Date

Dear Kix, Thank you for the reply.  It does help to know someone understands.  Even at my age, I am still startled when I see how my childhood still impacts me.  My parents were emotionally distant--to put it nicely--and had their own issues.  I was definitely the black sheep of the family and the scapegoat as well (now there's an interesting animal, part sheep, part goat?  The eating part was clearly goat!).   I can see how the desire for interaction with my father figures into who and what I find attractive in a man--despite knowing that is the source.  So one top of my mother's voice, I have my father's ghost lurking in the background.  My own cast of characters--a harpie and a spectre!  But I am trying to take ownership of the baggage and recast it in a way that it is healthy for me. I am not reed thin--and I still have major concerns about my legs and saggy butt--but I am at a point where I can feel attractive and that has made a difference.  A part of me always agreed with my mother because I didn't think I was attractive.  Maybe some people can do the big and beautiful, but I never could convince myself.  I think healthy and curvy, yes, but fat, no.  Having the tummy tuck was strangely liberating in this way.  I didn't think it was such a big deal until I had it removed.  All of a sudden, I really could see myself as attractive. The advantage for me know is that I am my own person, so I don't need to put up with the emotional silliness so many women accept out of their own need.  And I believe I am a person worth knowing.  So hey, I am a catch. Now let's see if anyone else thinks so! Sally

Hi, Sally, take along a bag and spruce up in the bathroom at work.  Just so you feel extra good. I dated alot in the 80's.  I am also a mature chicken and I always weighed over 200 lbs.  Fortunately, I loved clothes and high heels so I was out every week in my 20's and 30's and went dancing a few times a week as well as on the weekends.  I would meet alot of guys that might have been put off by my weight but  I was a charming fat girl., OK I was flashy.  I had some really good times going out and they didn't always include having a date. I had some low moments also, but even though I wasn't "thin" I would compete against anyone out there.  Of course you had your "I'll go home with you no matter what girls",  I felt they had more problems then I ever did. Sally, relax and enjoy the company of a fellow human being.  You will have a great time. Kix, what happened to the guy at the gym who was giving you the eye? Dunny, what a nice experience you had meeting Mr. Right the first time out.   Sally, I still want all the details.   Enjoy. Jeanne