NEVER PUT OFF TILL TOMORROW

WHAT YOU CAN DO TODAY:  I've heard this saying all my life but today it ha**** home big time.

Earlier this week one of my grateful post was for the  good health of my parents;
A friend had called me telling me her Mom was in the hospital - and that she was afraid
she would not be leaving it alive.  Yesterday I thought about stopping on my way
home from work and visiting her but I had another commitment and thought
I'll go tomorrow after work ;  Well her Mom passed away at 12:15 pm this afternoon.

The moral of this is :  if it involves an ailing loved one -  screw whatever else
you have to do and take the time to visit.

Some of you know KathyCarr from the board and working for Dr Singh at St Agnes-
The  lady I am talking about is her Mother.  My best friend Tricia, Kathy,and Diane
have lost a loving mother and their Dad  John has lost his wife.  I so regret
not taking an hour from my day yesterday to visit with her- but hindsight is
20-20.  Please learn from my tragic error.

Ohhhhh Darla I am so sorry honey.  Please do not beat yourself up for it. 
This definitely teaches us that tomorrow is not promised. Go hug Mom & Dad and tell them that I love them dearly. 

My condolences to KathyCarr and family.

I love you too my dear friend.
(((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))

OMG Darla!  PLEASE tell me that *I* wasn't your other commitment!  I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's mother.  She and her family has our heartfelt condolences.

Thanks Heather: and you were part of my other commitment  ( I only admit this
because you obviously figured it out from my original post)  I'm beating myself
up big time but as my friend told me " Mom knows you loved her - shes told
me several times I could not have found a better friend if I'd tried. ".    I went to visit them a few months back and they were so thrilled that I had my WLS -  they wanted me to do it almost as long as my own parents had. There was a time (about  9-10 years ago that I saw
them pretty much on a weekly basis: pre marriage for their daughter and
I used to go out with her every weekend at least once).  One year I helped
my friend put up their Christmas tree - I believe her Mom was in the hospital
at the time and she wanted it done for when her Mom came home.
I also spent a couple Christmas afternoons visiting with them.

I put up the post right after I heard she had passed:  I should have realized you would
see it and figure it out.  I guess I just wanted to let people know that life is too short
and to not put off the really important things.

First of all, stop beating yourself up.  I *thought* you had said you were going to call Heather and reschedule?  Regardless, I know you're a good friend to Kathy, so try to take some comfort from that. 

Yes, hindsight IS 20/20, but there is NO sense in beating yourself up.  Her Mom's at peace now and not in any pain, and you need to also take comfort from that.  Kahty and her family will need you now, and I know you'll be there for her.  I'm sure her Mom would be grateful for that.

Hugs,

Tia

I[d like to say I'm sorry for your loss.  But I'd like to say that she knows.  She knows you loved her, you were like a daughter to her.  Sometimes and usually things happen for a reason.  May be, to have seen her in her last hours would have been a tramatic thing in the long run and for you to remember her as you do is "the plan".  I hope for you peace.  She is at peace and your heart should be as well.  Much sincere regards to you.

Mari/Charla

Ohhhh I have so been where you are and I dont want you to feel bad. We are all HUMAN and we make mistakes. Procrastination is the way of life for all of us in one way or another. But I have been in your shoes and it hurts to think the "What ifs" over in your head. I am so sorry for your friends loss. ((((((Hugs))))))))~Jilly~

I'm so very sorry for your loss.  I agree with the others, please don't beat yourself up too badly.  You had no way of knowing how quickly this would come.  At least she knew you loved her and vice versa.

I do want to 2nd your statement though to not wait.....a couple years ago my husband and his mom had a huge falling out and she had a heart attack and died before amends could be made.  So to add what you already said about not waiting, please don't wait to make amends with someone you love as you never know what tomorrow brings.  Have peace in your hearts.

{{hugs}} Darla.  My condolences to you and the family.

Just want to thank everyone for your responses;
I have stopped beating myself up:  I'll  always regret it but I cann't do anything to change it.
I'm going to be taking off Wens to attend the funeral and going to the viewing tonight
and maybe tomorrow .