Is It So Wrong? - I Ask You Guys

 As many of your may have experienced who have gone to your local WLS support group meetings, the # of attendees usually very much favors the ladies and not the gents.         In fact, in some local groups I've been the ONLY guy there ..   

  Unfortunately, I've made the mistake (apparently) in the past of mentioning away from the group that I might hope to meet some nice, single fellow post-op gal sometime at one of those meetings.    Upon making that disclosure, though, I have promptly been assailed (usually by females but of late even by other guys) about this notion, been told that WLS support meetings are only supposed to be FOR that express purpose, etc. etc.        Basically, I'm being made to feel like the nutjob "stalker" or some such wacko for going to such meetings without blinders on, or without being single-minded in purpose (no pun intended) and not wearing my "post-op hat".  

  Given, some of the ladies I've met at these meeting I don't think I'd exactly take home to meet the parents (if they were still around, that is) nor are they exactly great beauties, but is it so wrong to hold out hope that I might just happen to run into my "soul-mate" at one such gathering some day, just like could happen at any other function where people get together?   Should I check my emotions at the door?  

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 They probably look at it like the 12th step...trying to pick up women at an AA meeting. I would just go about your business and not say a thing about your intentions...

Hey Batwing...You asked, so I'll share what I see.  It seems you like to post some really strange stuff on the Main Forum and on here.  I will say some of it is "creapy"...almost to try and get some type of reaction.  You never have posted a photo or real info on your profile...yes, we know you're an attorney and want your privacy.  Some believe you've changed your profile from someone else (who posted the same type of stuff) a year or two ago.  I would just enjoy the support groups...Enjoy and learn...be a support (esp to the guys).  The relationships should take care of themselves.  Don't "look to date"...just look for friendships.  Just my thoughts.  Brian  PS  Try and find someone to help you with social skills if that is a problem.  Many of us had social problems pre WLS...It's hard to know how to act and respond in social setting as as skinny person. 

I don't know much about dating these days as I've been happily married for almost 35 years.  But, my brother got divorced about 7 years ago and he finds his dates from online dating services that are limited to professionals.  He even ended up dating a few professors from his own university.  His biggest problem is that he's a good "catch" who has no intention of getting married after getting burned with a divorce.  His wife was cheating on him and he still has to pay her alimony for a couple more years.  Luckily, his youngest son will be 21 this summer altough he's still in college.

So, my advice would be to look for dating services set up for attorneys or other professionals.

I personally don't think there is anything wrong with meeting someone at the support group.  After going through a failed marriage, I have realized that it really helps to be married to someone that has been through some of the same experiences and that you have some things in common.  I am engaged now.  We did meet at a gastric bypass support group.  I was pre-op and was there for support, I wasn't there to meet women.  My relationship happened by chance.  Neither of us planned for is, but she was my angel and we spent a lot of time with each other and it just happened.  She had gastric bypass a couple months before I did, so she basically walked me through the process. 

In my personal opinion, which may somewhat be judgemental (if so, I apologize), but I would think if you are going there to get support and offer support for WLSers, then continue, but if you are going there specifically to find a date, then you may have more luck in the Singles Forum here on this site.....

That is just my opinion. 

Thanks, Trent  (and everyone else - well, mostly)  ..  Sounds like things worked out great for you two ..      

  I guess I'll just plug ahead ..  who knows, maybe it will just happen out of the blue when I least expect it  ..  albeit after 47 years .. 

I agree with Cabin, you are creepy most of the time and your questions and comments are always on the fringe.  Either you need some serious help or you are playing us to get reactions.

haha.  I haven't been around long enough to see the creepiness I guess, but it is a little funny for me to sit here and read the posts about Batwings being creepy.  I don't know why, maybe I'm just bored to tears right now. 

Actually, Trent, I was gonna point out that a few of our MFers have a little too much time on their hands, apparently  ..      (like taking and posting a pic of themselves holding a rubber chicken and looking totally goofy   )     GMTA ..   !