TGIF!

I am so glad today is Friday! But...I also have my fingers crossed for the weekend. It HAS to be better than last weekend! But to get through today first...                 

Gail..I hope you're feeling better today girlfriend!                     

Ellen...call me whenever is good for you. I'll be here at my desk...and welcoming any interuptions that comes my way...afterall, it's FRIDAY! LOL! Everyone..thank you very much for the outpouring of love & support. I have just gotten to the point that I'm not going to let anyone abuse me that way anymore. I hope any would-be hateful emailers take note that I am not just sitting on this crap anymore. If this is a 'public' place and you think you are going to use something that is said here to 'privately' abuse me, you are wrong. I WILL from now on post your email/offline messages here for all the world to see and know exactly how you are. I have had friends defend some of you and tell me 'oh, they aren't that bad'. Easy to say if you haven't been the recipient of this garbage or if you've never been privey to it. I guess in one way, I get some of this because I put myself out there. If you care about people, that is what yo do though. That doesn't mean I put myself out there carrying a huge sign saying 'Treat me like crap, I'll accept it' because I won't and I don't. When all that garbage was going on a month or so ago, I did not post a single post about it or to those involved in it. I did send out an email asking people NOT to post to it. I also blocked those responsible for it because quite frankly, I have enough going on in my life without that kind of stuff. I still got slammed though in that very first email I received yesterday. I am hoping that she...and her backers...will see from your response that it is not just me....or anyone else who had responded to those posts who doesn't appreciate their behavior. So everyone..thank you.                                 So that said, Bill was a little better last night. Indy Go approved him for their door-to-door program which means he will have more independence and be able to go where he wants to when I am at work. I think this is a very good thing! I really do believe that alot of his frustration stems from HAVING to depend on someone. And since I am the one there the most, that frustration builds up and I'm the escape goat for him to pour it out on. Just please, continue keeping us in your prayers (this is a request, not a question...and not an invitation to tell me how to save my soul. Believe it or not, I have 6 Pentecostal, First Assembly of God, fire, hell & brimstone ministers in my family that I can turn to if I want THAT kind of advise! In fact, I have a reverend on my friend's list...one I dated when he was first in minstry school. So....I do believe I am well aware of the condition of my soul and how to go about improving it!).  I'm also hoping that he does go ahead with arranging for marriage counseling. I am willing to listen & try any advise that may be given that I am in control of but I really don't think it would take too many sessions for a professional to realize that the root of the problem has little to do with the hearts..but more to do with Bill's eyes than anything else.                          

Well all you lovely people, have a terrific Friday!   

Sherri

sherri!  you are an amazing woman! no need to explain yourself to the haters....there is no reason people should be negative...this is a support group! did i say support....so common sense should oversee ignorance....we support one another....when you feel the words you type or say do not offer support skip the post...its pretty simple....i found that people who drag you down...try to step on you...and just plain cruel...have no life...this is why they interfere....now constructive criticism....it's nice to hear sometimes....but not when its cruel....so i respect you for standing proud and tall....and not taking any smack from anyone....you are a strong woman...and we love your roar! bless you!  as for today....i am in a great mood! sun is peaking thru the clouds...so more than likely the kids will have ballgames today....yah! i love watching my babies play sports....they keep me going! they run me til i am just plain wore out...but we sure do have fun....so we will be at the ball fields til 9 30ish tonight... i have to go do icky bloodwork...then off to the cancer center to do my infusions...YUCK! so added bonus that i am in a good mood....lol nothing special planned for the weekend....kids take sports pics tomorrow....at 3 different times...lol 8 ,9 and then 11am...but we play ball a few towns over...so i think i may pack a picnic and eat lunch at the park over there....if weather allows...lol  thought about goin rummaging today...but not too many around here....heard the thrift store is 1/2 price today....this will be my 2nd time ever going...its almost addicting....after my 1st visit...all i could think about was my next trip...i figured this will help with trying to fix my house up some....we had a housefire that was a total loss last year....bought the house i am living in....its a major fixer upper but was in my no budget...lol and was very close to parents...which has been nice with me being sick....i had to pay alot of money out of pocket for some of my meds...so the fixer up money kinda went out the window...last 2 months i have spent a lot of time in the house and it was just depressing...so my goal for summer/fall...is to make my house homey....its plain now.....hard wood floors thru most of it...they all need stripped sanded buffed shinned whatever ya do...need to get me several throw rugs...not goin to do carpet...no way i can right now....looking for some dinning room  chairs...b/f refinished a table that i just love that my dad bought at a rummage ...huge with a few leafs(sp)...2 pedastal style....my walls are bare...lost all my pics in fire...dinning room is red....almost barnyard red....and dark browns....thought about maybe looking for oriental things for it....living room is really neutral...so i don't care what i decorate that with....bathroom is small dark and drab....kids rooms needs wallpaper off and painted....it's just so stinkin much....i would be excited if i could atleast get the downstairs looking like a house...pics on walls a lil decor....the bad thing...i suck at decorating....i do not like any certain themes....everything is ok to me....i wish i was a country gal or a modern gal...or just heck anything so i would know where to start....but domestic goddess is just not me...i was a workaholic....so sitting on my tail the past 2 years is almost killed me inside....especially looking at this house....oh well i am rambling....so i better stop hope everyone has an awesome weekend! much love and huge hugs Kim

I've missed being on the board!  I've missed my buddies! Yesterday was a good day.  I had my 6 month check up and it went great.  I also got to have lunch with two of my favs, Brenda and Floyd.  I got my pampered chef stuff too!  The weather was yucky yesterday though and the gas prices made the trip a bit sour.  Floyd and Brenda made it all worthwhile though. My daughter had her Spring program last night.  It was called "Fine Arts Night".  They all sang songs about colors and did brief reports on different artists.  It was a fun night.  My brothers kids also go to the school so my parents took us all out for dinner after the program.  It was sweet. I don't have a lot on my schedule today so it will be a chance to catch up on some things that have been neglected.  I like catch-up days on Friday.  It makes Monday much easier to handle. Hope you all have a great day and an even better weekend. Smooches, Jacqui

BRAVO Sherri I don't know who these people are and why in the world they think you need them to intervene.  I wish I could help but I know all I can be is moral support and pray that you find resolution.  I don't know if I ever mentioned it but my DH has vision problems also.  He was born with congenital cataracts and had the lenses removed when he was 3.  He's always worn the thick coke bottle glasses.  He now has special contacts and he can drive. But all his life he has felt he's had to work harder for everything because of his vision and he worries (and is a bear to live with) when it is time to get his driver license renewded for fear he won't pass.  Sherri you are the heart and soul of this Indiana group. You are always here with helpful advise and a shoulder to cry on if needed. There are many others on here regularly but from the first day I found this site you have been here.  You ,Dawn and Ellen have been there from the start for me. EVen though we've only met a couple of times I feel we are family.  And I don't like people messing with my family. 

Jan, Thank you. It would be terrific to get our hubbys together, huh? Bill was born with anaritia..no iris'. Because of that, his eye tries to come up with other ways to filter the light. He had cataracts as a young boy too. As a young adult, when they were removed (and his lenses), his eyes fought back against the attack of light on them by developing glaucoma. That has caused multiple shunts (one, caused him to lose all pressure in his right eye..and therefore all vision), and multiple cornea transplants. They finally put an artificial one in his left eye ~2 years ago. While it won't fail, and the body has not rejected it, his eye tries to 'heal' itself by trying to re-attach blood vessels that were separated when some of the human cornea tissue was removed (they can't remove all of the human cornea tissue..just layers of it). He also grows scar tissue rapidly. Both, the blood vessels & scar tissue happen right acros/over the artificial cornea. Even if it didn't, his vision would be far from good. He can function some at least though. Because it does though, it blocks almost all of his vision..and then he has to have another surgery to have it removed. They did a different technique this last time and so far, he is having better success with it. Don't get excited. It means he can walk around the neighborhood, waiting for ny cars to go at any stop signs. It doesn't mean he'd be able to tell if a light is red & cars are stopping in order to cross at an intersection. Bill still has a 'legal' driver's lisence but only because the last time it was due, you could still renew online. He did it that way just because he didn't want to have to mess with going to the BMV for an ID. This next time, it'll be an ID. He hasn't driven though since 2000. Legal lisence or not, he's smart enough to know that there are some things that you just should not to.                         I really appreciate your sharing with me about your husband. Your moral support, prayer and understanding is very valuable to me. Thank you.                      Sherri

Hey y'all.. Well I've been up for a while but truthfully I don't think I even slept last night. It was horribly restless. I even took Nyquil to try and get to sleep and it didn't help (I have a nasty sinus infection and stuff hanging around thats spread to my chest some). I've been reading but not posting much because I've just not had a whole lot to say. Been soo tired again the past few days. Yesterday was pretty bad I slept 12 hours Wednesday night and was only awake 1.5-2 hours yesterday morning before I fell back to sleep and I ended up taking a 4.5 hour nap. Overall I'm doing well though. Not having the g-tube has made a huge difference. It's been 2.5 weeks now and I'm doing decent without it. I've had a couple bad days but overall I'm able to eat some. Still lacking on calories and what not but it all comes in time. We're planning our trip to Maryland next month now and trying to get things together as far as plans made with our drive up there and who all we're going to be visiting with. I'm very excited because I've not seen my sister up there in 5 years (shes the same one who had RNY in November) and I've not seen my nieces or any family up there in 5 years. It's going to be great fun. Well I guess thats all for now because I can't really think of anything else to say. (( hugs )) Sherri, keep your head up girl :)

Good morning, everyone. Maybe I should say good afternoon since it is after noon.  Today we went and got my new swing for outdoors. It is for my Mother's Day and birthday. I am getting Bill and new grill and that is for his birthday, Father's Day and our anniversary since his cost almost twice what mine did. lol I told him that the swing is the most important thing to me since when I sit on that I am in my sanctuary. I am at peace with the whole world and everything is good with me. I just get that calm and peaceful feeling when I am out there for some reason, so when I am upset out there I go. I read, or sometimes I just sit and watch people and traffic.  Today is just a kind of overcast day. It is a *****illy but it is just a day closer to summer so that is a good thing. Listen to me, I am being in such a good and thankful mood today, I wonder what is wrong with me! lol I got 2 pots of purple geraniums to go on my double shepherd's hook. They look so pretty and they were only $6.50 a peice. They are full and I told Bill that by the time we get the soil and the plants that is almost what we spent on those. Besides the ones that we planted last year never looked to good. These are full and starting to cascade over so I think I got a pretty good deal there. I am staying home tonight and working on my kitchen cabinets and these blasted flower bulbs from the church fundraiser. I am taking them to church on Sunday so everyone can get their own.  I have a birthday party tomorrow for Bill's cousin who is turning 50. That is going to be a all afternoon and evening event. Once his family gets together they just keep going on and on. Then on Sunday we are having a cook out for Mother's Day at my neice's house. Along with Mother's Day we are celebratinng my great neices 10th birthday which she had on April 1st. Autumn, my neice was out of state for school for work (she had to DQ college for the new store she is going to manage) so we had to put off her party until now.  I better get going. I will keep everyone in my prayers and special ones are going up for all who need it. Have a wonderful and blessed day and I will chat later on. Sending big hugs and love to all.

Sherri, I am so sorry that these type people have tried to become pests on our board. I don't really know who they are and just read some of the dialog from the last rant they caused. I have always said to "be kind to unkind people as they need it the most" However....these gals seem to be just plain sick and in love with causing pain for others. I really pity people like that that don't realize life is so precious and our time here is to be treasured and to help nurture others. How sad to be causing others pain and anger. We all just need to band together and keep the "Family" together and safe from those that try to hurt us. I am so sorry Sherri that you have been targeted as you are such a sweet spirit and have truly been a leader on our board. Many of us have grown to depend on your insight and wisdom in dealing with our WLS issues.  Hugs to you sweetie and things will get better with Bill too! he is a man afterall so we all understand! lol  Hugs! Marianne

Sherri I am sorry for all you are going thru right now.. I agree with the others you are a strong woman who is the backbone of this board you are an inspiration ,a friend to all of us and so knowledgeable. My mom says you always hurt the one you love the most, my dh goes for the jugular to when he gets angry and it hurts like h... but i know sometimes he does it out of desperation. As for the opinonated email you received you know opinons are like a......es everybody has one but she is going overboard . If you want we can all email her back with our opinons and maybe she will back off,sounds like she needs a life. You stay strong cause you are 1 of my sheros...

Darn Sherri, Someone is at it again??? I do not read every post and just am not as active as I should be...ANYWAY... nope if it isnt nice people just don't say it...I HAVE told people that cake and icecream is not a good idea unless they of course are sugar free and fat free.. and I HAVE told people I would pray for them... gosh if people got into my marriage problems they would think they were in Harper Valleys PTA... but it is my marriage so pray for me... thats ALL the advice or help I need because honestly... a human just can't do better in solving my problemsLife is just to short to be h ateful and people... just realize all Sherri does for the group... Best way to be nice??/ A way to go or a silent prayer when needed... She is a smart woman who knows how to fix it... sometimes it is just nice to vent it...I LOVE venting here... saves me venting it to someone who would take offence and punch me in  the nose... heheh (husbands,, sisters... used to be best friends) IF I post it here.. I leave it here never to be thought of again...Much Love all.... you to Sherri... Linda Kay