Some happy, some sad news.

Hi Guys, I haven't posted in awhile, been very busy.    My dad died from cancer shortly after a livere transplant.  It was like as soon as the started him on anti-rejection meds, and took his immune system down it went straitto cancer.  bile duct cance that went to his lungs.  He got his tx November 30, 2007 started to get short of breath the first of February and on February 22, he was diagnoised, he  came home and died piecefully.   I have been struggling in my marraiage for the last 21/2 years and after my dad died I kinda woke up and said enough.  Enough cheating, enough belonging to an adult site, enough of not beeing able to keep down a steady job, and bar far enought of your paranoid threats.  U want a bullet in your head don't you" June 1, 2008  It was then the courage came , I called 911 and got the girls packed.  The police came and escorted him off the property, we went to my moms next door.  I filed a restraining order on him Monday and Divorce on Tuesday.  Its been 1 mon almost .  Its hard but the girls and I are hanging in.  My only concern is he will tell my step-dayghter she can't seem, eithen though I have been her primary caretaker for 6 years.  She will be as devistated as me.   He is seeing the kids now but is to only have contact with me about the kids.    On the good side I lokk fabulous below goal and feeling great.  I think thats half the problem he accused me of having multiple affairs and I never had.  My new found personality just doesn't let people wakl all over me!!!!!!! 

Sarah J I am sorry to hear about your father! My brother has the same kind of cancer as he did. His started as colon cancer so no possibilty of a transplant. I am also sorry about your marrage ending but I will pray that you will continue to be happy and healthy. About your step daughter just remember that she will always love you even if he doesn't let her. If he stops her from seeing you she will see you someday! Just remember to love her always and let her know it as much as you can. GOOD LUCK!

Sarah Im so sorry about your dad. But im happy you got rid of your problem for noone deserves to go thru that,you and your girls deserve better. Your stepdaughter will see you again.. Take care of yourself

Life is to short to live with abuse..So sorry about your dad... I lost mine a year ago in NOV... Lost my mom 14 years ago...Looks like you spent some special time with him you can look back on...WLS can seem to work on marriages.. to bad they don't make the spouses go thru counciling, I am sure they need it as much or more than we do...Spouses get used to us being one way and feeling safe without even getting to know the real us...we don't actually change we just start feeling better about ourselves... wishing you the very best.. stay safe..Linda Kay

Hugs to you Sarah! It is good to see you on here, I have missed that Beautiful smile! I am so sorry that you have been thru so much. God will carry you thru and keep you strong and safe. You do what you know to be the right thing for you and your children and you will be glad for it. i will keee you in my prayers and please keep in touch with your family here..w.e are always here for you! Hugs! Marianne

Sarah...so sorry to hear about your dad....sounds like he went out of this world in at home in more ways then one. As for the DH- good for you! You took a step alot of my friends don't dare because of the repercussions. I live with someone that did this same crap and finally got my a** full. He threatened to turn the gas off (in his name), report me as an unfit parent, inform SS that I am not disabled and only faking (lke they don't have the med recs to prove this already), etc....He threw all this up at me when I finally gave him an untimatum to shape or get out. I was done with it all and not going to put up with it anymore. I got the gas out of his name, called the police and informed him of the situation, and called my attorney, So when the heat started I was armed with comebacks that stated to him that I was in control and there was nothing he could do to threaten me again. He had a heart attack in the midst of all this and I took him to the hospital (he has no family here) and stayed with him until they had him in a room. He finally realized at that moment that I was right and it was time for him to change his ways as well as his attitude. We have worked out alot of problems...but I am not sure how long this will last. He now understands that the situation is not for him to control but a partnership. I still have everything in my name so that if anything happens, my butt is covered. You stand your ground and keep the Faith that this will be remedied. I am a firm believer in Karma....he will pay for his mistakes eventually!