I need dating advice.

This one I am printing out to take.  Lots of usefull info here! Scott

I would pay for her golf, but not the other couples. I would do the same at dinner. But do not plan on a kiss or anything else to happen on the first meeting/date.

The most important thing to do during the date is to start off strong on the first two holes but to get worse on all the next holes and lose at golf.   If there is a really fancy hole like a wind mill or a loop blow up big and get 10 strokes behind. Let her get ahead in score by the mid way and then let her win by at least 5 strokes. But never tell anyone that you are playing bad on purpose.  It is better to be a loser in mini-golf and a winner in life.

As Scot said, ask her questions about herself, look at her when she answers them, and (if at all possible) try to remember what she said about herself.

 Herb

Now you may be asking too much.  I have never lost at mini-golf so the thought is really tough.  But to win the big prize......perhaps

Hi Scott, Here's some dull advice: Try to relax and not plan too much. If you make this a big deal--A DATE!!!!!!!!!--you'll put a lot of unnecessary pressure on yourself. Instead, try to just go and have a good time and maybe make a new friend (and more, eventually). Be friendly, don't hide your sense of humor, and don't deliberately try to impress her. If you are yourself (as much as any guy can be under such cir****tances), you and she will will find out how you get along with each other. If you are some "Scott" in quotes that you're really not, you'll set yourself up to have to pretend to be "Scott" again or to 'fess up and hope she likes Scott better than "Scott." Now here's my last 2-cents: Don't expect or press for "action" after this sort of casual first encounter. You don't want to seem pushy or desperately horny. Just let her know you enjoyed meeting and being with her and see how she reacts. You can ask if its okay to call or not as seems best (and you can always call the next day or so and say thanks). Of course everything in this arena is personal and unpredictable, so trust yourself. You've come across on this forum as a funny, thoughtful guy so I'm betting that's how you'll come across in person. (And "experts" say that women are attracted to men who have a sense of humor.) Most people are nervous on first meeting blind dates so she probably is too. Try to make her comfortable without pressure and you'll be ahead of the game. Whatever happens, give yourself credit for all that you've accomplished so far--including this next positive step. Enjoy yourself.

Thanks Doug.  I talk a big game but you know how that goes.  Good advice. Scott

i'm too blown away by bajaddicts reply to reply myself......lol!

Not sure I can add much here, other than that Hefty makes a nice tall kitchen garbage bag should the Magnums be insufficient. At least it works for me. Totally off topic, but I heard that the CIA arranged for crates full of a bunch of condoms, presumably for our GIs, to be intercepted by Japan during WWII. They were all about 15 inches long and 4 inches in diameter. Talk about psychological warfare! Seriously, my advice. Be yourself, listen at least as much as you talk, try to relax and have fun. Offer to pay for her golf/dinner, but don't make a big deal out of it if she declines. JP

I am no good at first dates, I usually just paid for my dates. It was well worth the money, they left after I was done. Look for an adam's apple, and if you don't see one, go forward with the date as planned. Have fun!

Scott, You can try to impress her by stuffing a pair of socks down the front of your pants and tell her in golf you always bring your own "putter"  In this day an age just make sure you are the only one with a lump in the front of your panrs! Have fun and just be yourself!!       Dan