones business. I am just saying that some people at my job likes to point the finger at you and knowing that they had the surgery done themselves.  I do agree with you though you don't have to share it with anyone, but the people you share it with will eventually share it with others behind your back. So to avoid the talking behind my back shiot I just tell them I had it and cut out the shoo shooing behind my back about whether or not I had it. And as far as taking the easy way out comments I will say that no one should have to die of diabetes, high blood pressure, or any other obesity related illness when there is help out there to help get rid of it and live a healthy lifestyle.

I've never been ashamed of having surgery and yes there was several people I've told and wish I didn't because I came tell by people conversation this person has told them. But if I every get the chance of having any surgery leading from WLS I won't even tell her. It's not that I'm shame it nobody business what I have done, it done and I don't want any negative people talking about the easy way out or looking at me every time I don't eat. To each their own if the want to let someone know.  I'm was in a store before Christmas and because my aviator has my picture on it.  One lady pull me to the side and ask me if that was me the was on OH. I didn't lie she just want to talk about surgery and the fact that she had one of the surgery several years ago. And it failed and want to know how I was deal with my type of surgery. And because I'm and identical twin most people they don't know which one I am. I've been ask about stand right their while the are talking to my sister. 

I feel the same way, I am not ashamed of having the surgery; but I do not want to deal with negativity right now.  I am at the stage of trying to get approval from my insurance, and I do not want to deal with haters.  I told this one girl at work, and she had the nerve to say that she heard that my company wasn't going to pay for the surgery because too many people were having it.  I could not believe it.  I went up to our HR dept and the person that was over the insurance, said that was the most ridicules thing she has every heard.  And no the company did not take that out of the insurance policy.  I just think that this person is a hater.  Now I am sorry I ever told her.

Yeah they do have a lot of haters around. I love my tool and if everyone could have it they would not hasitate to get it. I feel you about haters.

Hell naw.  I stand by my decision and when people ask me what I did, I tell them.  No shame to my game at all.  People will always talk.  You're either too fat, too skinny, too cute, too whatever.