Had a bad night

Last night was a bad night.  Got in a BIG fight with my hubby.  I really had a pity party and wanted to turn to food but knew I couldn't.  I can see how people become alcoholics after this is done because I must say it was tempting to go grab a drink.  Thankfully we don't keep that stuff in our house but the thought was there anyway.  Guess I can't run to food for comfort anymore.  It's quite sad actually. Today is a boohooy day for me. Jacqui

Hugs to you Jacqui! Things will get better.  Hopefully you and hubby made up

Hi Jacqui, It is tough figuring out what to do instead of eat.  Unfortunatly I don't have a definitive answer to offer you.  I have taken up my crotcheting again and don't allow myself to eat when I am working on it, but you can only have so many items sitting around your house!    I still have hats and scarves I crotcheted last summer and fall!  I also read, but since I have always done that it isn't much of a substitute.  I even made a list of alternative activities and posted it on the wall above my desk at work.  (Like take a quick walk, or climb the stairs, or make a phone call.)  Each of them work at certain times, but none of them are as easy or automatic as turning to food.  Obviously, I am still working on this, but that's why we call it a "journey".  I have faith in you that you will search out the alternatives that will work best for you and I'm sure plenty of people on here will offer you suggestions  because we all face this issue everyday. Good luck and I hope you and your hubby make up soon.  They can be big pains, but we love them anyway! 

Jacqui. ahhhhhhhhh, not a good day for a fight. I understand the food thing, it still kinda always in the back of my mind.  But maybe you can turn the fight around and have  day, TODAY !!!!!! I always am throwing myself a pity party  call me if you need to vent and we can our pity party together. love ya . BIG, BIG, Hugs & Blessings, too.

Men! Boots were not just made for walking...sometimes need them to give kicks in the butt!!! All I can say is....we do forgive...but maybe not forget! Hang in there gal...it will get better.  Like Cindy said...go for a walk...talk on the phone...get on the computer...work a puzzle...keep your hands busy. huggggggggs Janene PS...cowboy boots make great bug killers too...can get those pointy toes right in the corners! luv ya

Jacqui, after many years of marriage and some good fights to go with it there is one thing that stays in my memory. Husbands ~ you always love them but sometimes you don't like them  very much. lol Things will get better. Thank God that we don't have to turn to food anymore to get through the hard things in life. I know that it isn't easy but pat yourself on the back because you DIDN'T do. What we can't do for a lifetime we can do just one day at a time. Sometimes it is to hard to look at it for one whole day and so we take it a minute at a time. You do what you have to do to get through the rough times and you did. Great job!!! As for hubby, things will get better there too. Sometimes they are just plain pains in the bhut-tocks!!!! If you get my drift! lol Don't dwell on the negatives remember the positives. Have a great day today. I send you love and hugs.

Thanks guys for your wonderful word of encouragement.  I took off work early today and went home and took a long nap.  Things are much better between us now.

Your words were/are such a blessing to me.  I am proud of the way I handled the situation but was disappointed that the temptation even rose up.  Guess it's a learning experience. 

Thanks so much for loving me.  You all are the best friends and support I've ever had.

Jacqui

Sorry I was missing in action yesterday..I was sick and went to the dr's ..with it turning into an ALL day affair..sigh..anyway...Jacqui..don't dwell too much about getting that first automatic feeling of food..time to medicate. That is something that's been a part of you for a looooong time but you somehow someway worked your way to the other side of it. Okay, it's a bummer you your husband argued but you'll get that patched up..look upon this as a learning experience for you. You were in the tough situation..you wanted food..but you said no! Lesson learned?? You are stronger than you give yourself credit for! I say...Good job Jacqui! Look to the positive!

I know what you mean.  Not being able to turn to food is like losing a best friend because "they just dont understand your needs"....  I've started exercising out my frustration... it works!