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I have a question and I hope you can help. Being in the hospital most of 11/06 till 9/07. I didn't see a lot of family, friends other my very supportive family from OH. This week-end a lot of my family will be at my house for dinner. I am fearful that I will not meet the way they feel I should be. They all say "they cant wait to see me" I am so worried, I cant handle it. I dont hear them say they can't wait to see others in the family. This bothering so much, and I truely dont know how to deal with this. Please if anyone can give answers and prayers ,I would be so greatful. Sorry to ask for so much support and prayers. My anixity is so very high right now. I love you all.I so miss talking and seeing everyone. Hugs and Blessings, Gail

I'm thinking they really truly miss you and cannot wait to see you because of that. :) (( HUGS ))

Thanks, Misty I am till unsure with myself, so I feel like everyboby is looking at me Thank you so much for your sopport and Hugs. Can't wait to meet you. Blessings and Hugs, Gail

Sweet Gail, You surely have my prayers. I know family gatherings can be so stressful. Maybe they just feel a little guilty that they weren't or couldn't be there for you during your time of need. I've come to realize that sometimes the people who love us most are not strong enough to face that we are ill or in need. It's just too hard. I pray for those people a lot because it is they who will have the most regrets at the end of things. Now that you have weathered the storm, maybe they feel comfortable again. I know that seems unfair. maybe it's curiosity, on their part. I can understand why that might aggrevate you. However, maybe they really are excited to see you and enjoy your company. I can't imagine anybody not loving you to pieces. Try to breathe and soak in God's love for you over the next few days. It will calm and comfort you. As for the relatives- just love them until they're so blind they can't see anything. Hugs and Prayers, Angie

Thanks, Angie, I have been praying hard and trying to not to think to much. Everything you said I take to my heart. Thank you so much, and I cant wait to meet you too. I plan to hug them till they cant see me just my heart. Hugs and Blessings, Gail

My dear Gail:  It has been months since I've seen you and I know how I was blown away at how great you looked then.  I'm sure your family will feel the same.  It is hard for us when we look in the mirror at our selves every day to see the changes that others, especially those we see rarely, see in us.  I think the hardest thing for you will be listening to all the compliments.  Be proud, you've had a long hard road and have come out a winner.  I can't imagine anyone not being thrilled for you.  Have a great weekend and just relax and smile.  I think you will be saying "why, thank you" over and over. I'll be watching for your next post after this weekend.

Dear Jan, You know me so well. Remember the day you visited me at ST'V and I couldnt get some pills down, you went and got the nurse and told her to break up for me. I  will never forget that day. You told me to stand up for myself. I am still working on that. You gave me a dose of willpower that day much needed I should say. I thank you sooo much and I think of you every time I cant get a pill down LOL. And  I hope you know how much you and my very supported OH family means to me. Your ordament you made me was on my tree first. Love you lots, Hugs and Blessings, Gail

Some people can't face illness.. and feel bad they weren't there for you... Heck I can't wait to see you again!! I remember you before surgery... I havent seen you since.. ( sorry) but your personality blew me away before surgery..just as y our lovely posts have since we met. If I were close family... I couldn't wait to "see you" either.. I dont think it is just because of what they will see.. it is becaue of WHO you are.,., a wonderful careing person. Be well. Linda Kay

Dear Linda, I cant wait to see you again either. Thank you for your post and I took to my heart, I think I need a Big Dose of OH family. Thanks again for all your kind words. Love, hugs and blessings, Gail

Gail, Honey, I can't wait until the clothing exchange to see you either!! You are such a beautiful lady inside and out, I can see why people look forward to seeing you! Of your family members, who made a huge step to improve their life last year by having weight loss surgery? YOU! Of your family members, who has went through one medical ordeal after another this past year  and came out a winner? YOU! Is it really any wonder that they want to see you? I would be shocked more if they didn't! Now, don't you worry at all about what they 'see'! You KNOW you have done great and are 100% better health-wise than you were pre-op! You also know that you did the surgery for YOU...NOT for your family! We all like to think that family is supportive but honestly, mine isn't. When I had lost 80 lbs (in 5 months!) my own mother looked at me and said 'it sure doesn't look like you lost that much'. I had to remind myself right then and there that I was 80 lbs lighter and nothing she says was going to discourage me (that is also the last time I saw her! I tend to stay away from negative, non-suportive people!!)! You know you did the surgery for all the right reasons and you know how much weight you lost. So regardless of what ANYONE, family or not, thinks, you know you have done fantastic!! By the way...your family members are probably not looking forward to seeing everyone else as much as they are you because it is YOU who had made changes in your life...not the others. They are all the same old-same old. Now...go look in the mirror and tell yourself that you DESERVE this extra attention! Enjoy it! And enjoy spending the time with your family!! huggs.... Sherri