The Embarrassment of Weight Gain, What to Do, What to Do

Hey Yall

Since I gained weight I hate going to social stuff and even though I have lost weight since this running thing I still am not where I want to be, as you all hear me belly aching about. 

So I have this dinner party tonight with a bunch of educators who saw me last at my very thinnest.  I don't want to go with this extra weight on me,  I feel so totally embarrassed.   Then on Sunday I have to go to a freaking pool party which I also don't want to go to.   

It is so illogical because i'm only up one pant size now instead of the 3 that I was 5 months ago but I feel so embarrassed,  Becca keeps telling me that no one is going to even really notice and if they do so what.  They notice within the first few seconds and then they accept it and the day progresses. 

OK,  Yall that have gained a little weight, am I the only one that feels this way.   I know I can't be.

unless people are lying to me, no one really even notices my weight gain except me.  You know we are our own worst critics!   I agree with Becca, "so what"!!!  Go to your dinner and that pool party and strut your stuff girl!!!! 

When people say they don't notice I always believe they are lying.    You are so right purpletb we are our own worst critics because I feel huge but my clothes say a different story.

Remember what the Asian lady said to you...you have a sexy a$$!  We are our worst critics or at least I know that I am.

I was thinking about that when I was putting on some shorts this morning,  Look at that round, high, sexy Ass !!!       

I agree with purple -- we are our worse critic.  We are the only ones that are aware of the few pounds.  I think it is a good thing that it bothers us, for it helps to put the breaks on.  Enjoy your outings.

I totally feel ya!

I gained back 20 lbs, yet everyone I see at church keeps saying:
you look like you are still losing...
you lost more weight?
every time I see you, you get smaller and smaller, etc.

I'm thinking I need their eyeballs cause I only see the gain!

I specifically said people I see at church because I was 2 years out when I started my current job so they have no clue how large I was.  My church family knew the 380lb+ plus Valerie.

Go to the party and have a great time. Only you will know the truth and the truth is you have it under control!

Yeah people keep telling me I look great now and that I had gotten to thin before,  that is bull,  I was hot.   LOL.

I honestly don't want to go,  this morning Becca asked if I was going and I said no and she practually begged me to go so I will go for her but I swear if I could get out of it I would. 

Girl you better go drop it like it's Hot and not worry about what other's might not even see or care about!!!

My mom had her WLS and is the same way she complains when she goes up a size in jeans and I really don't see not because she is my mommy but because I JUST DON'T....  I think she still looks like FIYA!! 

So I have to agree with the other ladies you are your own worst critique!!

Hey Kells

I am hot,  yeah I got a little fat on the right side of my ass that I really hate.  LOL