I found my answer

Yup, I guess everything really does come out in the wash, doesn't it?  Looking back, I remember two different couples at our church who were always bugging us to go on couples retreats to "work" on our marriage.  We never went, and they would hint that we'd regret it later.  Those couples are both divorced now, and we're still going strong.  I used to say to them "If it ain't broke, don't fix it". 

I guess my sister doesn't know how to pray properly either, because she's still fat AND depressed, but she's in denial about the depression. 

Fat, depressed, and in denial?  Don't tell me, she's probably ugly too! 

I have always hated those couples retreats.  Never understood what all the hard work is that marriage is supposed to be, either. 

GREAT answer.

GREAT GREAT POST!  

You are 100% correct.

Funny the things that people seem to have free will to say to me now.  A lady, that I see every morning upon entering my place of employment stopped me this AM and said, "WOW< I just have to tell you how great that you look.  You don't look sick at all." 

This is my compliment:  "You don't look sick at all". 

She proceeded to tell me all about her cousin who  is in and out of the hospital and has protein and iron problems.....

I wanted to say:  Your cousin was probably not compliant with her vitamins and protein intake and your cousin probably had the RNY and not the surgery that I had.

I didn't.

I smiled.  Let her be amused with herself, and walked into work.

Non-confrontational is new for me.

Who cares?  I am so happy I don't care what people think or think they know.  I am just happy. 

Good for you.  It's sorta' freeing in it's way - isn't it?  That we can just let the misinformed by misinformed and feel no need to changed their misinformed ways?
 
I've been working out with my therapist that some of this for me comes from the fact that when I was heavy, I felt I needed to constantly prove myself to be accepted.  It's understandable in our society.  And now, I realize that I am acceptable just like I am.  I have trouble wrapping my head around it sometimes because it makes me mad that I felt so unaccepted then without really being aware of it.

Anyway - blah - but good on you for taking the high road!

Krissy, you are awesome. One of my coworkers who wants to lose a few pounds said a similar thing to me this week. I nicely told her to gain a hundred pounds first, then we could talk.

Great way to respond to that! It drives me nuts when people say that. I've always just said "yeah" and given them a ****ty death stare, but that's a really great reply.

FTW! That is an excellent answer... putting this in my toolbox for the coming months.

I love your answer!

I haven't had anyone say anything directly to me, but I sure have gotten a lot of stares at buffets! I notice people looking at me as I walk up to the buffet and then they really look at my plate to see if it's loaded with celery and carrrot sticks! NOT!!!!!  I know they have to wonder what the heck is up. I get a kick out it.

Good for you and taking the high road.  Why waste your energy on such mental midgets?  Your greatest retort is a smile of self-confidence.  Hold your head up high, you deserve the best.  Love yourself and **** the idiots that don't appreciate and respect you.  You have already proven that you don't need them.