Last Night's Support Group Meeting...

Nessa I just did not want to hurt your feelings by posting out loud and did not think first. Thats all by no means am I a hater you seem to be down that Brian is making progress and not you. I doo understand about the couple thing but you are important too thats all I am trying to say. You must do what you feel not what anyone else feels. I dont feel for one minute anyone turned anything around we have all tried to support both of you in your quest to be thin and healthy. No one is being critical of you I think we all want you to take care of yoursel as well as Brian. I cant be critcal of anyone as I have not had surgery or any consults yet. I feel you are being critcal on yourself and hard on yourself since you wanted to give up, quit and leave the board. I am sorry you feel as if we turned this around and I by no means said I thought you didnt feel I was supportive. I just said that I had tried to be supportive but had not pmed you or called thats it.

 

                                                                                                     Julie

Nessa,

As soon as I read your much "needed attention" post yesterday I chose not to respond to it because from previous experience I have realized that you do NOT take advise verry well.  So I just figured that if I left it alone you wouldn't get all bent out of shape.  

Unfortunately you have yet again taken responses that are sent to you in support and have turned it around yourself.  I really was not even going to take the time to answer this post either until you have sent numerous nasty pms to a very special person in my life.  

If you can not take support the way it comes here on the forum then do not post how you feel about things. 

My husband and I have had surgery yes we are a team but he has his journey and I have mine.  I have my goals and he has his,  When he reaches his I am happy for him I don't throw myself on the ground and cry bloody murder because he is doing better and getting there before me.

One thing you really need to do is to be a little more open minded and see that the friends that were giving you advise was trying to help you NOT hurt you,  

The only Hater  here is you..........

By the way don't waste your time to PM me!

i have not sent numerous nasty pms to anyone.

please.

this post was about me till someone who you all follow like she is god attacked me yet again.

LOL you crack me up.. No one follows anyone here like anyone is God.  Sometimes people can not handle the truth and guess what you are one of those people.


  

ya know
had the post said I was lying about my food, my exercise, my water consumption maybe then I would have listened.

Had the post said anything about my being worried or upset about brian I would have listend.

Had Tia not posted the first reply about how horrible i was to care about my husband (which had NOTHING to do with the post in the first place but was just her way to get a dig in on me) how many other folks do you think would have attacked me for caring about my spouse?

and as for PMing you.

now that it's out in the open I don't care.  and I know Candy has me on ignore.

Nice.
Mature.
go ahead. quote me so she can see it.

i've played Nice.

I made a post that was POSITVE and the FIRST thing that happens is your fearless leader attacks me for having the gall to mention my husband ONE time about his surgery date.  she pulled it out of thin air.  I absolutely cannot see how everyone got from this post that I was more worried about Brian than me.

I thought it was a good positive post. I was going to TRY to be nice. 

I am constantly attacked and assaulted both in public and in private by the self proclaimed 'leader' of this board.

and I am sick and tired of it.

I have been on the boards since 1-09, and I have 1 question. Who is our fearless leader? I had no idea we all had titles on this forum. So if that is the case, I will pick mine as the Queen! Everyone needs to chill,and remember what the Oh forum is all about! I wish all the best with their OWN WLS journey! Leslie

My sentiments exactly!

There are no LEADERS on the board. Just a lot of support but no ONE person is a LEADER on this board. It takes ALL OF US to make this board what it is and ALWAYS has been. IMO ;o)

there are not supposed to be.  but  it always happens.  it's human nature.

on the South Beach Board I was on I was a very active voice.  I was in all the threads I knew all the information and I was most helpful.

some folks did not like my style and told me to  "go find your own board to be mean"

and I did.  and most of the board followed me. including the moderators who now play at my board and moderate at the old board. my board has about 2,000 members now.  it's locked down and private and you can't join without prior approval.   works well.  but I digress.


I came in and posted what I thought was a joyous Happy post to start a joyous happy thread. I figured my friends would be happy for me.

I got shot down by the most active powerful voice here. I was told that although the post was about me, i was  too concerned with my husband.  I personally don't see that from this post.  do you?  Does anyone see this post being ME overly concerned about the man I am married to?

NO?

so why did it deteroriate into  " Nessa you have to worry about you and not your husband?"

You tell me.