NEED HELP

OK GUYS I NEED MY AZZ KICKED I HAVE BACKED OUT OF HAVING RNY TWICE I AM SO SCARED OF THE  SURGERY AND WHAT LIFE POST OP WILL BE LIKE WHEN I DONT HAVE FOOD TO TURN TO WHEN IM STRESSED. I WEIGH 310 IM TYPE 2 DIABETIC TAKING INDUSTRIAL LOADS OF INSULIN .  I ALWAYS GET EXTREME ANIXETY WHEN I START THE TWO WEEK LIQUID DIET WHEN I SAY EXTRME I MEAN NOT SLEEPING CAN T CONCENTRATE AT WORK  OBSESS ON THE INTERNET ABOUT ALL THE BAD THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN. MY DOCTOR HAS PUT ME ON A ANTI DEPRESSENT BUT IT REALLY MAKES ME FEEL LIKE SH T.  I  HAVE TO HAVE THIS SURGERY. IF I CANCEL ONE MORE TIME IM SURE MY INSURANCE WILL TELL ME TO TAKE A HIKE ALONG WITH MY WIFE AND SHE DESERVES SO MUCH BETTER SHE HAS STOOD BY MY SIDE THROUGH ALL THIS. SORRY I KNOW IM ALL OVER THE PLACE WITH THIS POST . BUT ANYWAYS IM DONE FOR NOW  THANKS FOR LISTENING.

Let's answer it another way.  How long will a 310 pound diabetic live without WLS or major changes to his life?

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  It sounds like maybe you're not ready for WLS yet (psychologically) ..     At some point you'll realize that if you DON'T have the surgery you're going to die early (hopefully that's not before it's too late  ) ..  When that reality kicks in hard - to paraphrase Gen. George Patton - you'll know what to do.  

You are the only one who can make the decision to have the surgery.  No one can kick you ass into it.  You also have to hit bottom where you really don't have anywhere to turn.  I could have had it 2 years ago, but was afraid -- just not ready.  Wouldn't even consider it.  I hit bottom around March of '08 when I was on insulin with my blood sugar still running over 300; was on 3 blood pressure meds; at 424 + lbs., my legs would just give out on me and I would fall alot -- since they were so weak, I couldn't get up.  I had to crawl over to something and spend 5 to 10 minutes trying to pull myself up.  I was totally exhausted by the time I finally got up.  Going up stairs was totally out of the question, and even stepping up on a curb was hard.  I literally felt I was about to become bed-ridden and die!  Just getting dressed was a major effort.  But, I still couldn't stop eating.  My pastor is the one who finally talked to me about the surgery, as he had it back in the 90's.  I had made the decision, and my doctor required a 10% weight loss before surgery.  When the decision was the foremost in my mind, I did it!  Hell yeah, it was hard, but I wanted this more than anything.  After about 3 days on a liquid diet, it gets much easier.  This is to shrink your liver so they can work better inside you.  It helps in your surgery.  My surgery went extremely well.  You do have to find something else to turn to besides food.  You are changing your life!  What is more important, your life, your health, or food?  I know, a lot of times, it's food!  I am 54, and have always been fat, so this has been a great adjustment for me.  I went thru a slight depression in the beginning of my pre-op diet, because I didn't have the food to turn to.  But, I got through it, as you will.  You sound alot like me -- I want it all, but I don't want it to be hard or anything -- I don't want to have to put forth much effort, if any at all.   I have absolutely no regrets having the surgery, and never have.  When my family gets together for meals, it is so nice to concentrate on enjoying being with them, than the food, and how much I am able to eat.  Unless you are determined to succeed at any cost, and do whatever it takes to be compliant with the doctor and nutritionist's rules before and after surgery, DON'T DO IT!  Good luck with your decision.  Michael

 If all of us can do it, you can too. Most of us haven't had any really bad problems if any. It's a much safer surgery now than it used to be so I think you just have some jitters you need to talk out with yourself and your spouse and medical team and get it together and JUST HAVE THE FREAKIN' SURGERY ALREADY! How long do you want to stay fat? Good grief. You're having some irrational fears of the unknown. Like you don't really KNOW how it will all turn out but then again neither did any of us. We could've woke up dead as they say. But we didn't, we're still here doing relatively well. Except fritz, something got messed up in his brain I think they did a wrong surgery on him, but for MOST of us we remain normal just healthier. 

NOW JUST QUIT WHINING AND HAVE THE SURGERY! 


;-)

Having WLS is like quitting smoking in that you have to have your head committed to what you are about to do.  If you are not committed to working your Dr.'s program then don't have the RNY till you are ready - if ever. 

Backing out twice there is something, fear of the possible outcomes, you don't trust your Dr., afraid of life without your "best friend", that is holding you back.  I'd suggest you back off till you have worked out whatever is making you uncomortable. 

Thanks for your input guys im going to try and relax and work through what ever is holding me back. and move forward at a later date.

I sent you a personal contact about this but I read that many of them are not getting through.  I am naturally a very annxious person and I suffer from manic-depression.  Luckily, I am relatively calm in day to day living while on medication.  I was considered high risk when I had both of my RNYs ( I had a revision due to staple line disruption).  I weighed 571 and had a BMI in the mid 80s.

But I was calm when I went for both of my RNYs because I put my spiritual life in order.  I asked my friends and family to pray for me and put me on prayer lines.  I later found out that people accross the country were praying for me.  I was serene when I went for my surgeries.  I vividly remember having my family around me and we held hands and said the Lord's Prayer before I was taken down for my first RNY.  Note:  we don't usually pray like that.  Similarly, I prayed with my wife prior to my second RNY.

You may want to invoke the power of prayer to help you.  Bob