HORROR STORY...CAN I PLEASE WAKE UP????

OKay - so it has been a while since I posted. I have been around...just quiet! I am still waiting on my insurance to fix a couple kinks on their end. Hopefully I will have a date by the end of next month. The reason why I am writing is mainly b/c I am upset due to a situation that happened today. I was doing my regular walk this evening...I have been doing it for about a month now & have also been REALLY watching what I eat. Have lost 15 pounds! Anyways...back to the horror story.... As I was walking there were 2 men walking on the opposite side of the street - when they saw me they started yelling "fat azz" & "how are you able to walk with all that fat" "can you not hear me with all the fat around your ears" "I bet you can't even sit down"....you get the point. I was so upset over it. I mean I am use to being treated differently b/c of my weight but it has been a long time since a GROWN man has talked to me like that. It reminded me of this boy back in elementary who walked behind me taunting "BOOM" "BOOM" every time I took a step. What upset me the most was not what they said but that I ignored them. I should have turned around & cussed them ragged!!! I'm just so mad at myself for "taking it". I know the saying "sticks & stones" but let me tell you something...WORDS can hurt more then any stick or stone. I came home tonight feeling soooo sorry for myself in tears...ashamed and angry at myself for being so fat. This might sound crazy to some of ya'll but I just had to get it off my chest. Thanks for listening, Sunshine

I hear ya sunshine and do I understand. There are jerks everywhere and you just happen to have crossed paths with one of the worst! Believe me...they are not worth your time or frustration. I think you did the right thing in remaining silent. Anything you could have said would just have aggravated the situation. Never play their game...never let them see you sweat it. You really have the power in this situation...the power to rise above their ignorance...the power to keep your diginity by not playing their game. Keep the ball on your home court...that's where you have the advantage. Keep walking and you will have the last laugh and it will be the sweetest ever as you smile from the inside out. Keep on keeping on!

(((((((Sunshine)))))))) Those guys were jerks!!!! They will get theirs in the end!!! I agree that saying anything back to them would be self-defeating. It's hard to believe that grown men have that kind of nerve. When my oldest son was in high school, I would have to hold myself back from clobbering the group of kids that would call my over-weight son names. I held myself back cause I don't look good in stripes Little kids just say what is on their minds..don't get me started on what little kids have said to me personally. Sunshine, you are doing great with your walking and your 15 pound weight loss. I just know that you are gonna get your date any day now. Please know that all of us on this board totally know how you feel and it doesn't sound crazy to feel angry and hurt. I think we all have been there. HugsGinger

Ms. Sunshine, I'm sorry you had to endure this, it's on them, not you. Had to put up w/the same crap growing up. They were probably neglected children, as a kid, if I'd said ANYTHING close to that, my parents would have kicked my @$$ into next week. Good job on taking the high road dealing with these idiots. Congrats on the 15# loss, and hope you get your date soon. Doug

I found the best way to deal with asshats like that is to smile, wave, and say, "Thanks! Good talking to you!" and just keep going. Since anyone who would say such things to a perfect stranger obviously has a single digit IQ, your response will really confuse them. Kix

Sunshine, I have experienced this on more than one occassion. It always shocked me and always made me feel bad. It is a real shame that people treat you differently when you lose weight, but, they do. Hugs, Lori 384/237/199

Hi Sunshine! I am so sorry. I just have to tell you that the reply about waving and saying thanks, nice talking to you, made me smile. I think that would be too funny. I, like some of the others here have mostly gotten this kind of response from the kids in my son's class in Pre-K last year and some of the kids in his school this year. It really shocked me at how much it hurt that they said those things, although I fully realize that they are just a product of their environment and obviously haven't been taught any better. I bet ya that those same guys would take help from a "fat" person if they were stranded on the side of the road somewhere or needed a blood transfusion or an organ. They wouldn't hesitate and take the time out to ask if the donor or person helping them is overweight or not. What goes around comes around 10 fold!

aw, sunshine: i'm so sorry you had that happen to you. i'll never be able to understand the minds of people who think it's OK to pick on someone else. i've had people make fun of my size, too. it's never pleasant and truly difficult to ignore. and i know what you mean about wishing you had said or done something differently. i've been there, as well. but i honestly believe what has been previously posted - karma will sneak up on those jerks. they will have their come uppence someday. it's a sobbin shame, though, that we'll never get to see it. i'm glad you came on the board and shared with us - we've all been there. but i hope you'll put it out of your mind, sunshine. hard as that will be. because if you dwell on it - it can really bring you down. i have, in the past, however, thought up many a comeback so i'm ready for the next time. guess i'm just not as 'evolved' as i'd like to think i am. take care, sunshine. enjoy your weekend. dorthe

Hey Sunshine, Wow I saw me in your post just then. I now stay inside the house unless I have to go out to doc appts and stuff. I dont want to shock anyone. I live out in the country but on a main highway so when I do go out I have people riding by and blowing their horns at me. I have even had grown men yell something so nasty out the window that I cannot put it in this post. Most of the time I just give the Dale Earnhardt salute if you get my drift. It is sad to have to live shut up this way though. I have always been fat and my school years were hell to me too. I had emergency orange hair to go with the fat though. I know how you feel girl. I am so sorry that you had to hear that. Bless your heart, please dont get to the point like I have and just stop going outside. I cannot walk anymore without assisstance now. I waddle when I do walk. Forget about driving I cannot fit behind the wheel. Always know that you are a child of GOD and you are worth more than those low lifes. I will keep you in my prayers dear......Renee