Last Night's Support Group Meeting...

Well I get to the auditorium and it's set up for SEMINAR...  OMG I think did I get it WRONG? (highly likely given the ADHD)... no it's right the seminar is tonite as well so they moved the support group to a different room... and the nice lady in the pretty dress walked me to the community room.  It was PACKED.   Mostly faces I did not recognize.

Sloane was there (she never has been there before)....  Ranesa greeted me warmly and started the group...  Lots of pre-ops... a couple of folks 2 years out a few 1-3 months out, one woman who was 6 years out... and came down from PA...


and a couple of REVISIONS... two lapbanders who are being revised...  interesting meeting.
Talked a lot about how the NUMBERS DON'T MATTER

towards the end DVR dropped by... he normally is not at the meetings since I've been going.  I don't know why folks think he's cold.  I like him so very much.

I just listened.  and at the end asked Ranesa if we could talk.

I told her what i was eating/drinking
i told her I was frustrated and dejected
I said that I was thinking of switching doctors

She told me:

1. you are doing everything right
2. you have every right to be dejected
3. DO NOT GET ON THE SCALE
4. do liquids ONLY on Wednesday
5. come and get her when I weigh in on Thursday and if I don't show a loss she will talk to the rest of the team and tell them she thinks it's in my best interest to move forward with or without a loss...

So tomorrow will hopefully be the day I get my date.  Even though DVR is scheduling about 4 weeks out... My plan is to schedule brian for the Second week in August and I don't want to go till After September 19th...  so it should NOT be a problem...

Thanks to everyone who called me and PMed me.  All of your support and friendship really helped!

I agree with Tia - I kinda noticed that; and it's true, the guys are going to drop a lot quicker - I've seen one lose 2 people worth in 6 months.  If you measure against Brian - it's going to be a rough journey for you - and one riddled with issues.  Nessa is Nessa - Brian can't wear your panties...right?  SMILES

Good luck with you hun!  Just you - I'm rooting for! 

((((HUGS))))

Nessa:

I'm so glad you talked with  Ranessa:  shes the best !

I agree with Tia and candy :  While Brian will need your support you need to be concerned  about yourself -  You are just as important! 

Will be thinking of you tomorrow and sending good vibes

<<>> Good luck tomorrow. you know where to find me if you need to call/email to vent.

Thanks Sylvie.  I shot you an email.

Nessa I have tried to encourage you and support you. I did not pm you or call you since I dont have your number but I hope me putting my feelings out on a post did not hurt your feelings. I sure hope it didnt upset you. I try my best to support everyone and give encouraging words to all. I am glad you talked to Ranessa and you feel better about things. I knew it would work out in you favor. As I said good things come to those who wait and I can see it happening to you..I must say I do agree with Tia about the Brian thing. I am sure if it was my hubby things would be the same. It is so hard to take care of us when we are so good at taking care of others.

                                                                                                          Julie

Julie,

I am not sure why in the world you think I don't think of you as supportive

and I'm also NOT sure why MY POST ABOUT ME got turned around to be totally about how I am screwing up by not taking care of myself and caring too much about my HUSBAND.


LET ME POINT OUT TO THE HATERS HERE:  

DVR (THE GUY IN CHARGE FOLKS) and HIS STAFF treat  us as a team. AS A UNIT.  YES  we are individuals, BUT (as MARRIED people know)  it's a team effort.   When I called for an appointment the statment was  "OH YOU NEED A COUPLES APPOINTMENT".

While we are individuals we are a team and we are a unit.

What amazes me is that this post mentioned BRIAN once in reference to scheduling his surgery  and all of a sudden I"m being accused of not taking care of myself.

THIS was a post ABOUT ME... but NO it had to be turned around to ONCE AGAIN TAKE CONTROL  and be CRITICAL of me.

OMG Haters what the heck. What is there to HATE? We all come here for support be it pre op weight loss, prior weight loss surgery and the need to maintain the loss and the need to keep our sanity thats it. I thought this board was for that purpose. Not to call people names.. The only thing we all HATE is FAT... Now figure out how we are Haters ....

                                                                                                                Julie