OT - Too Much Of a "Momma's Boy"?

O.K.    A few guys were giving me "creepy" trash talk earlier in another thread ...     

 So, I would ask, what do you fellas think about THIS issue, and I admit it gives ME the crreeps, personally.  


  Yesterday I was talking with my law partner in his office about a client's matter.  At some point, the discussion got around to some small talk, when he began talking about the gold wedding band that he wears.   I had thought his ring looked a liitle "different" in some way for a guy's standard wedding ring, but never said anything about it before then.   

   I had also known that my law partner was quite close to his mother while she was alive.   She passed away a couple of years ago relatively young and unexpectedly of brain cancer.  I heard he came back from her funeral (out of state) very deeply affected by the loss.   In his office he still has one of the plants that was given by a well-wisher at her funeral.   (it seems to not be doing very well, btw.   I have tried to water it before, but it's like he doesn't want anyone to  ).

    Anyway, back to the ring.   My law partner (I'll just call him "John" here) pointed out that the ring was actually his mother's wedding ring.       When she died, rather than his dad take it after it was taken from her hand, they agreed that John could have it and wear it (btw, John is very close to his dad, as well).  John paid to have a jeweler remove the diamond and clasp from the wedding ring, fill in the holes left in it with fresh gold, and had that area ground and buffed out.  He took the diamond which was removed and had it mounted in a dainty necklace for a pendant.  His wife wears that piece of jewelry around her own neck.  He took the wedding ring  his wife put on him at their wedding and gave it to their oldest daughter (a college student), who wears it around her thumb.   

   So, to sum up, John, is wearing his late mom's wedding ring band, his daughter is wearing John'[s wedding ring, and John's wife is wearing the stone out of John's mom's wedding ring.     (btw, yes, his mother had a large ring finger!)

  To me, this seems a little TOO extreme, but maybe that's nothing unusual these days    



   
   

I am a pretty sentimental person and could certainly understand why someone would want to keep their mothers wedding ring.  If it were me, I would probably find a safe place to keep it, but they decided to redesign it to wear each of them (he and his wife) could wear a piece of it.  I think it is pretty cool. 

I can understand why you would think it is a little creepy, but I don't really see the creepiness in it. 

I called your questions creepy and you made fun of my rubber chicken ... I think we are even.

I think it's a nice sentiment, but I think he should be wearing it on his other hand and still be wearing his wedding ring.  But this is America so we can each do as we want too.

Have a great weekend.

 The biggest obstacle is usually that the wife protests to anything gesture like this that involves the mother. Men are beginning to adopt similar lines of thinking. 

 Wow! Typos. Suffice it to say, he's fortuntate to have a wife who doesn't see his mother as a rival. Men are forced to turn it into an "either-or" situation. "Either your mother or me."  And a lot of men have bought into this and other "romantic" ideals, perhaps out of practical necessity. 

Call me jaded. I think of anything romantic as being left overs from the dowery days.

He should be wearing the Mom's ring on his right hand and his wife's on the left.  But if that is the way he honors his mam well it is his business.

 I would've just pawned the damn thing. Not like she cares, she's eating dirt.

It is not creepy. However he should have kept his weddling ring.

My wife gave me the wedding band I wear a symbol of her love and she wears the one I gave the same way.

She has worn her fathers wedding band on her right thumb even before he died and I have never had a problem with it. If she would have stopped wearing the one I gave her and had his sized down to wear instead, I would have a problem with it.

These symbols are suppose to mean some thing. Just like a mans word and a hand shake, it's suppose to mean some thing.

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