Is this forum available to women to ask Q's about marriage to get your prospective?
No, it's not okay. The men have been extremely gentle in their responses to you. I'd suggest that you discuss this with a minister either alone or with your husband. Or, go see a marriage counselor. I took my wife with me once to se a psychologist I was seeing at the time. He was able to look at our situation objectively, ask us a few questions, and resolve our differences in one session. It may take you a little longer that that, but it is a good way to go. We were already married about 10 years at the time and will be celebratring our 35th anniversary this year. Bob