Warning - Drama Post

uh, so, ahem, Vonda.  Tell us what u REALLY think....

I just did...

Dang Vonda tell us how you really feel

Andrea... Mama said... NEVER BITE ya tongue because that **** hurts... NEVER KISS ASS cause ass STANK! DONE with this childish **** FOR REAL!!! 

Gotta question for you Vonda, is that why some black men run to other men also?  I am just saying..

LOL... YOU silly!!! 

eeeerch!  pull the deuce ova, i wanna get out. 

I personally think the whole issue arised because of how the message (that kicked this off) was perceived.  That's why the one dimensional nature of messages can lead to misinterpretation. Just my perception mind you but from the outward looking in...Meekie initial response back to Ro...came off almost as mocking. Ro then took it from there with her response...now the mob scene started because "I" believe that folks have been just itching to let the newbies know WHATS UP.... While I know it seemed like a personal attack to Meekie and I know if I were in her shoes I would have taken it this way too BUT I think the larger issue was VET vs Newbies....i.e. You don't have a clue...let us school you. 

As to why Jus got more cuddling...Yes, I think it has more to do with the fact that she came across very humble in her initial message....there is relationships established...as it was more like an exchange between mother hen's and one of the flock.

The even larger issue is that WE are all learning to do this thing each and everyday (VETS & Newbies).  I think that folks should really look at Cookies question and the events leading up to it more like a Learning Experience because lets face it...things could have probably been done differently in both situations. We do need to know whats going to be effective so that we can support each other in the best way possible.  We don't want to run NEWBIES away from the board and we don't necessarily need all this CLIQUISH behavior (The In Crowd)...going on either...we need to be able to show LOVE to everyone.   

If anything productive can come out of this message....I think that WE need to all establish some ground rules...and post them up at the top of this message board so that folks know what they are getting into by posting or supporting on this board....just like in RL...we all need rules to follow and follow consistently. 

MD - now that was some thoughtful shiot yet AGAIN! MAN - you is a thinking mofo for REAL!  LOL

now - while I feel you for MOST of this - I can't cop to the ground rules.  the board is like life - you have sit-chee-ashuns and you work them mugs out.  Two grown mofos can come to common ground on their own or not - their choice.

Now - as far as the Vets vs. Newbies - I don't think we got a 'Beat it' video style turf war working here - LOL but I do think that SOME folk need to let go of the expectation that responses to their questions will #1 - be nice and #2 be non-judgemental.  We should all know that depending on years in the 'game' we have different perspectives, views and whatnot.  Just because you come on here doesn't mean that everyone HAS to be the nice you want them to be.

Hell - Ro's original response had me questioning if someone ELSE who IS nice signed into her account - cause she gets ROUGHER than that!!!  LOL

"SOME folk need to let go of the expectation that responses to their questions will #1 - be nice and #2 be non-judgemental." 


Yep...my point exactly....I think it would be helpful...especially for the NEWBIES coming onto this site to know up front that this is not going to be a cuddling session (Groundrule #1); that if you (Newbie or Vet) are eating shioot  that you are not suppose to eat...be honest but expect some honest feedback (Groundrule #2) etc.... I mean I am sure we can come up with some good non restrictive shioot...The way I see it...it just makes sense because then we are not here next week going over the same shioot all over again.....we can direct the person ------------> over there to read before they come with it!!! Again....I know that I am one that believes in rules though to establish baseline order...thats just me.