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Dear Sherri, Thank you so much for the supportive words you have not just for me but for all. I truely am blessed to have somewhere to go for words of wisdom and kindness, most of all support.I think I spent to much time with medical folks and not family. I am just so unsure with me. I think to quit beating myself up. I 'm praying they just see me and not what I look like. Next one of my family members tell I can get a man now. Why do I want one, LOL. I still have my man friend. And if they think losing weight is the answer then they not the family I love. Love,Hugs and Blessings, Gail

Gail~ Think about this....I CAN'T WAIT TO MEET YOU! Also, I believe your family hasn't been able to see you since you have been ill and in the hospital and they truly MISS YOU and there is some truth to what Sherri said...YOU have changed your life!  Your life has some excitement to it and theirs doesn't! so they wanna be part of that excitement!

God has blessed you with a loving family and YOU have sucha big heart they all want a piece of it! Hug and Hug and HUG.....enjoy the time...

HUGGGGGGGGGGGS,

Janene

 Dear Janene, Thank you too for the support. And I have changed. And I pray they all just want a piece of my heart. I can't wait to meet you and give you a real big hug. I so look forward in meeting you. Huggggggs and Blessings , Gail

Gail,

First off I agree with everyone else... They want to see who you are on the inside... And they want to relish in the changes that you have made to the outside with you. However i also understand your anxiety. I feel it everytime I see people that i haven't seen before Surgery... I know it sounds corny, but everytime I'm going to go out and be around people tha ti haven't seen since surgery and I'm starting to feel that anxiety creep in I stand in front of the mirror and look at myself and say "I am beautiful, and I have met my OWN expectations, which are the only ones that matter" It helpes give me enough umph to get ou tthere and then once i get there I realize that they aren't judging me anyway...

:hugs: We all Love you Gail!!! Take care and give yourself that UMPH

Dear Jess,

Thanks, For all you said I too am agreeing with all my OH family. I am giving myself that "UMPH" and I plan on having a good time if I need to I'll go to another room tell "me" I look beauitful and I met my own EXPECTATIONS. Good advice. I love you too. Hugs, love and Blessings, Gail

Hi Gail, Everyone else has already said all the things you need to hear about how to handle family members (supportive or not).  But I wanted to congratulate you for having the wisdom and the courage to ask for help when you needed it.  Too often, we (me specifically) are unwilling or unable to ask for the support and help that we need.  I think the simple fact that you got on this board and asked for the support that you need right now speaks volumes about what a truely courageous person you are.  With courage like that, you don't have to sweat what your family maybe thinking or even saying.  You are very strong and obviously believe enough in your self to do what is necessary to get through anything. Enjoy your holidays.  Merry Christmas to you.