xpost: interracting with people who are obese

what 3 things do you wish the general public knew about interracting with people who are obese? what about medical presonnel?

Don't know if I have 3, but my biggest pet peeve in restaurants is hosts who seat obese customers in booths. We just don't fit well. Why make us have to ask for a different table?

As for medical personnel (I am a nurse), I wish they didn't 'assume' that just because someone is obese they have a list of medicines and medical issues a mile long.

I don't know.  I'd kinda like to be treated like everyone else.

I'm not the insecure type.  When I go to a restaurant I ask for a table.  I tell them "Your booths are not Fat people friendly, tell your manager." 

I don't expect people to handle me with care....I also don't expect them to know what I need without me asking for it.  It would be great if they thought about people of size when they MADE things.  SEATS in particular.  But as far as the face to face...I don't want to be treated differently.

I interview all Docs about how they feel about fat people.  If they have a  bias or if I detect that they are going to be blinded by my size...I tell them and move on.  My doc now is great.  I don't even let them weight me unless I am going in for something that really requires him knowing my weight.  I let him give me the "fat talk" about once a year.  He would be remiss not to talk to me about my size.  Once a year is enough.  I have been on enough diets to be a damn nutritionist.  I think BMI is BS.  Once a year is good.  He knows I am educated.

I'm not like a lot of fat people (women) in particular.  I've always been truthful about my weight.  I'm out spoken and if someone makes a comment I confront the situation.  You would be surprised what someone will do if you go to them and ask them...."Does that make you feel better about yourself to make fun of me?" 

I think this comes from being raised by fat parents.  They taught me to be proud of myself and stick up for myself.  It's always worked for me.  I know not everyone would be comfortable with my way of doing things.

But I certainly do not want to give people licence to treat me differently. 

I like the way you think, Candycain!

I always ask for a table at restaurants. I STILL do, even though I can fit in the booths now. It's just habit, I guess.

Jenny

1.  that we have feelings to, the looks and slurs are hurtful.
2. i cant get my bigg butt up on that examinging table so please dont ask me to.
3. just because im big doesnt mean im lazy and sit around stuffing my face all day.
Its funny the same people who used to roll their eyes and make slurs look at me now and smile,and im the one rolling my eyes and saying what idiots..

1. That people wouldn't look at you strange when you look at candy or cakes, like it is illegal for us to buy these things, even if they are not for us.

2. That inside we are just like skinny people. We have feelings too.

3. That not everyone fits in those small chairs in the waiting rooms.

General public or medical personnel, doesn't matter the same three things:
1. I am a God's creation, just like anyone else, please treat me like you want to be treated.
2. I have a working brain, just like anyone else.
3. I have hopes, dreams, fears and feelings like anyone else.

Bottom line: the golden rule still applies.