I had gastric bypass surgery on New Year's eve two years ago.  After my surgery, I worked with an eating disorder counselor to deal with my relationship with food and my food addictions.  I ate less than 800 calories a day/more than 80 g of protein a day/less than 40 grams of carbs during my weight loss mode.  I weighed and measured all my food.  I walk every day -- I belong to the YMCA but mostly to take my son for swimming classes, etc -- but I do use the gym during that time a couple days a week.   I am not into exercising.

I have had similar experiences with my husband.  After my c-section, he literally had to wipe my butt.  i felt so ashamed -- but it never ever seemed to bother him. But, I will tell you, being able to run, walk, and DO things with him is a wonderful feeling.  I am FULLY THERE now -- and I am ever so much healthier.  Part of loving someone is being healthy as possible to be there as long as possible for them -- it's also really loving yourself.

I don't normally do this, but here's a photo before and in progress a few days ago.  I am still trying to get down a few more pounds.

I sincerely wish you success at whatever you decide to do.  You are worth the effort.  

Can I ask what you have done to get down to where you are now....My hubby (or bunny as I call him haha) loves me no matter...and that is what I want, you said it perfectly to be more of a partner to him...I remember last week I felt very sore under my stomach and of course it hangs and I can't see it, I wiped with a cloth out came blood so I knew I needed him to check...I hated asking him and him seeing, but he cleaned it up and put polysporin on it, I must have scratched, but I was so embarrassed, I just laid on the bed hand over my eyes trying not to be upset and he came over and said please don't be upset, I would do anything for you...made me more upset. I know he stands by me no matter what I just want to make sure I am here with him many more years to come.

for Nova Scotia, when it comes to a referal, your main dr sends it to a specialist then you are waiting to get a letter from the hospital the dr is in on when the appt will take place. I have a dr that is a specialist and for me a wait time for appts is normally 6 months sometimes longer. As for the weightloss surgery we only have a few doctors and the wait list when I was first referred was 8 yrs, now they are down to 2700 days from day of referal to consulation. We don't have the best medical, private insurance doesn't cover it and the province does but only by going this route. With my hubby, I know his heart is in the right place but as I have told him I need to do this for me and he just needs to let me go, I will wither somewhat succeed or fall on my face trying but up to me to pick myself back up...I am going to try, because I need to be better for me :)

Where do you live? Whats your insurance. 

Sounds like you need to take a more proactive stance on your health. Your hubby is willing to help-- but honestly, I'd back off to if I were trying to help you and you got angry with me. This is your battles- not his-- he shouldn't bare the backlash of trying to support you.

You asked for a referral 10 years ago and never followed up? I know when I request a referral from my doc- its up to me to contact the specialist and set up the appointment. It sounds as though you've been waiting on a call for 10 years-- that not how this works. 

So, if you don't have a PCP now, it will be harder to get surgery. most insurance requires documented history of weight, attempts at loss etc through a PCP. If for no other reason- you need to find a PCP now to evaluate your current health standing.  

Being tired of feeling the way you do is a sign that you are ready to do something-- only you know if surgery if surgery would be the right answer. 

Down another three pounds to 307. Still doing the Optifast program, but at 1100-1200 calories a day (so supplemented with some 'real food' as well) due to my starting weight.

My Easter indulgences amounted to: 3 jelly beans. Estimated calories: 32.