God's gift to women?

This is a great topic, even early out, I can see/feel, that even more than the physical changes I am going through, the mental ones are more important. I mean, what good will it do to lose the weight and be healthy, but still "act" and "behave" like a 500lb man.
Not only with women, but just the general attitude and shield we can put around ourselves at times to "protect" us from insults and stares etc... .
I used to sing a lot in a band, even when I was hovering near 400lbs, and the same women that would shun me as a fat guy, would be stuffing their number in my pockets as a singer, which actually pissed me off as much as it flattered me.
Like I said, even as early out as I am, I can see the mental and emotional work needed is just as important as the physical, if not more so... Thanks for bringing this up Boner..
Guy

I've lost 160 pounds and still can't stand to look at myself in the mirror.  It is just a learned, self-protective behavior for me.  If I can't look at myself, it is even more foreign for me to think others would or do.  I weigh in the 250's now and am about 6'3"".  if I was younger, I might have thought about this more, but at 56 and married, it certainly doesn't come easy.  Perhaps when that model says something to me and i blush, I will give it some more thought.

Lou

When I was heavy I was harmless and could talk to any woman, and any woman would talk to me.  Now that I am thin many of them think I am hitting on them and get all defensive.  I've been married for 26 years and have no intention of straying, buy I really hate the way some women treat me now.

 Geez, if only I had that problem (as I've lamented before on here) ..   I feel like I'm just as invisible to them now as I was @ 461 lbs., and that realization is slowly doing me in, slowly but surely.   But then I was always naive about such things, looking back on other situations I was in when much younger and less heavier ..  

  Maybe "women's intuition" means they can know stuff about us we don't even know about ourselves ..   Or maybe I just have defective pheromones .. hmmmm  ,,   &:-D) 

I thought some hotties bought your supper the other night........

 Hmmm  good point, Fishman ..    But as someone posted earlier, they did take off before I even found out they did, which makes no sense if they were wanting to meet me ..   

  Maybe it was simply as the last poster on the subject opined, just a "random act of kindness"? ..   Possibly a new kick or something among young(er) folk ..  (?)

   We may never know ...   

Yes, 7 years no sex. Hell I can't even take pitty sex if it's offered just I wouldn't feel right. Guess I've got these crazy morals and insecurities when it comes to that. I'm like a confused teenager LOL. I'm also very chicken when it comes to asking women out and stuff. It's quite pathetic really. There are a lot of women out there that do/did want to date me or whatever, but sadly I'm one of those Shallow Hals. I am utterly and honestly not attracted to most bigger women. I feel so bad and stupid for it cause I'm big myself. I've tried too, i've gone on dates or whatever, but there's just nothing.

Don't get me wrong though. There are a few that come along that I totally get into and do get attracted to, but those ones are taken (typical). I'm not into super-skinny models either. I'm a man into Marilyn Monroe types. 

Some day my ass will straigten out. /shrug. God and i'm almost 34!

vent vent vent...

I never saw myself as fat really. I still don't. Denial can be a wonderful thing. NOT.  I also do not date but I never saw myself as being attractive to the opposite sex. I'm one of the wonderful personality people that although most women like they go for the bad guy.

I don't get the look either from anybody

Heh I absolutely wanted to be dillusional and assume that women would find me attractive.  Not that I wanted to do anything or had hopes of anything coming of it.  I just never thought much of my looks before, well at least nothing positive.

I do think I have gotten some smiles and conversations from ladies that I don't think would have given me even a cursory glance in the past. 

I still see the fat guy in the mirror, and I still think of myself as fat.

Interestingly I was talking with another guy in my support group, and he indicated that he had a hard time recognizing himself in pictures.  I thought he was just b.s.ing me.  Well I had 2 seperate instances recently, where I was looking at a picture and I absolutely 100% did not recognize myself.  I though who the F is that, and why did my wife take a picture of him.  I thought maybe she had taken a picture of the race winner.  Turns out it was me.  Then another picture was with her, and I really did not recognize myself, I was wondering who she was getting her picture taken with.

Scott

 Great post boner. I got hit on a few weeks ago at school by a guy and it was the funniest thing because if you know me I'm the most cluesless thing on this planet you'd basically have to grab my junk for me to catch your drift. But anyway, I felt really flattered no matter that it was a male it was just another PERSON PERIOD, that's how I looked at it. I felt that I was finally attractive enough for SOMEONE to notice haha. Women don't really HIT on ppl or at least they don't hit on me but oh well, I'm happy with the one I've got. 

  I feel like I get more glances in a positive light rather than the really quick flick of the eyes to see what I look like and then realize I'm huge as a whale and glance at something else really really quickly to make it seem like they really weren't looking at me to begin with thing. That pissed me off the most I think. The fake out glance. Act like they're looking at you and then oops, you're too fat for their eyes to take in! The data is enormous! But now I feel that I get more lingering glances, like I'm not as hard on the eyes or the brain doesn't feel like it's going to explode from taking me in.