Why Is It? (Gals Finding Guys vs. Guys Finding Gals)
Or maybe my way of thinking is just warped on the subject ... 
But, looking at some of the profiles on TT .. and their stories how, as a pre-op, they met and even married their "loves" at their biggest weight .. It seems to just reinforce for me something I have noticed for many years now re: the male/female relationship: it seems a woman, no matter how old, "big", ugly or "kidded" she is, can always find some guy to take her in, marry her, love her, give her things, etc. but it just doesn't work that same way with us guys ..
I mean, after all, how many times do you see a homeless GAL? (unless she's obviously a total psycho case
) .. 
Do you agree? disagree? kinda agree?
But, looking at some of the profiles on TT .. and their stories how, as a pre-op, they met and even married their "loves" at their biggest weight .. It seems to just reinforce for me something I have noticed for many years now re: the male/female relationship: it seems a woman, no matter how old, "big", ugly or "kidded" she is, can always find some guy to take her in, marry her, love her, give her things, etc. but it just doesn't work that same way with us guys ..
I mean, after all, how many times do you see a homeless GAL? (unless she's obviously a total psycho case
) .. Do you agree? disagree? kinda agree?
Frank talk about the DS / "All I ever wanted to be was thin, like that Rolling Stones dude ... "
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Geez, thanks for that vote of confidence, Cookieman .. 
I never said anything about ME.
(and, btw, have you ever noticed what TYPE of gals usually go for those type of guys -- when's the last time you saw "Barbie" walking romantically hand-in-hand with "Jumbo Jim", esp. if Jim ain't rich or famous? I think there's even a funny photo floating around out there which demonstrates that point.)
I never said anything about ME.(and, btw, have you ever noticed what TYPE of gals usually go for those type of guys -- when's the last time you saw "Barbie" walking romantically hand-in-hand with "Jumbo Jim", esp. if Jim ain't rich or famous? I think there's even a funny photo floating around out there which demonstrates that point.)
Frank talk about the DS / "All I ever wanted to be was thin, like that Rolling Stones dude ... "
HW/461 LW/251 GW/189 CW/274 (yep, a DS semi-failure - it happens :-( )
I also gotta agree with this one. Guys seem to be alot more apt to approach women because they're wanting to get some action, ANY action. After the action, I guess alot of them are like, hey this isn't bad...I'll try that again (i.e. get married, etc). Most women that I know (mostly my wife) could care less if she NEVER got the "candy cane" again, so they're looking for other things and are usually more clear headed about it. I guess you can be more selective when you don't have the "gotta get laid, gotta get laid RIGHT NOW" mentality.
I was having a similar conversation with a corworker (male, I don't wanna get fired!) the other day about "gotta have it" type thinking. He said, and I agree, I probably would have waited until I had my life together and out of college before "getting it on" with the ladies. If you've never had it, you don't really know what you're missing and you can do without it. But..once you have it, you gotta KEEP getting it! LOL Makes your thinking alot less rational!
I was having a similar conversation with a corworker (male, I don't wanna get fired!) the other day about "gotta have it" type thinking. He said, and I agree, I probably would have waited until I had my life together and out of college before "getting it on" with the ladies. If you've never had it, you don't really know what you're missing and you can do without it. But..once you have it, you gotta KEEP getting it! LOL Makes your thinking alot less rational!
Bah.
This is rediculus. I found my wife when I weighed almost 700 lbs. If you're yourself, and you're honest, and you're not a neanderthal, and you have the attitude of finding a friend and someone that's going to be around your whole life instead of going out to "get laid" - you'll find someone, and it'll last.
In other words, I disagree.
I found my wife - totally by accident. We fell in love, got married, and we're here over six years later - almost five of them married - and more in love than ever.
Besides, here in Orange County, CA - we see homeless women all the time.
Trust me - if you come out of the "I wanna get laid" mentality and actually treat a woman as a human being, good things happen.
Not to sound like Dr. Phil, but you have to like who you are, and look beyond the physical aspects of someone else in order to really get in touch with people. Maybe you'll have to deal with Rosie for a while, but that's better than winding up with the wrong person, or getting a quick fix that ends up with something that makes Mr. Happy pretty sick.
BTW, my Mr. Happy is very consistantly happy now, thank you very much. Good things happen, I'm living proof.
This is rediculus. I found my wife when I weighed almost 700 lbs. If you're yourself, and you're honest, and you're not a neanderthal, and you have the attitude of finding a friend and someone that's going to be around your whole life instead of going out to "get laid" - you'll find someone, and it'll last.
In other words, I disagree.
I found my wife - totally by accident. We fell in love, got married, and we're here over six years later - almost five of them married - and more in love than ever.
Besides, here in Orange County, CA - we see homeless women all the time.
Trust me - if you come out of the "I wanna get laid" mentality and actually treat a woman as a human being, good things happen.
Not to sound like Dr. Phil, but you have to like who you are, and look beyond the physical aspects of someone else in order to really get in touch with people. Maybe you'll have to deal with Rosie for a while, but that's better than winding up with the wrong person, or getting a quick fix that ends up with something that makes Mr. Happy pretty sick.
BTW, my Mr. Happy is very consistantly happy now, thank you very much. Good things happen, I'm living proof.
On December 27, 2008 at 2:55 PM Pacific Time, Dave G. wrote:
Bah.This is rediculus. I found my wife when I weighed almost 700 lbs. If you're yourself, and you're honest, and you're not a neanderthal, and you have the attitude of finding a friend and someone that's going to be around your whole life instead of going out to "get laid" - you'll find someone, and it'll last.
In other words, I disagree.
I found my wife - totally by accident. We fell in love, got married, and we're here over six years later - almost five of them married - and more in love than ever.
Besides, here in Orange County, CA - we see homeless women all the time.
Trust me - if you come out of the "I wanna get laid" mentality and actually treat a woman as a human being, good things happen.
Not to sound like Dr. Phil, but you have to like who you are, and look beyond the physical aspects of someone else in order to really get in touch with people. Maybe you'll have to deal with Rosie for a while, but that's better than winding up with the wrong person, or getting a quick fix that ends up with something that makes Mr. Happy pretty sick.
BTW, my Mr. Happy is very consistantly happy now, thank you very much. Good things happen, I'm living proof.
(Font's are looking crowded...let's try Editor 2.)
There are still a lot of guys out there who get an abundance of "Amore," from one or more women. The ones I know, who are over 25 give me this impression. They:
1. are successful or athletic
2. are considerate and gentle
3. are affectionate, to some degree
4. strive for excellence in the sack
5. shower often
6. have or had consistent real-time access to women
7. And if they rush physical relations, say on the first or second date, they are very relaxed and confident with doing so.
There must be more?
Dave
I met my wife when I was around my lightest in the past 8 years or so at 360. I am now 418 I think, I haven't weighed myself in over a week. I find my wife to be very attractive. We had a very physical relationship from the getgo. We met in March of 2008, I proposed on July 4th and we were married on October 31st. The thing that will keep us married is that fact that we get eachother, we challenge eachothers minds, and we flat out appreciate eachother. We didn't settle, we actually loved one another. My wife has been very supportive of me through this whole process, hell if it wasn't for her insurance I wouldn't be able to get the surgery..
In the past before I met my wife, I totally settled. I'd use online dating and met tons of women that way. I gotta say, single mothers are the easiest lays in the world. Out of the 31 women I bagged, only about 3 or 4 of them I had to wait till after the first date for them to give it up. Sure its probably a little shallow of me but so what, I was having fun when I was young. There are only a few that I truely regret, (the girl with MS in a wheelchair was definately the most regretful) but hey if women are willing to give it up just to find comfort, even if its only for one night then why not go for it.
Those days are long behind me though, I'm a happily married man and realized that no matter how attractive a girl is, if you don't like her personallity and like her for her mind then it won't matter. My wife is smart as hell too, she has a BS in Psychology, a BS in Biology, and a Masters in Experimental Psychology. I work in the IT field, when we have kids they are going to be smart as hell.
In the past before I met my wife, I totally settled. I'd use online dating and met tons of women that way. I gotta say, single mothers are the easiest lays in the world. Out of the 31 women I bagged, only about 3 or 4 of them I had to wait till after the first date for them to give it up. Sure its probably a little shallow of me but so what, I was having fun when I was young. There are only a few that I truely regret, (the girl with MS in a wheelchair was definately the most regretful) but hey if women are willing to give it up just to find comfort, even if its only for one night then why not go for it.
Those days are long behind me though, I'm a happily married man and realized that no matter how attractive a girl is, if you don't like her personallity and like her for her mind then it won't matter. My wife is smart as hell too, she has a BS in Psychology, a BS in Biology, and a Masters in Experimental Psychology. I work in the IT field, when we have kids they are going to be smart as hell.
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