Remind me again why I should not venture onto the main board

I've found myself going over to the Main Forum on a daily basis lately because I have some good info to share.  When I find someone who is struggling post op, I give info on my struggle with a 40 year addiction to carb and junk foods.  I couldn't shake my addictions despite seeking out just about every therapy I could find.  RNY worked on my body but not on my mind.

A behavioral therapist who ia a food addict in remission suggested that I get the Beck's Diet Solution.  Beck's is a course of strategies dealing with food and life and will work with any nutritious diet.  Using Beck's, I have been free of my addictions since 01-29-09.

This is info that I can share in a positive manner without being judgemental.  I'm sure that anyone who is spinning out of control and posts on any OH forum knows that they have a problem.  They are probably looking for help and not for sympathy.  They are probably beating themselves up in the best way they know how by abusing themselves with food.  I refuse to beat them when they are down  because I was there for years.  Anyone with any kind of addiction knows the hell they are facing and the seeming hopelessness of the situation.


Overall, I've learned to be careful when I respond to issues on the Main Forum.  I realize that a lot of topics simply don't concern me and I don't respond to them.  I even made a post about that last week that was read by hundreds of people and no one was dumb enough to make any comment about it.

Keep coming here itf it helps you.  You can look over at the Main Forum and occasionally post that our Forum simply exists and show how to get here:  www.obesityhelp.com/forums/men/ .   You occasionally see men posting there who are new to OH and probably don't know that we even have a forum.  I think most of the men on our forum were probably in OH for a few months before they found out about the Men's Forum.  Bob

I go the the NY board frequently and have to say there are so many great women with so much advice and they are so supportive of everyone.  For a guy though, the locker room attitude of "you F'd up, here's some ideas of how to get back on track is some much more beneficial.

JIm

I eat chocolate cake and have gained weight but I don't post about it.  I try to hide from it.  She probably did the right by making herself accountable and you did the right thing by slapping the back of her head.  The third party (jail house lawyer) is always a pain in the ass to deal with!

 Hey Wait, aren't we supposed to be able to eat chocolate cake several years out? My post op regimen has been reduced to a lot of fiber filled foods and then whatever else I feel like eating!