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MY opinion, I am alive, therefore I have issues.Yes, I still emotionally eat from time to time.. But I eat less than I would have prior to RNY. Before RNY I would have eatten a whole pack of potato chips or a whole bag of cookies... Now I eat 2 cookies or a couple potato chips. I am not gaining right now and I am not loosing but I am living which I wasn't doing prior to RNY. I couldn't breathe, I couldnt walk, my self esteem was right out the window. I can get down on the floor and play with my grandbabies and even walk thru walmart when I choose. We all make chices in our lives. I feel I have made the best one for me.  We all need friends.. Pre op, post op whatever we need a support system. For most people alone is not an option. I hate to whine but sometimes my struggles are so difficult..But at least I know I can do all things thru Christ who gives me the strength.And I know that no matter what I face.. God will either pull me out of it or give me the grace to go thru it. Life is hills.. up one side down the other...friends are trees on the hills to grab onto to help us up the hill and to slow us down while we are going downhill so we won't fall one the way down. Bless you all. Have a wonderful day! Linda Kay

Bless you Linda......your post sure made an impact on my state of mind!!!!!  I wish I could get my mind to look at things like this everyday!!!!!  Hope you have a wonderful Friday and thanks again for your inspirational post!!!!  Love ya, Holly

My opinion is that the Dr. is the expert and has done many procedures on  a diverse group of people.  Why not let the expert make the choice?  Use them as a well refined tool.  Trying to find the perfect for me procedure can lead to the same old habits.  Lap band and I can eat the same food and drink liquor and beer.  LRnY I have to give up some foods for months until the pouch likes it. Guess what give up sugar for 6 months and you will wonder WHY DID I eat this stuff. Let the Lord guide you and use the DR and the skills the Lord had given them to allow you to become the new person. E

Linda, I agree with Eluca in that you should leave the decision up to the surgeon as to which surgery is best for you. It's also why I had suggested that you have a consult with Dr. Inman...since you have been debating between the DS and RNY..she does both and therefore would be capable of doing which-ever one SHE thought wa best for you. And yes, there is a risk of complications with any surgery..not just weight loss surgery. But you know? There are complications for the obese if they don't lose the weight as well! Each person has to decide for themself if their decision is worth the risks they are taking. I just hope that each person makes an informed decision by discussing it thoroughly with their surgeon, pcp, and/or therapist.  Oh..we DO get together on the average of once a month. No..it's not to read a book..however, if you want to start a book club at your house, go for it! Normally, February is the month that I'd be planning and having the hot tub party. Because of my stomach stuff, I'm having to postpone it but still plan to have it toward the end of March. That isn't to say we aren't having any type of get together for February. If you remember, I posted about getting together at Steak & Ale tonight (at 6 pm, southside). Jodi & Matt were the only ones who posted that they were coming (Gail is going to come as well if she can). The opportunity  was presented to everyone on here...as is most, if not all, of our get-togethers..even if it is just dinner (which...as anyone who ever comes to these dinners will tell you, we always have alot of fun at). I wouldn't count on many takers for skydiving...but we are a pretty active group when it comes to getting together for support & fellowship! We have special activities through-out the year and we are always open to ideas. Keep an eye out for the posts...and you'll see the invites! For added support for yourself though...if you are going to go through Dr. Inman at St. Vincent, they have regular support group meetings. One is on the southside once a month. You may want to contact them and ask them for time, day, and location...(or someone here...please post it for Linda).   Sherri

Hi Linda, I can understand your waffling back and forth.  I was diagnosed with diabetes and immediately checked into wls (I had heard about it before, but never seriously considered it).  However, after researching the various types online, I decided it was just to extreme a measure for me to take  right then.   But after living with diabetes for a year, having to totally change the way I lived, ate, and exercised (pretty much not at all before the diabetes), I finally decided that I had already done everything that was going to be expected of me with wls, but wasn't seeing the results that wls would provide!  Why not do it and gain (or should I say lose ) the end result! As for the "head" thing, I can honestly say that I don't think we ever truly "get over it".  I have gone to  5 years of therapy.  Always with the intention of figuring out why I turn to food.  It helped, but it doesn't solve everything.  Habits are much easier to acquire than to get rid of.  I don't do as much emotional eating and I don't eat the same things I did before wls, but I do still emotionally eat sometimes.   With that said, I would still do it all over again.  I am still smaller than I have been since I was 14.  I am in better physical health (no longer have diabetes, off blood pressure meds and in better physical condition because of my working out). I also agree that you should talk to the surgeon of your choice and get his or her opinion about  which surgery will meet your goals best.  BUT, I believe you are the only one who can make the final choice.  Each surgery type has it's benefits and drawbacks.  Only you can decide what is  most important to you.  What benefits are most important, what drawbacks can you live with? Personally, I opted for RNY because people tended to lose the most weight and I felt that I needed (and still need) the dumping syndrome control factor.  I was a sugar addict and I need  to be forcibly reminded every now and then that I will pay a price for stepping off that wagon.  I don't do it often, but when I do, I pay the price!  And I wouldn't have it any other way.  If I could still eat sugar (like with the lap band), I most assuredly would.  I recognize this weakness in myself and so I chose the procedure that would help me to counteract it. If you decide not to have surgery, no one is going to think less of you for it.  My husband is over 350 lbs.  I would love for him to have the surgery, but he won't even consider it.  I still love him and I don't think any less of him for it.  I worry about the long term health ramifications, but knowing how hard it was for me to make my decision, I can understand how difficult it is for  him to make his.  In the end, you have to do what you feel is right for you. I know this response is long, but I didn't know a shorter way of expressing everything this means  to me, so I appologize for the length.  I look forward to meeting you tomorrow at my Pampered Chef party and I think we will have a great time!  You'll also get to meet some other OH'ers.  Sherri and Brenda are coming and I think Gail may also be coming. See you tomorrow!

We have an Indy-area based DS support group that meets every third Monday of the month as well.  This month's meeting will be this coming Monday at Max & Erma's behind Castleton Square Mall.  I know others have posted to other threads you have started with this information, but I wanted to repeat it.  We are a small group so far, but we have a lot of fun and it is always very supportive and informative.