Need a mans advice!
Married 30 years and no kids ??? 
Errr, Bob .. u're not like some kind of "radical priest" or somethin', are you?
(just call ME the "monk w/o a cause"
)
Errr, Bob .. u're not like some kind of "radical priest" or somethin', are you?
(just call ME the "monk w/o a cause"
) Frank talk about the DS / "All I ever wanted to be was thin, like that Rolling Stones dude ... "
HW/461 LW/251 GW/189 CW/274 (yep, a DS semi-failure - it happens :-( )
In reply to batwingsman, I think your comments are rude. I couldn't say the same thing to my father when he asked me after 10 years of marriage why I didn't have any children. I told him it wasn't from lack of trying. And, I also told him to ask 2 of his older brothers why they never had any children during 50 years of marriage. My wife and I just accepted what God did not give us.
Years later, when I was in the throes of manic-depression without proper treatment, my wife said she was glad we hadn't had kids or she would have left me. I know she loves me dearly, but dealing with me when I wasn't getting proper meds nor therapy had to be very difficult for her. Now, we can look back at those times and consider not having children a blessing in our case. By the way, one of my uncles who didn't have children had mild manic-depression. He had a sister who was full blown but she lived far away. My dad realized that his brother was manic-depressive when he observed me.
By the way, I do know that the PC term is now bi-polar, but I prefer to use the term manic-depressive. In my case, manic means being about as happy as a "normal" person and I'm rarely at that point. I'm usually feeling OK. Luckily, I now have a shrink who is satisfied with that. I had a previous one who thought there was something wrong if I wasn't happier. He'd get me a little depressed just thinking about that.
I do know men on this board who are divorced partially due to their mental problems and their wives' inability to deal with them with those problems. Bob
Years later, when I was in the throes of manic-depression without proper treatment, my wife said she was glad we hadn't had kids or she would have left me. I know she loves me dearly, but dealing with me when I wasn't getting proper meds nor therapy had to be very difficult for her. Now, we can look back at those times and consider not having children a blessing in our case. By the way, one of my uncles who didn't have children had mild manic-depression. He had a sister who was full blown but she lived far away. My dad realized that his brother was manic-depressive when he observed me.
By the way, I do know that the PC term is now bi-polar, but I prefer to use the term manic-depressive. In my case, manic means being about as happy as a "normal" person and I'm rarely at that point. I'm usually feeling OK. Luckily, I now have a shrink who is satisfied with that. I had a previous one who thought there was something wrong if I wasn't happier. He'd get me a little depressed just thinking about that.
I do know men on this board who are divorced partially due to their mental problems and their wives' inability to deal with them with those problems. Bob
ok here is the real deal. i never had a dad. i was raised by a single mom. when i was a kid she found my porn mags. we had nevr had that talk. like all of us know by the time the talk comes we already know all about it. now i never got weird about anything with my mom. one thing she said stands out. this is not how sex really is. sex is sex all girls have the same thing between there legs it all feels the same give or take but making love is special and if you think sex would be great and like the porn sorry but its not cause sex is over rated but making love is is a gift from God. there is no money shot cause you just want to cuddle with them all night after. i never relised that until i met my x cause i really loved her and it was nothing like i had ever had. but it really is normal. its better he is looking a porn than banging the 1 year old nextstore then you have a grandkid to raise
My .02
When I was that age is wasn't so much the porn that I was interested in as the woman's body. Watching the hardcore stuff wasn't the interest as much as that was the only way to see naked women. I LOVED the female form, still do. Playboy (at that time, it may be different now been a long time since I looked) was the only way to see nude women by themselves, the rest always had some guy involved and after the initial interest in comparing my penis to other men to make sure I was up to standard, seeing a naked guy kinda made me sick to my stomach.
Maybe if you made that more available, say lingerie catalogs, and as others have said frequent open talks about sex to take the mystery away he might turn out alright.
When I was that age is wasn't so much the porn that I was interested in as the woman's body. Watching the hardcore stuff wasn't the interest as much as that was the only way to see naked women. I LOVED the female form, still do. Playboy (at that time, it may be different now been a long time since I looked) was the only way to see nude women by themselves, the rest always had some guy involved and after the initial interest in comparing my penis to other men to make sure I was up to standard, seeing a naked guy kinda made me sick to my stomach.
Maybe if you made that more available, say lingerie catalogs, and as others have said frequent open talks about sex to take the mystery away he might turn out alright.
Seems like you gotta a lot of hits on this subject. Whether its lusting after the neighbor, viewing *****r dating ****s it is part of the maturing process.
A good male mentor, a lot of info on diseases, group activities, hard work , sports activities tends to kick down the testosterone levels.
Masterbation is just as natural as copulating. We still frown on public displays of both unless you're a monkey. After all if sex did'nt have a great reward, it would very hard to populate a species
Counseling with a minister trained in this area will be a big help.
No shame, no pain, no tears, just a lot of information overload.
good luck
A good male mentor, a lot of info on diseases, group activities, hard work , sports activities tends to kick down the testosterone levels.
Masterbation is just as natural as copulating. We still frown on public displays of both unless you're a monkey. After all if sex did'nt have a great reward, it would very hard to populate a species
Counseling with a minister trained in this area will be a big help.
No shame, no pain, no tears, just a lot of information overload.
good luck
Speaking of which (public masturbation), did anyone else see that wacky news item on Fox News earlier this week? They caught that 51 y.o. guy in some store parking lot, getting it on with two blow-up dolls in his car in public view. 
He was apparently some kind of exhibitionist, b/c he was gesturing at people to watch him in action, that were walking and driving by. Someone finally called the cops on him and they came along and arrested him. When interrogated, he said he had driven the dolls there b/c he was going to buy them some clothes at the store. 
(and here I find it SO embarrasing whenever I have to take "Betty" to Discount Tire just for a patch job!
)
He was apparently some kind of exhibitionist, b/c he was gesturing at people to watch him in action, that were walking and driving by. Someone finally called the cops on him and they came along and arrested him. When interrogated, he said he had driven the dolls there b/c he was going to buy them some clothes at the store. (and here I find it SO embarrasing whenever I have to take "Betty" to Discount Tire just for a patch job!
) Frank talk about the DS / "All I ever wanted to be was thin, like that Rolling Stones dude ... "
HW/461 LW/251 GW/189 CW/274 (yep, a DS semi-failure - it happens :-( )
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