Why do overweight people always have to

Talk about other overweight people.  If I hear one more time I am not as big as, I carry mines better than, or they look sloppy from another overweight person I will go off.  I know I can not control other people but I just feel it is so rude to down grade someone that is going through the same struggle as you.  My co-worker is working my nerves talking about our other co-worker who is actually the same size I use to be.  I also had the co-worker who is the same size that I use to be come up to me today and tell me our other co-worker that had wls looks sick and old.  So is that jealousy or truth that is not a decision I should make.  I am going to hang a sign in my cubicle please do not come and discuss with me how you feel about another person weight.

I so understand but what gets me is that my siblings talk about overweight people all the time. That makes me wonder what they really thought of me when I was that size. I just get up and leave the room when they start laughing and talking about fat people. I still feel like one of them. I was teased as a child about being fat and I wasn't fat at all. In 8th grade I was 6' and weighed 185 and thought I was a hippo because that's all I was called. Now that I'm under my ideal weight I still feel morbidly obese. People don't understand that words can hurt you.

I was watching Westbrooke Clinic with my husband the other day and he was like man how can a people get that big.  I just look at him like man I almost got to 400lbs so when you have some deep issues it is very easy for the years and food to creep up on you. I know how my family talked about me when I was at my heaviest and at my lowest as an adult.  They talked about me like a dog so even know I will succeed at the battle of obesity I could careless for there complements. 

AAAAAAmen....I have heard the same of what you described and another which is a HUGE pet peeve is average sized people that I know now think that it is OKAY to come to me talking about obese people....why in the herrrrl do folks ASSUME that weight loss =  me forgetting from whence I came.

So true. I lost weight, not my memory. I still remember what it's like to have thighs rubbing together or not being able to sit in certain seats. I don't want to hear it !!!!!

That's an excellent perspective from the experience. The weight loss doesn't remove the memory of being overweight. I have a friend who is a recovering alcoholic...for me to down 3 vodka shots in her face would be completely rude and disrepectful being that I know what she's gone thru to get to where she is. Every other similar ailment get labeled as a "disese" but for some unknown reason obeisity doesn't receive that same level of respect.

I ran into a similar episode last wk @ work. A woman was telling how both her sister and mother had WLS and look so good now. I said in on that course as well. Another woman stood frm her side of the cubicle and asked why-stating I'm not that big. Granted she's thin but it burned me up none the less. Since when did that ever become a compliment when @ the end of the day I was still referred to as big.