Sorry I'm Not A Guy... But I Have A Question

Building A Cocoon
on 1/15/09 11:42 am - South Central PA, PA
This is hard for me to ask and I really couldn't see myself asking it on the main board.

I dated a guy who was very heavy and there was an erectile issue that he attributed to weight. Since I hadn't dated a big guy before I took his word for it. We have since broke up and now I am being courted by another gentleman who is also pretty big. I was wondering if the issue the first guy mentioned was common. It wasn't that there was no erection just limited. Bottom half. 

If anyone doesn't feel comfortable answering here a private message would be appreciated.

I apologize for entering and posting in the man cave. I just had a legit question. Thanks for those who take the time to answer.
ignacio
on 1/15/09 11:48 am
how big was he
Building A Cocoon
on 1/15/09 12:02 pm - South Central PA, PA
He said 320 but I think he was more like 350+ and only about 5'7.
Batwingsman
on 1/20/09 4:49 pm, edited 1/20/09 4:51 pm - Garland, TX
 Well, if he was over 12", that could be a problem ..   (oh, you meant "weight"!  )   

  I don't understand what you mean by "bottom half" ..   are you saying that only the lower 1/2 of Mr. Happy "got happy"?   If so, I'd say that's more a congenital or mechanical injury type problem with Mr. Big than run-of-the-mill bigger, older, diabetic, sleep apnea, or high b..p, etc. -related ED.  If that's the case, nothing may be able to help him (if surgery won't).   

  And, in regard to common ED, those conditions I just mentioned can all contribute to ED ..  as well as being on medications for them (or even anti-depressants) ..    

   btw, AOL News did an article last week about the most common "erection stealers" or some such.  I don't have it saved on this computer but on my one at work.  I'll post it here when I get to that computer next time.  

  Take hard  ..  errr heart, though ..  even the worst ED cases as far as drugs not being able to help can still be overcome with the use of a vacuum pump for that purpose when "the mood is right", which can be prescribed by a medical doctor (or picked up at your nearest adult toy store  )     



  

 

Frank talk about the DS / "All I ever wanted to be was thin, like that Rolling Stones dude ... "

HW/461 LW/251 GW/189 CW/274 (yep, a DS semi-failure - it happens :-( )

Tenorwb
on 1/15/09 7:34 pm, edited 1/15/09 7:34 pm - NJ
There is clinical evidence indicating that Successful WLS can result in the improvement or resolution of E.D. in men.    The article below indicates that obesity itself can be a prime cause of E.D.    The nice thing about WLS is that it not only reduces the excess weight that can be preventing a full erection, but it also helps resolve the comorbid conditions - diabetes, hypertension, etc.  that can contribute to E.D.

Below is one article on this.  I suggest you discuss this with your new guy if you are at that point in the relationship.
 

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May 22, 2008 (Orlando, Florida) — Losing weight can help resolve erectile dysfunction in obese men, according to findings presented here at the American Urological Association (AUA) 2008 Annual Meeting.

Morbid obesity can cause sexual dysfunction independent of other common confounders, including diabetes, hypertension, and smoking. In this study, from researchers in Boston and Philadelphia, sexual function was normalized in some men who underwent gastric bypass surgery for weight loss.

"This study shows that weight loss and other risk factors that are alleviated by weight loss may be keys to restoring sexual function," said Anthony Y. Smith, MD, from the University of New Mexico, in Albuquerque, a member of the AUA Public Media Committee who was not involved with the presentation. "These results give men another reason to improve their health by losing weight."

Gastric bypass surgery, a procedure that reduces the body's caloric intake, can be used to induce significant weight loss in the obese. Calorie reduction is accomplished by making the stomach smaller and bypassing part of the stomach and small intestines so that fewer calories are absorbed. The patient feels full faster and learns to reduce the amount of food eaten.

In the study, 95 patients undergoing gastric bypass surgery for weight loss completed the Brief Sexual Inventory (BSI) pre- and postoperatively. The mean age of the group was 47.9 years (ranger, 19–70 years) and the mean body mass index was 51.2 kg/m2 (range, 36–89 kg/m2). No one in the group was taking a phosphodiesterase type 5 inhibitor.

On average, after a mean postoperative follow-up of 19 months (range, 2–45 months), BSI scores improved in all areas (P < .0005): sexual-drive scores (range, 0–8) rose from 3.9 ± 0.3 to 5.4 ± 0.3; erectile-function scores (range, 0–12) rose from 6.3 ± 0.5 to 8.9 ± 0.5; ejaculatory-function scores (range, 0–8) rose from 4.9 ± 0.4 to 6.3 ± 0.4; problem-assessment scores (range, 0–12) rose from 7.4 ± 0.5 to 9.5 ± 0.6; and sexual-satisfaction scores (range, 0–4) rose from 1.6 ± 0.2 to 2.2 ± 0.2. The amount of weight lost predicted the degree of improvement in all areas of the survey (P < .002). Age and the presence of diabetes, hypertension, and smoking were all controlled for.

These data were compared with data from the Olmstead County Study of Urinary Health Status Survey, a community-based prospective study often used as a baseline for study comparison. After an average postbypass weight loss of 67%, BSI scores were comparable to those of patients in the Olmstead study.

"The findings were remarkable,'' Ramsey Dallal, MD, director of Einstein Bariatrics in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, told Medscape Urology. "First, the amount of sexual dysfunction in morbidly obese men was rather profound. And surprisingly, it's quite reversible. For most patients, they can obtain the same sexual function as a normal matched-age male."

The researchers have disclosed no relevant financial relationships.

American Urological Association (AUA) 2008 Annual Meeting: Abstract 1178. Presented May 19, 2008.


www.medscape.com/viewarticle/574898 

Peace,

William

To teach something is to have it.  To have something you must be it.   Teach peace, for that is what you are. 
To listen to me sing:   www.youtube.com/watch

Building A Cocoon
on 1/16/09 12:32 am - South Central PA, PA
Thank you for taking the time to reply. This helps but I don't think this guy has any intention on having any sort of WLS. Nor did the first.
Tenorwb
on 1/16/09 3:25 am - NJ
Remember, being obese and having significant comorbids can increase the likelihood of E.D.    It will not guarantee it.   If this guy is worth the effort, talk to him about it.  Keep in mind this is about them and not You!   The first guy had a medical condition.  It has nothing to do with your desirability as a woman.

Peace,

William

To teach something is to have it.  To have something you must be it.   Teach peace, for that is what you are. 
To listen to me sing:   www.youtube.com/watch

Building A Cocoon
on 1/16/09 4:23 am - South Central PA, PA
Thanks William you're awesome.
Tenorwb
on 1/16/09 7:25 pm - NJ
You're welcome.

To teach something is to have it.  To have something you must be it.   Teach peace, for that is what you are. 
To listen to me sing:   www.youtube.com/watch

Daves-an-RN
on 1/16/09 4:18 am - Sycamore, IL


I didn't have any problems at 485 lbs, and I feel like a teenager again now that I am down to 425ish.

I guess each person is different.
Start Wt.:485
Surgical Date: 12/10/08 Open RNY
Goal Wt: 275
Present Wt: 224 LBS!!!!!!!

Ya, thats right, Im UNDER MY GOAL BY 50LBS!!
WOO HOO!!!!!!!


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