Question I Need Guy Input On
O.K. well maybe this one is beter asked in TT, but here goes .... 
I found out last Monday a.m. that one of my two 1/2 bros passed away up in MI last Sunday night of a sudden, massive h.a.
(yep, he just got too big, diabetic and physically neglectful @ 60 after his wife passed 3 years earlier, IMHO 
) .. I had not seen this brother in over 18 years .. Just a big difference in age and distance between us (and having different mothers and "households"), nothing "personal" or any animosity .. 
In fact, we got along good at that "reunion" 18 years ago .. 
Question is, what do I send up to the funeral?
It will be just a memorial service at his house, held by my 1/2 niece and 1/2 nephew (his kids), and my other 1/2 bro (whom I've never met - he and dad did NOT get along) and 1/2 sister (haven't seen her in 18 years either) .. He was cremated, so there is no "funeral" I guess .. (never been to a "cremation" before) .. 
I've had people tell me to send a plant or some flowers, or just a card ..
What do you guys suggest?
Whatever I send, I'm finding it very awkward as to what to say w. it .. Saying "Beloved Brother" or "Dear Brother" would be kinda facetious under the cir****tances, since we were not at all close .. Again, what would you suggest?
(btw, on a side note, my 1/2 neice had RNY 3 years ago and is still @ goal ..
If only my brother had gotten it done! 
She is also getting her husband in next month to try to get RNY for him, as he's up to 400 lbs. now. 
They see now what excess weight can do to us! 
)
I found out last Monday a.m. that one of my two 1/2 bros passed away up in MI last Sunday night of a sudden, massive h.a.
(yep, he just got too big, diabetic and physically neglectful @ 60 after his wife passed 3 years earlier, IMHO ) .. I had not seen this brother in over 18 years .. Just a big difference in age and distance between us (and having different mothers and "households"), nothing "personal" or any animosity .. In fact, we got along good at that "reunion" 18 years ago .. Question is, what do I send up to the funeral?
It will be just a memorial service at his house, held by my 1/2 niece and 1/2 nephew (his kids), and my other 1/2 bro (whom I've never met - he and dad did NOT get along) and 1/2 sister (haven't seen her in 18 years either) .. He was cremated, so there is no "funeral" I guess .. (never been to a "cremation" before) .. I've had people tell me to send a plant or some flowers, or just a card ..
What do you guys suggest?
Whatever I send, I'm finding it very awkward as to what to say w. it .. Saying "Beloved Brother" or "Dear Brother" would be kinda facetious under the cir****tances, since we were not at all close .. Again, what would you suggest?
(btw, on a side note, my 1/2 neice had RNY 3 years ago and is still @ goal ..
If only my brother had gotten it done! She is also getting her husband in next month to try to get RNY for him, as he's up to 400 lbs. now. They see now what excess weight can do to us! ) Frank talk about the DS / "All I ever wanted to be was thin, like that Rolling Stones dude ... "
HW/461 LW/251 GW/189 CW/274 (yep, a DS semi-failure - it happens :-( )
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