Need some dating advise, help!!!

LOL!  I knew I could count on you to ***** slap my ass some sense.  Told you I wasn't good as this...never had to deal with stuff like this. I always had good relationships in the past.  I see the painting on the wall and no matter how much I wanted to believe he was a good guy, Da truth is real.  I just found my pair of balls and will cut his $ss this weekend.  Done deal, thanks for the cyber courage!!

see - that's the problem - benefit of the doubt - don't do that with the next one.

you can believe if you put a cat in the oven - that'll make it a biscuit.  But when you put jelly on it, that mofo will STILL BE FURRY...........

keep it moving next time, homie. 

 oh dear ... mama, just let it go. seriously. i mean, it's great that the sex is amazing and all - but don't let that blind you. and when you let him go, don't let him convince you that you're really tripping.

<3 good luck with that.

My 15 cents (if I come off harsh...good - that's what I am trying to do...for you to understand):

"Everything 'appears' all good?" To whom? Ray Charles? Stevie Wonder? Baby ain't nothing 'all good" about this relationship, trust!

You seem to be one of the "Settling Sistahs..." Settling for ANY man, long as he spends a few hours in a few days with you...he considers you the 'after dinner mint...' Once he has gotten full off another dish...he drops by you for a quick mint...you know...like a cigarette after good sex...in other words - you are an AFTERthought to him.

And trust me when I tell you...SEX in a so-called relationship is not all you need.  Notice I said 'so-called' - that's what YOU call it...Of course he is going to say you are controlling - because you are asking him his whereabouts.  But how about this...YOU SHOULD BE CONTROLLING...THIS MOFO IS DRIVING YOUR CAR!!! Controlling...ya damned right! 

You have lost yourself in this dude...you introduced him to your children...after knowing him for a few months...he and your son have 'bonded...' AND? SO WHAT? The sad thing is your son has 'bonded' with someone who you shouldn't be giving the time of day...now I cannot tell you what to do with him...because as the others have alluded to...YOU ARE ALLOWING HIM TO TREAT YOU AS HIS 'HO...not his WOMAN.

But I can say this...IT'S YOUR FAULT! IT'S YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO SAY 'HELL NO...YOU WILL NOT TREAT ME LIKE THIS! YES, I AM CONTROLLING...CONTROLLING MY SPACE! CONTROLLING THE FACT THAT YOU NEED TO SKIP ON OUT OF HERE...

BY THE WAY...IF I READ CORRECTLY...you are only spending TWO days of the week with him...("we talk all day Tue-Fri")...don't hear from him Sun-Mon...So, here's your schedule:

Sun-Mon - NO DUDE
Tue-Fri - TALK TO DUDE
Fri-Sat - BREAK DUDE OFF A PIECE

And the cycle continues...sorry to be so straightforward, but that's how I have to give it to you...He is stopping by the 'gas station' for a fill-up...for the rest of the week.  The guy is not the problem...YOU ARE!

(((dropping the microphone...and stomping off the stage...cuz I am so sick and tired of women being used...for no dayum reason!!!  Especially when a woman SEES that she is being used, but rationalizes what he IS doing...and not thinking about what he is NOT doing)))

Oh yeah, newsflash...you HAVE already accepted his behavior! Going on a 2nd, 3rd or 4th date...or seeing him every Fri-Sat...means you have already accepted his behavior.

You want to be used? Cool, you all will do good together on Fridays and Saturdays...You want to move on and wait for a REAL man who will appreciate you for the queen you are? GET RID OF HIS ASS...quick, fast and in a hurry!

THAT IS ALL!

DD

P.S. This is NOT a personal attack...just responding to your message.  Remember, I don't know you from a can of paint...

My DAWG!!!!  *puts out fist for some dap*

You peep game so smooth and so CLEAN!!!!!  lol

As the saying went..."Don't hate the playa, hate the game!" He's runnin' game on her and she knows it...but wants to say the sex is good...they have gone on a family trip...he has bonded with da chi'ren...girl, please - I don't care if this sistah did have relationships with females...the problem lies within herself...not this nitwit.

Got that dap...LOL!

DD

Preach sista!!

Uh... Uh...  Ummm...  Hmmm...   I think Imma run on back to the drawing board on this one because obviously you sistas have peeped one of my killa playa moves when it comes to doggin out a woman in a 'relationship' through this kat that she's dealing with.  Some brothas are just getting plain lazy with stealing my sh*t and not improving on the game as a whole.  

  A playa can't keep nothing to himself these days.  Dayum!

And you know this game ain't new! Remember Jackie Wilson's "Stop Doggin' Me Around..."?

You'd better stop, now doggin' me around
If you don't stop...yeah, I'm gonna put you down
Cause I can't take it...much longer
My heart's getting weak, it's not getting any stronger
You keep me so upset, my head's in a whirl
But if you wanna be my girl...you'd better stop, yeah
doggin' me around
Cause if you don't stop, I'm gonna put you down

Now you know you go out nights
to have yourself a ball
Sometime syou don't you don't make it home at all
I don't mind you having yourself a real good time
But not what you trying to do
Trying to make me lose my mind!

You'd better stop, yeah...doggin' me around
if you don't stop, I'm gonna put you down...yes
PUT YOU DOWN!!!

O.k., so, playin' a person ain't new...oldest pimpin'/pimpette game in the world!  And girlfriend is getting played...over and over and over...like a STUCK RECORD!

Dag!  They don't make 'em like that anymore.  Thanks for the trip down memory lane, DJ Dimples.

Yeah, homeboy is trying to drive her crazy - and using her car to do it!!!! Mack Mama was right.  Oh hell no, not the ride.  Definitely not the ride.