Bad News

hello all, OMGoddess...........i just read this on the Pennsylvania board. How in the world can you put this in the back of your mind when its almost time for your WLS? http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/profile.phtml?N=M1120682988 I dont mean to be morbid..........but if any post-oppers have any ideas on how to keep the fear at bay...........I would appreciate it!! ((((((HUGS)))))))) willby

It makes me mad to know that life deals us all cards and sometimes they SUK!! If this world was perfect, we wouldn't have to go and have surgeries like this. But to SAVE our LIVES and have quality time with our families and loved ones we press on and have it. It is just a note to people that I have personally talked to about this.... We are backed up in the corner and have NO choice if want to live and makes me so sad in every way that things like this happen. ANd the B.... of it all is that she was a gorgeous woman with unreal children and society makes us NOT feel worthy. Bad enough to beat ourselves up but when others do it to.I havent had my surgery yet and no this reality check doesnt help any but that will be me soon if NOTHING is done also... My heart bleeds for her family... margaret

That is very, very sad and my heart goes out to her family as well. A similar thing happend to me when I went to have my surgery the first time. A woman died while I was going through pre-op testing. Needless to say it got to me and I didn't have my surgery then. I just keep telling myself that this surgery is going to improve my Quality of life and its something I feel I Have to do and I am aware of the risks as we all are. There isn't anything I can say to ease anyone's fears because I have them myself but as I said, I just try to think about what kind of life I would have without surgery. Heart attack, stroke, unable to care for myself...all of these things are in my future UNLESS I have this surgery. I also have a three year old daughter named Kaitlyn and two sons 6 and 9.

Here's the Whole Posting with the rest of the story,,,,,,,,,,,,, Passing of Florida Member Original Post by Erika L at 5:59 PM EST on 09/07/2005 Jax, FL - (07/14/2004) I saw this on the Main Board... The passing of Angel Leanne Angie Original Post by Angel Angie at 1:16 PM PST on 09/07/2005 Pompano Beach, FL - RNY (09/01/2005) Hi everyone I thought you would like to know that one of your OH members who had surgery on 9-1-05 passed on 9-5-05 due to a leakage or blockage that the doctor did not find. We still do not know the true reasons of her passing but I thought it would be appropriate to let you know of her passing as many of you wished her well on her way to surgery. Angel left behind 3 small children, Korey age 5, Katlyn age 3 1/2 and Gracie age 2 her husband of 9 years asked me to thank all of those who prayed for Angels safety during surgery. The family is grieving as you would expect, Angel was a young vibrant and beautiful young girl who I will miss for the rest of my life. She was opposed to surgery but her doctors told her she needed it and her support group and peers assured her it was safe, she followed the rules to the Tee!!! Things happen and theirs a plan for all of us but it was too soon. I will be looking after her little ones for now while her husband tries to cope. If anyone would like to send their thoughts and prayers you may do so here or to a special email that will be set up later this evening... [email protected] Thank you again and please please BE SAFE and totally sure you want to do this when deciding for this surgery. Sincerely, Grace - Angels bestfriend

wow....im speechless. I know people do have complications with this surgery, but the more i read, it seems the more i read about people dying. I'm so scared to have this surgery, as all of you are. but im also scared if i don't have this surgery. I don't have any children, thats one of the reasons I am having this surgery-in hopes of a better chance to get pregnant. But I would be leaving behind one really great fiance and my family and few friends if I would happen to pass away. This really makes me think. My heart goes out to her children, husband and family and friends.

Michael, Thank you for posting the rest of the story. It is so unbelievable that her doctor insisted on the surgery. willby

Willby, I know just before my surgery someone passed away due to complications of his surgery. It was hard to put it aside and not think about it. What I did to get through it was re-evaluated all the pros and cons of surgery.. In the end I decided that the small risk of death was worth having a life to live rather then going on living the way I had been.. I didnt have much of life- I sat and watched everyone around me living while I was hiding in my livingroom.. Its hard when someone passes away.. It makes you think "is this really the best way?". For some of us its not only the best way, but in reality its the only way.. And then there are some that just arent ready... Thats something that everyone has to decide for themselves. Amber M

Amber, thank you for your words "the small risk of death was worth having a life to live rather then going on living the way I had been". Sometimes I just have to see it in print to be reminded of why i want/need this surgery (((Thank you)))) willby

Willby I read this last week on the 20's board and it really broke my heart. Its so scary when your in the process of having WLS. It made me question myself about this decision to have this surgery. My thoughts and prayers really go out to her family. Kay

Well we all live with Reality Checks and this is one of those times. I know I need this surgery or I'll be dead sooner than later. I'm past what I was told that I'd be dead at by several doctors along the way. My parents kept telling me I'd be dead at 35. They were both big and did die before todays norm. Mom 59 & Dad 62, I'm 49. I've fulfilled indirectly all of my Youthful Dream, But have many more in my Adult Life. I'm moving forward to have the surgery so I can fulfill those desires too. I'm doing this for me alone as I am alone. But if our Lord decides it's my time to join all of those friends and relatives, then it's time. I'm just starting my Pre stuff but feel very confident in myself and my surgeon. Keep Focus for yourself, Mike