Relationship downturns after WLS

Everyone,
Last weekend, I attended my monthly support group in Dallas.  Anyway, most of us are 6 months to 2.5 years post surgery.  I asked where certain members were since they had not been around in a couple of months.  I was told that about 1/3 (there are 30 of us) are going thru issues in their relationships.  Those that were married were in the throws of divorce and others were going thru or had gone thru major breakups.

I have not experienced either but, I was wondering about BAF members.  I was told that the relationship issues were because of a couple of issus - some say that they were in jacked up relationships wherein they settled for folks when they were overweight that they would not look at today, while others say they just grew apart...

Your thoughts?

I personally am not married, but I have dated 3 people since my surgery and I'm not sure if the surgery is the cause or not, but I am much less willing to put up with BS than I was before.  I'm not sure if its a result of growing older, or getting more confident.

I recently broke it off with someone because I am not willing to settle and  I like myself enough to be single and enjoy life alone.

The changes one goes through in losing major weight brings about changes in how the person sees the world, all while the world begins to see the person in a different light.  They seem to bloom out of their former self, often more confident and outgoing; people are paying more attention to them, and that causes all kinds of reactions to the person losing weight and to all who observe the changes. 

I've seen weak relationships crack and dissolve, but many others strengthen & become enhanced and closer. 

People have strong emotions and varying reactions, not all of them good or supportive, to changes in general, not to mention changes they didn't initiate. 

Friends, family,  work, social, as well as romantic relationships could potentially undergo a shift in the dynamics of how the people involved relate to one another. 

I've found this an interesting social study of human behaviors over the years.

Interesting topic. I'm preparing for surgery, my date is 7/7/09. Can you say praise the lord. My boyfriend and I have had a few conversations about this. I'm hoping addressing issues know will help us prepare for them later. He asked me how would I feel about more men paying attention to me; according to him, and I agree, men pay attention to me know, but he knows it'll pick up when I lose weight. I told him a man's attention is not unusual and I'm not doing this for that kind of attention. I'm doing it because I'm paying more attention to myself. He loves and supports that idea and he loves and supports me. I think he really can't wait to his fit and trim lady. But only time will tell.

...i posted something very deep and profound earlier...but for some reason it didn't show up...LOL.

I was married and now I am divorced. Is it because of the WLS? HE** NO!!! It was fu****up way before the surgery. I now look at things differently as far as relationship wise. I no for sure my tolerance for B***S*** is no existance. I rather enjoy myself and enjoy life. I'm never alone or lonely as long as I have GOD and I got him with me at all times.

Brenda