Kinda OT: Making friends post op, does it seem harder?

i'm actually from a town 10 miles away from where misty is, and my mom lives there now. seymour is the biggest town in the county. there isn't much there other than farmland and cattle and trees. i've never been very good at making friends whenever i go someplace new. i've been in lafayette for almost 7 years, and all of my friends are work/school based. maybe you need to try another church. there should be about 2 or 3 versions of every denomination (except maybe catholic) in town. if you are pentecost, i can send you to my aunt's church. i can tell you where it is, but i don't remember the name. there are some 20 and 30 somethings there because i know there are a lot of kids. there aren't many groups or things to join. you may just need to try looking in columbus to find something interesting.

i know that i have already lost one friend over my decision to have surgery. we were always the fat friends together. she lost about 80 pounds through diet and exercise but gained half of it back recently. she got all sorts of heinous to me after i told her about the surgery. she lived with me at the time, treated me like crap, and recently moved out. i've known her for forever and put a roof over her head when she had no place to go (for free mind you). since i told her about the surgery, she barely talked to me, and you know what, i'm glad she's gone. anyone that is going to use me like that is not my friend. anyone who wouldn't support my choice to better myself is also not my friend. they are not worth it. i'm actually pretty glad that she's not in my life. i deserve friends who support me and my life choices. by the way, she's the only person *****acted negatively to me telling them.

ya with some friends I wonder if theyre friends or enemies LOL

I already started talking to my two dearest friends about what usually happens after the surgery with friendships.  Both of them are smaller than me, and one of them is my work friend whom I spend every lunch with.  I was talking about the surgery at work the other day, and she said something like "Well, I'll probably be the biggest at work".  I know she didn't mean it in a mean way, but it did hurt my feelings. 

I see how it could have hurt your feelings.. That "friend" of mine told me that I was gonna be skinnier than her by time her baby came and all that stuff and sooo I feel like mine being a lot bigger than her probally made her feel better bout herself. Of course as I said before clothes wise we were the same size but she swore she was only 250lbs and I was 300

I understand what you mean exactly.  I'm not the person who goes out and parties, but it seems like thats what everyone else my age is interested in.  Most of the people I work with are older than me and the same with the church I've just started attending.   It's different with men now too.  Before I knew when a guy was talking to me it was because he liked me (it wasn't because he was so attracted to my 300 pound body) now I have to wonder.  I just moved from a small town to a bigger city and I dont think its really helped... everyone is more anonymous here.  I'm sure I'll meet more people (as I've only been here a month).  I just wonder if there is anyone else out there my age who just likes hanging out. I've had guy friends most of my life... it's easier to avoid drama and gossip that way.  It's harder to make guy friends when there is a chance they will be attracted to you.

HEh I've always been "one of the guys" also and now I'm quite a bit more feminine lol. I like sports still but I'm starting to like girly stuff too. Only problem with me having male friends is my husband isn't too fond of that LOL. Can't really go to the movie with friends without it looking weird that way hehe