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I know you are feeling horrible right now so I don't want to say anything that will make you feel worse, but you really need to stop smoking.  Smoking delays healing (including your ulcer healing) in addition to all the other bad effects of smoking.  I looked at your profile and noticed that you said you thought having this surgery was the easy answer.  Given that, if you still think that, I think you should have a revision.  WLS is never easy and you will be on a modified diet the rest of your life.  Unless you are completely committed to that, the healthiest choice for you would be revision.  Believe me, I understand slipping up--I slipped up last week by eating more food than I should have--so I know we all mess up.  But if you are doing this for the easy way out, I think you are setting yourself up for another failure with a new pouch. Good luck.

no i didnt mean for it to sound like that what i was meaning was i thought in the beging it was going to be easy but it was alot harder then i could ever imagined-that is what i was pertainning too-no i do not feel that way now and i am doing good ive not really slipped up i follow the meal plans i usually cook from my bariatric cookbook= i just dont eat as much as im needed too because im not never hungry its hard to force myself to eat sometimes -its just this ulcer is really put a toll on my body and my mind feeling exhausted over everythingive had this bad luck going on this year me getting sick with this horrible ulcer pain yea i will take responsibility for this from not following dr orders and for smoking again=my hubby getting laid off work permently just bought new van now hes laid off no money to pay for it now unemployment isnt enuff-my kids will not obey what they r told they run all over me because im a big softy-my oldest daughter 14 keeps getting in trouble at school and the club she wont take her medicine for bipolar and i been so depressed because im not feeling well so i guess yeah so its all my fault im feeling this way

It sounds like you are having a really rough time--I know that when things go badly for me, I have a tough time completing just the usual everyday stuff, so I know it can be even harder to do all the "good for you" stuff we have to do with surgery.  Have you considered getting into counseling?  Maybe some parenting classes to learn techniques so you don't feel like you are being used as a rug?  Maybe counseling for your daughter so she understands the importance of taking her medicine?  Blaming yourself won't help at this point, but taking responsibility and making the needed changes will.  I hope you are able to change what you need to and find a solution to all the problems you are having.  Best wishes!

thank you yes we are in councling together we been twice so far we go once every 2 weeks so i no its still early for things to get better  things just seem so overwhelming right now and not feeling well dont help the situation -i made my mind up im going tonight to buy some sugar free mints so i can quit smoking and thats a start i gotta get this ulcer under control because the pain and discomfort is horrible feeling-

thank you for writting me i really apreciate that-you no what is so funny about you writting me? i was just lying in bed and prayed to god and asked him for his help and guidence then i couldnt zzz so i got up and read my mail and got this from you-wow-i was just telling my youngest daughter we were going to start going to church sunday before she went to bed-

thank you for your help but please remember me in your prayers because i seem to struggle day from day it seems like even though i pray and ask for help im not sure how to achieve the help?  i seem to turn back into who i was the next day it just dont seem right? what am i supposed to do? i need some guidance?

Have you tried the medication Chantix??  I smoked for 30 years and had tried everything...the patch, hynosis, the lozenge and gum.  None of it worked.  Within 2 weeks of starting this medication, I was a non smoker!  The man that invented it was a smoker and had quit.  He wanted something that would help people that had tried everything.  I quit in September, had my surgery in October and am still not smoking! Hope this helps....I know how hard it is to quit.  Good Luck! Robin