I want another job!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Long Vent

No offense taken from any of your posts, just thought I would say that first. Many of you are right in alot of ways, and believe me I respect it. I am not looking for pitty from anyone. I am not upset with anyone because of how they feel. It is only opinions and yes they do count. My feelings are a little bit hurt, but hey maybe they needed to be. I could have handled it better, I agree. I know sometimes I can be very hard-headed. But all of this is a learning experience. I don't expect nothing to be handed to me. I don't think I am all that and a bag of chips. I worked for everything, I have ever got. I was not born with silver spoon in my mouth, so I don't think the world owes me anything. If many of you knew me personally you would not say I am a bad person, but you don't know me at all. But the delightful thing is, you all gave me insight. But, as far as letting anyone besides my own mother talk to me any kind of way. It still stands........................ until next time, you ladies have a great weekend.

Happy Memorial Day to everyone.

P.S
Eat but done eat too much! LOL

Wow I applaud you for taking the advice given to you. Yesterday when reading your replies I wanted to smack you around myself,but it looks like you really took into consideration every ones opinions on the matter and that is not always easy to do.

Good for you.

I am just going to share what happened to me first then I'll tell you what I ended up doing. I did what you basically did and told my boss how unhappy i was and that he played favorites and that I was tired of it etc. I too have more education than he does I certainly felt better until Iwas wrote up in a review and got the lowest rating I ever had. No raise at all. Did it change the situation? No the same stuff still went on only now I was LABELED a troublemaker. I was not allowed to try and post out as I did not meet the minimum requirements. I could not get another position in any other dept.

So I decided I was going to try a little different tack. First of all I kept my comments to myself. I did everything they asked of me without complaining. Took on extra responsibilty and basically held it in as much as possible. I vented to myself and to family but never to company people. Everything was wonderful. We laid off a thousand people and the majority of those people were considered to hjave "BAD" attitudes. I survived that and a couple of other layoffs. 

Fast Forward I was nominated for an award. I was able to try and post out. I was given a good raise by our standards. I have to stay away from negative people because they tend to make me negative. My boss is happier, I am happier.

Have things changed? Not really What changed was how I viewed the situation. 

I urge you to do the same.  View it differently  and react differently.

As far as education does your company off tuition reimbursementt or training classes? Take as much free stuff as you can.  Even if the credits do not transfer just do some of the classes over again.

Good Luck to you

I think this is a beautiful post.  And motivational.

After nearly 40 years in office and professional work, some words of advice.

1.  Learn the job you want, not the job you have - Take on ALL additional responsibilities.   Every project on time - never late.  No excuses
2.  Dress for the job you want, not the one you have.

3.  Initiative.   Always be the one that volunteers.  No matter what the job is, with the right attitude, you CAN take something positive from the situation.

YOU got a raise.   No one in my company of 96,000 + people got one.  

Times are tough.    Use some tough love on yourself.  You will thank yourself a few years from now when you get the job of your dreams.   


Respectfully

Tink

Tameka,

Don't know how old you are, but lots of people, especially employers ARE GOING to talk to you in ways you don't like.  That is a part of life, if you fight with everyone, but your mother cause she bore you, you have a hard life ahead of you.  Sometimes constructive observations can come across as harsh.  But everyone here has been correct, you have to work hard, be nice and work as a team.  You won't like everyone and everything they say and do, but it is not your job to tell them every thought in your head. 

Just a thought, you said that god was the only one to judge you, but it appears that you made some very harsh judgements against people who hold the power to increase your position.....food for thought perhaps??

If you don't like the job, get out.  Your boss may or may not be treating people well, but she is still your superior and as long as she is such, your confrontation, if you truly said and did what you claim, is grounds to fire you for insubordination. I would have fired you on the spot, myself.

Like I said, don't like it, then get out. But, attempting to belittle a superior employee is no way to handle any situation. 

I agree with most of the posters.  I run my own office, if you would have talked to me like that you would have been let go on the spot.  By the way there would not have been one thing that you could have done about that.

You actually frightened me by some of the things you said.

You are going to lose your job if you don't change your attitude. 

 

On May 22, 2009 at 6:23 PM Pacific Time, Tameka1981 wrote: I have been at my current job for a little over 8mos, and I am so desperately needing a change. First off I graduated from a medical assistant program last year in October. Where I work at now I work as a check in person at a oncology practice. I took this job because I had financial obligations I had to meet, and the opportunity to move on to work as a medical assistant. Those were the only two reasons why I took it to get at least part of a toe in the door. My boss knew this. I asked for a certain amount when I got hired. She said that because of my work history ( stability) she can only start me off at 11.00/hr, but assured me that I will get what I am asking for in 90 days. Well I started there in 8/2008 and i did not get my 90day review until 2/2009. I have busted my but working in this place hoping that it would pay off. Well guess what, in my review I got a little .35 raise. My boss told me that she thought I was worth that much. I felt like reaching across her desk and choking the dog mess out of her. I felt like it was a slap in the face. Okay so a few months later we had another problem when she  was talk in to me like I was stupid. Her exact words" I cant believe you cant follow simple directions, a first grader can follow directions better than you, I thought better of you. Okay, that was the straw that broke the camels back. I have been insulted but not like that. I let he slide many months with her sly comments, and this day I could not let her shoot down my self esteem and belittle me. My comments were" I have bent over backwards to do overeating you ask me to do, and this i how you are going to talk to me. I am not like your other employees total pushovers. You are dealing with a real person, and I have feelings and you have trampled on them long enough. I am done with letting you talk to me like I am stupid. I have been asking you so- called managers for help for months, and you have yet done nothing. Better yet since  am so dumb, how about I do you one better. You can take this extra responsibility you are trying to pile on me and do it yourself. " she then said, Oh yes you will do it" I told her, I bet my ridiculous .35 raise I won't, and mark my words you will respect me. I told her, you want me to work for nothing. I have a Ivy League background compared to your lucky 5 years of being a manager of which you never went to college to earn a degree. Do what you want, I see myself a a dead end job working here. You promised me this and promise me that. How many other people have you lied to? Your point of view is becoming more transparent each day, and I see through your bull****. You lied to me about how long I had to be in my position in order to transfer to another department. I don't have to wait a year. I can move anywhere as long as a slot is open" That was told to me by her boss, after I talked to her.

She does not want no one to do better than her, she is upset with me because I am not a suck up like everyone else. Before all of this happened, I talked to the lab manager and she was willing to give me a part time position, just so I can put my skills to use to start of. My boss and the lab manager are really good friends. After, I put my boss in her place, the lab manager all of a sudden changed her mind about letting me work. This really ticked me off, because my boss did tell me, that if she has anyhting to do with it, she will make sure I don't work in the lab. The lab manager is going to tell me that I cant hire you because it would be unfair to the lab techs,Now mind yo, I am cool with all the lab techs and they told me that they would love to have me work with them. They know I have limited experience, but let me tell you this I always got the vein perfectly when I went to draw blood. Then the lab manager went on to tell me that the lab techs would not let me draw on them, I had talked to the lab techs when I first considered applying to the lab, and they volunteered. At, this time I knew she was feeding me BS, a whole bunch of it at that. And then what she said next, I kinda shut down because I am so angry. She said , You don't have any experience, I told her she knew that from the beginning. I know my boss went and bad mouthed me, I must admit she got me good, she got me really good. But what she don't realize, is that she does not want to face me head on. She think she;s bad. Okay I will show you who is bad. I am so ticked right now ladies. she has never seen my Dr. Jekyll Mr Hyde personality. I will have her think she is the one that's crazy. Everyone in that office is fake except for a few. Nobody in management has a college degree. The girl in human resources came from the lab, and don't have a degree either. I got a cake baked for everyone in that place. I always have the last laugh I guarantee you.


Then to make matters worse, I applied for a job yesterday and they called me today. It was for a MA position in a OBGYN ofc. In the past, I have been a CNA for 7yrs worked as a Medical Office Secretary/ Manager in a family practice for 3years. Worked in Insurance claims for 2yrs. She told me that she was looking for someone with more experience. In my mind I was like, Okay then why did you call me. Before we got off the phone, I added I know I don't have what you want, but everyone has to start somewhere. She said " I will keep your resume on file and keep you in mind for future position. I was like okay and thanks for calling            For no reason............

Ladies I am too the point where I just want to give up, I was telling my mom earlier today, that i feel like I wasted my money even going to Kaplan, to find out later after I graduated, that the credits don't transfer.

How is anyone suppose to get experience if no one is willing to give someone a chance. This is ridiculous, I have always looked on the bright side, and always stayed optimistic. I got on alot of peoples nerve being that way. My brother once told me" Tameka how can you be happy with life when get dealt a raw hand alot. And I always Said God didn't bring us this far to fail.

I am now starting to see how he felt, I don't like who I am becoming, I feel that with all of this negativity bogging me down I am starting to become hateful and bitter.

And then today, the lab manager tried to carry on a conversation with me after my phone Interview. I wanted to say " I just wish you would stop alking to me you fake person" But instead I just ignored her.


Sorry for the long vent, thanks for listening I am sorry but the way you went about it with your boss
you are not acting professional.

The first rule at work is always try to get along with everyone and remember  that one day the person who has less experience or less time on the job or at the company may one day be your superior.


Consider this a  person who walks across the street when the little walk sign came up even when they saw a car speeding down the road or a car that wasn't slowing down----> you may be right but you can also be dead right.

If for some reason you can justify talking to your boss like that it may of been right in your mind but it was a career ender in that company.

Sometimes we just have to make concessions
to keep a job.

If "I" was you I would ask for a meeting with your boss and apologize.