I don't know what I'm doing!

Linda, I wish I had a dollar for every time I felt like I was being a bad mom. I'd have enough to pay off all my bills with pleanty left ovet to get my girls done!  It is never easy making tough decisions when you know that it is going to be viewed as 'tough love' on your child. It's still hard on me, and my 'baby'..the one with ADDS (and recently diagnosed as being bi-polar) is 25. The only difference is that now, he hits me up for money with a big sob story to go with it...can't pay rent & gonna get kicked out (he's always had a warm place to sleep), no food for him (trust me, at +270 lbs, he's getting food from somewhere!), no clothes (guess what his Christmas & birthday gifts are??), no ciggarettes (he always seems to manage to have smokes around me...and it's always his 'last pack'...so he's getting them from someone). I wish to hell that everyone else would also tell him 'no' so that maybe he would learn that you get these things the old fashion way...you get a job & earn them! Would I be able to live with myself if he ended up homeless? Yes, I believe so..if it forced him to see things through an adult's eye. Would I feel like a bad mom because of it? Probably. I just thank God I have my daughter too. Her responsible life reminds me that I DID do something right as a mom! All you can do is your best. You're doing that Linda. Just be glad that your son is young enough to probably not know all the things associated with Bi-polar & ADDS. With Jay being older, he's researched it on Google so he had a fair idea of what he can blame on them! We're pulling for you! Sherri

Thank you all for the warm words and support. I think deep down I know this is the right thing we are considering, it's just so hard to do.